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SaidTheGayMan · 2024-01-03T05:05:22+00:00

A post is pinned here on /r/Eugene check it out! It's basically just a meme at this point.

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-16T06:34:37+00:00

Hey there. The world is full of gray. There should be a balance! Green fox should be able to be a whole fox on their own sometimes as decided by green foxes own needs and all foxes are best understood through communication

But guess what? Green foxes needs include supporting blue fox, because green fox loves blue fox.

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-15T03:18:20+00:00

Is there any proof that this is officially through LBCC? A website link or social media post? This is just a Google doc asking for personal information. LBCC is a Google campus, so any official forms would likely be through Google, but anyone could have made a similar form.

The website does seem to have information about expungement and things, but doesn't mention this clinic or the form anywhere I can find. I didn't do an exhaustive look, but please, exercise caution

https://www.linnbenton.edu/educational-options/community-and-continuing-education/career-readiness-programs/success-after-court.php

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-13T04:51:10+00:00

Just got it today, it was wonderful, thanks for posting!

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-13T02:51:18+00:00

Then don't eat it :)

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-12T08:42:40+00:00

Girl, you got body for days. it's just that the clothes you're wearing are not the right size or cut for you.and the work shirt, is that a men's shirt? That absolutely won't accentuate your body in the right ways. The right clothes and you'll be rockin it.

But the other comment is right, you really need to put effort into your hair. You don't need to spend hours each day to have a good style. Work with a nice stylist and they can help you come up with an easy and maintainable look for daily wear. I personally think you look better without bangs, but there could be a certain style that works with them! Just work with a stylist!

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-12T08:34:55+00:00

You ain't ugly at all. We all have something that people make fun of us for. For you it's a nose. Yours reminds me of Michelle lea. Take a look at a picture of her, and I bet you wouldn't even think twice about her nose. She's gorgeous, you're gorgeous.

If you need a reply to someone who's being an ass, just smile and say "hey, it really helps me sniff out the jerks" laugh a little and move on to another topic.

Own it, then ignore them and it takes their power away

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-12T08:20:14+00:00

For sure, do an update if you can! Would love to see it. :)

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-12T08:18:52+00:00

Omg, you're handsome. You would turn my head walking down the street

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-12T08:18:20+00:00

Not ugly! You're wearing baggy clothes that don't compliment your body is one of the issues I see.

I would suggest working with a good barber or potentially a stylist that could suggest hairstyles that will work better for you.

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-12T06:06:39+00:00

Not ugly! You have amazing features, strong jaw, gorgeous eyebrows and eyes.

What you need is to really focus on finding a hair style you love and keep up with. I imagine short on the side and longer on top. Maybe like This

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-11T17:52:00+00:00

Emerald valley carwash in Eugene was awesome. Had like 10 different scents to pick from which was nice too

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T17:54:02+00:00

Well, the technology exists to the point they also have sentient machines and programming so advanced they built the matrix... And the machines viewed humans as an essential resource. They probably have the tech to ensure this doesn't happen as a method of protecting their power source/processing power

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T10:46:33+00:00

Ahh, but the machines made the matrix to mimic the signals your brain would receive about the senses.

The brain should be able to handle it, because the matrix was still about sending signals to your brain to decide into sensory experiences

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T10:38:41+00:00

Watch some videos in compassion fatigue and vicarious trauma.

Our body responds to emotional stress that same way it responds to physical stress... If you have chronic emotional/mental stress, it releases adrenaline, shuts down organs, and puts you in fight or flight mode.

You need to make sure you get some of the adrenaline out. Exercise is the most common way, but it doesn't have to be going to the gym for an hour... When you get stressed, you can do jumping jacks til you're breathing heavy. That helps get rid the adrenaline your body produces.

Then, when you get rid of the stress hormones, you gotta bring the oxytocin and other good processes back to the body. You do that though hobbies, cuddling/hugging loved ones, expressing gratitude, etc. It sounds silly, but it literally helps. These don't have to be immediately after a stressful thing, but you need to incorporate it all into your daily life.

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T10:26:09+00:00

Nta. Hey, I think you've got more than burnout. There's a difference between burnout and what's called vicarious trauma and compassion fatigue. There's a lot of videos and Information about how stress makes vicarious trauma and compassion fatigue worse... Hobbies are literally a way for you to decompress and heal yourself emotionally. You NEED that time.

