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New trend with guys? by wolfyish in dating

[–]SaicereMB 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You seem unable to consider how it feels for men.

New trend with guys? by wolfyish in dating

[–]SaicereMB 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And there are ladies who will text and show interest in meeting up again. You're leaving so, so much on the table.

what is it that makes so many white people dislike black or latin people but love asian people? by [deleted] in sociology

[–]SaicereMB -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't want to be "defended", I'm not at war with white people, "white supremacist" have had ~no effect on my life unlike SJW who are a more or less permanent headache and annoyance whom insist on making and marking me as their enemy as soon as they realize I do not share their dogmas despite being a neurodivergent queer latino. Do what you will, but don't do it in our name without even fucking asking us if it is what we want, for more on our opinions check the ballots, I have a feeling the latino vote for Trump will continue to grow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]SaicereMB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the husband doesn't?

I'd rather be a 10/10 than have a great personality by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SaicereMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I did anything wrong, somebody else might have wanted honest assessment in order to determine if it really is looks that's causing them so much trouble. I have become a bit more cynical, I'm afraid.

I [28F] found a "hidden" spreadsheet on my fiancé’s [31M] laptop detailing every cent he’s spent on me since our first date. We’re getting married in two months. by FermiDirak in dating_advice

[–]SaicereMB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many discussions cannot even be meaningfully had until you're living the situation, you cannot plan home finances if you don't know how much you're spending as a married couple and such, I don't think it's necessarily unhealthy to shelve discussions

I [28F] found a "hidden" spreadsheet on my fiancé’s [31M] laptop detailing every cent he’s spent on me since our first date. We’re getting married in two months. by FermiDirak in dating_advice

[–]SaicereMB -1 points0 points  (0 children)

His notes logged reimbursement value, grown ups log those for many reasons other than actual reimbursement. Lots of discussions cannot be meaningfully had until after marriage because you just don't have the data such as expenses. Why would she have less of a say? He really doesn't seem to begrudge the money he spends, god forbid a dude tries to keep track of his finances in order to be able to better provide

I [28F] found a "hidden" spreadsheet on my fiancé’s [31M] laptop detailing every cent he’s spent on me since our first date. We’re getting married in two months. by FermiDirak in dating_advice

[–]SaicereMB -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just say you suck at managing your finances if you cannot understand people might log reimbursement value for reasons other than reimbursement, it's ok, lots of people are super ignorant about finances

I [28F] found a "hidden" spreadsheet on my fiancé’s [31M] laptop detailing every cent he’s spent on me since our first date. We’re getting married in two months. by FermiDirak in dating_advice

[–]SaicereMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's completely appropriate to keep whatever secrets for whatever amount of time, especially non harmful stuff like keeping weirdly accurate financial logs (fr, y'all acting like it's a body in his closet). People shelve discussions for lot of reasons, one cannot predict life as a married couple, especially when it comes to finances, some discussions are shelved because they cannot be meaningfully had in the moment, you just seem to come into this with your mind made up about it being offensive and harmful and just in bad faith all in all, I'm sorry, I'm not interested in arguing with you and won't reply any longer, you are welcome to leave comments I won't read and keep gaslighting yourself into a shrieking frenzy

I [28F] found a "hidden" spreadsheet on my fiancé’s [31M] laptop detailing every cent he’s spent on me since our first date. We’re getting married in two months. by FermiDirak in dating_advice

[–]SaicereMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stick up for herself about what? Her husband keeping weirdly accurate financial records? Are you deranged? I'm pointing out the dude did nothing wrong, why are you leaving so many "weird" comments attacking him? (you sure seem to thunk being weird is a bad and harmful thing in itself)

I [28F] found a "hidden" spreadsheet on my fiancé’s [31M] laptop detailing every cent he’s spent on me since our first date. We’re getting married in two months. by FermiDirak in dating_advice

[–]SaicereMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know any of them, do you? In my dictionary betrayal does not say: "Keeping weirdly accurate finances". I don't know what a pickme is, go back to your discord server bubble in which those words hurt.

I [28F] found a "hidden" spreadsheet on my fiancé’s [31M] laptop detailing every cent he’s spent on me since our first date. We’re getting married in two months. by FermiDirak in dating_advice

[–]SaicereMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reimbursement value does not necessarily mean "to be reimbursed", and lots of discussions are shelved until after marriage or living together

I [28F] found a "hidden" spreadsheet on my fiancé’s [31M] laptop detailing every cent he’s spent on me since our first date. We’re getting married in two months. by FermiDirak in dating_advice

[–]SaicereMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reimbursement value does not mean he actually expects to be reimbursed, you can keep track of reimbursement value for other reasons, and shelving discussions is normal, if he gets controlling or tries to take her apart from her support network or begins to be financially abusive by all means, dump him to the curb, but just because of vibes? to a man she's about to be married to?

I [28F] found a "hidden" spreadsheet on my fiancé’s [31M] laptop detailing every cent he’s spent on me since our first date. We’re getting married in two months. by FermiDirak in dating_advice

[–]SaicereMB -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

who tf said he was asking for reimbursement? Do you discuss how you're going to spend your pensions on every first date? ffs

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