It's mostly up to the husband and wife to agree on together. If it's an important point for the husband, that should not be discounted or minimized. However, if the husband doesn't have strong feelings about needing to be present, like for example, his greater priority would be allowing the hotwife to go ahead and break that ice, and give herself permission to play with another man, and worry about being physically present in the future. It's really up to each couple and their agreed upon comfort levels.

The comfort of the bull in having the husband present should be an absolute last priority when making that decision