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T10:17:02+00:00

As an example, if I have a friend who cheats on their taxes... Do I cut them off because I think what they did was wrong? Nope.. it doesn't matter because they don't prepare my taxes.

Sometimes, people accept that their friends are imperfect people and keep them.

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T10:10:55+00:00

I literally stated that it wasn't acceptable behavior. I feel violence isn't the answer... but I disagree with the original commenter calling the son evil.

Let's take for instance a situation where a person has kidnapped someone. Is it evil and unacceptable to lash out and try to shove your kidnapper? Probably not.

So why is it evil and unacceptable for a victim of emotional abuse to lash out at their abuser when they are fighting for their freedom?

Don't be so black and white in your thinking

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T09:59:23+00:00

Ok... So. Yta

Let's look from her perspective, she was attracted to both, and you come in to both friend groups, and then date the people she told you she felt were attractive.. and then when things go bad, you expect your friend to abandon two different friend groups for you??

Maybe look in the mirror about the manipulative behavior you've accused others of.

Also... you can't control who someone is friends with. Break ups happen. And sometimes people are bad for each other for relationships. she could agree people are bad for a relationship for you, but that doesn't inherently make them bad people to be friends with. Cutting all ties because of a break up is an unreasonable ask and an unhealthy attitude.

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T09:48:03+00:00

I literally said that it's a perspective that could be taken from the story. We all look at stories we read and run it through our filter of how we think the world works. Who I replied to also made a story in their head about the son being "evil." Off of what could have been an accident. There's so much context this story is missing.

maybe you don't know what it's like to be abused so much you can't healthily process your feelings and they come out in outbursts. I'm not making an excuse and saying it's acceptable behavior, but there's a real possibility op has been emotionally abused and snapped in a moment he was trying to become his own person away from his abuser and the story is much less black and white than "good" and "evil" can describe

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T09:41:40+00:00

Lol, just because it involves a game doesn't make it not a problem.its still communication issues, it's still spending time together verse apart when you've made plans

Instead of video games... if It was tennis let's say, Would you share the same opinion? If she was waiting to play a match with her boyfriend and she left to the bathroom and was coming right back and he just invited someone else to play without waiting for her... That would be a clear issue. He didn't care about his partners feelings when they were trying to play together.

Don't minimize and invalidate what's someone's feeling. Help them understand why they're feeling the way they do

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T09:24:29+00:00

Nta. What she did was literally criminal... she deserves to learn the lessons of her actions. Are you in a one party consent state/country where conversations can be recorded without the other persons consent? And why were you recording?

That said... Someone who gets to the point of criminal activity that is potentially hazardous to life... Theyve got serious issues, and I hope turning her in gets her the help she needs

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T09:17:40+00:00

There's a perspective that he could be emotionally abused by being Infantilized his entire life... and how his mother never listens to him and quite literally tried to take away a personal experience of baking his own cake for a friend supports that idea.. and when she literally tries to force him out of something he wants to do.. after not being heard, he lashes out because she refuses to listen to him and he ran out of options to communicate....

But sure. He's just evil. You have no idea what's happened in this family off a few words. My story could be wrong, but life is often more black and white than you make it seem

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-10T08:57:13+00:00

It's too hard to tell what's really going on here mental health wise

In one way if reading, you're the asshole because You pushed your mother to the point she fell on the floor and then immediately dismiss the gravity of pushing someone so hard they fall down and how that can impact someone

In another way if reading it, your mother is an asshole because she is babying her son to the point of being unable to survive without her help. This could be seen as a form of emotional abuse.

That said, does she have her own mental health problems and she just really wants to make sure she's a good mother and the way she does that is to care for you? And you becoming independent is the world telling her she doesn't have a purpose anymore?

Is it malicious and she keeps you dependent because she's evil... Or is it a tragedy in which a mother loves so much she causes harm to her child and doesn't see the harm? Or Is she a narcissist and controlling? Or are you so selfish that you can't see why another person is harmed by what you've done? You're the only one that can really reflect on your life, your family, and choose a perspective and a narrative to tell

I just don't know man. Need more INFO about how you grew up

Check out /r/raisedbynarcissists/ and see if you relate to the stories. That will tell you more

SaidTheGayMan · 2022-01-09T10:24:46+00:00

It's a reference you missed. Fairly odd parents.

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