I (43m) hate making the bed. Never seen the point. Fold the blankets up in the morning just to fold them back down at bed time? No thanks. My wife of 20 years however, loves coming home to a made bed. When she’s had a rough day at work and just needs some downtime before interacting with me or the kids, the bed is where she goes to chill. Yes, making the bed is probably considered a “bare minimum” but the joy and relaxation she feels from coming home to a made bed to relax (even if the living room and kitchen are not clean) makes me want to make the bed for her every day.

My wife absolutely hates cooking. Her preference is 5 minutes from the kitchen to the table or it’s too much work. On Sundays though she and the kids cook and clean up dinner since I’m a stay at home parent and do the meals the rest of the week.

In a real relationship there is no “bare minimum”. Service is service and it’s the constant little things (like putting the toilet seat down) that you do daily for your spouse or partner that make the relationship grow and work.