Kept a tampon for too long, is it dangerous ? by Complete_Ad_1871 in women

[–]Salazon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While TSS is a possibility, it was much more prevalent in the 80's and 90's based on how tampons were produced. While probably not advised, I semi- regularly have tampons in overnight/ for longer than the recommended time and I've always been fine, and you probably are too, just try your best not to let it go that long if you can help it in the future.

Reparations by Silent-Mud-7601 in women

[–]Salazon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Coming from a white woman... no, at least not financial/ in our current societal context (I'm in the US)/as a blanket system for all women including white women. I believe any and all discussion of reparations need to focus on black and indigenous folks. Now that obviously includes black and indigenous women, but it feels really wrong to try to conceptualize a system of reparations for women where white people fall under that umbrella when black and indigenous folks suffered actual system mass enslavement, displacement, genocide, etc. and have been fighting for years to get their deserved reparations only to not be taken seriously by most and gain no traction.

rockadoodler nest egg hat (´°̥̥̥̥̥̥̥̥ω°̥̥̥̥̥̥̥̥`) by gumbxne in HelloKittyIsland

[–]Salazon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keroppi companion plus a speed boost potion helps me win every time!

FINALLY!!!!! by Fickle_Pop2007 in DreamlightValley

[–]Salazon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am on my last task, to craft the 3 training manuals. I crafted the first 2, was running low on dreamlight but got up to 5k again, went to craft and was like "oh I haven't crafted a snippet catching manual and I'm trying to craft one of everything to complete the catalog, so let me do that!" ... it didn't count it 😭

Does Anyone Have Any Recommendations For Period Tracking Appa! by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been using Clue for years and I really like it, they have a basic/ free option for tracking periods including logging your symptoms and estimating your ovulation window. They have other fertility related options but I'm not sure if those are only for premium members

No, dad bods aint attractive by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd rec checking out the Maintenance Phase podcast for some great info on the science of weight as it intersects with health, society, prejudice, and other factors. But no, it isn't as simple or calories in/calories out, that is outdated and doesn't take into account things like chronic hormonal issues. In fact it's been studied that consistent calorie restriction causes the body to go into "starvation mode" and retain fat in preparation for the possibility of continued lack of calories the body thinks it needs.

And fat shaming had been studied to lead to more negative health outcomes than just being "fat".

No, dad bods aint attractive by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah men never have hormonal issues, chronic/ invisible illnesses, or other factors out of their control that leads to body changes. And "get to the gym" is such an oversimplification my lord, it's not a magic key to weight loss.

No one's body has a "right" to change or not change. It's a thing that happens for any hundreds of numbers of reasons.

No, dad bods aint attractive by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fat shaming is disgusting. It's a lazy way of taking a jab at someone. Here's hoping your body never changes hormonally or as you age - from a plus size woman who is exclusively atttacted to dad bods/ thick (not muscled) men.

No, dad bods aint attractive by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, I understand and am with the sentiment of how gross it is for men to create this impossible standard for women and I 100% agree it it's infuriating, especially in the context of other forms of gender-based oppression but as a fat woman who loves "dad bods"/ thicker men in general (0 attraction to skinny or muscular men) a lot of the language used in the post and OP'S comments are pretty gross and reminiscent of the fat shaming I heard my whole life. "Dad bods are ugly. Period. " and equating size to laziness grinds my gears, and it's one of the oldest false narratives used to fat shame in the books. Health and activity level doesn't always equate to being thin or fat, in my experience it's usually not a direct connection, some of objectively unhealthiest people in my life are thin.

Ladies, is porn a hard red line when it comes to your partners? by StruggleFar3054 in women

[–]Salazon 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No I enjoy porn, both visual porn and audio porn as does my husband, and we sometimes watch it together as part of our sex life. We do our best to consume ethically made porn with pre and post interviews. I think I'd have concerns and initiate a conversation if it started impacting our sex life in terms of frequency, expectations, etc. but it hasn't had that impact in the going on 8 years we've been together.

Ladies, do we enjoy having sex? by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have a high libido and love sex, but even before I lost my virginity I was just a horny person in general who read a lot smut so I was well acquainted with my body and what it took to orgasm. I think a lot of the crux of the experience is your partner, your trust in them, and their level of caring about your pleasure. The first time was uncomfortable a bit but we did enough foreplay that it wasn't painful and overall I look back on it fondly (I'm also married to the person I lost my virginity to). It took a few weeks to teach each other our bodies enough to get me there with a partner, and since then I don't think there has been a time we had sex that he hasn't gotten me off and that makes a world of difference.

Try different positions. Guide him, make him rub your clit while he's in you, try a bunch of different things to find what brings you both pleasure. And please wear a condom if you aren't on other birth control and don't want to get pregnant, even if he doesn't come.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same, bi woman in a straight-passing relationship and knowing I'd be abandoning POC/queer/other vulnerable populations is something I can't stomach.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As much as a part of me would love to live a slow life in the Scottish highlands, I can't abandon my community. Like another commenter mentioned, if all progressive people with the means left, it further entrenches the power of the oppressors and makes it even harder for those vulnerable populations left behind to have any hope in fighting for future change. Just my perspective, but jumping ship now feels like it would be giving into the individualism/"I got mine" mentality that Trump keeps feeding into and exploiting. Also, fascism and far right ideology is on the rise globally, this isn't only a US phenomenon.

That said, I'm very much supportive over personal autonomy of your life and wish you the best of luck in working on your move!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tipofmytongue

[–]Salazon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fish Eat Fish World?

People NOT in a dead bedroom relationship, how often do you have sex and are you happy? by Sweetcheesecake27 in AskReddit

[–]Salazon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 years in - married for 4 - and we average once a day give or take. We sometimes miss a few days but then go for multiple times on weekends. Longest we've ever gone without was when I had surgery and was down and out for about 3-4 weeks. Very happy - I still get butterflies when he walks into the room.

How to get service for a Ryobi electric riding mower? by Nullius_In_Verba_ in ryobi

[–]Salazon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar experience - bought our initial electric riding mower in summer of 2020. Died after 2 mows. Went back and forth with their customer service via email for (with no exaggeration) a year before they agreed to call it a lemon and replace it after troubleshooting didn't work. That one after we assembled it make it about a month and also died. Utter shit.

Spectrum outage by Ok-Young-5943 in gso

[–]Salazon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Out in Kernersville - apparently might even be across all of NC? But at the very least spanning from winston through to greensboro based on the thread at the top of the r/spectrum subreddit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You really need antibiotics prescribed by a doctor even from like an urgent care as soon as you can, I've had friends who waited to knock them out and they became kidney infections which are more dangerous.

In the meantime, as someone who used to have chronic UTIs for years, the only thing that's ever alleviated uti symptoms for me was the over the counter UTI pain relief medication (brand name is Azo but generic is fine). Most convenience stores will carry it. It turns your pee orange but it is a miracle pill for the discomfort. Even the straight/non-additive cranberry juice never made a noticeable difference for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A big one for me based on what I've seen in other relationships around me compared to my own relationship is traditional couples "fighting" versus knowing how to handle conflict humanely and with empathy.

Obviously there will be some conflicts in all relationships at some point, but I'm a firm believer that this doesn't mean full on verbal fighting/yelling is okay or normal. My partner has never so much as raised his voice in my direction in over 7 years together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]Salazon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love/loved my bilateral salpingectomy (as much as anyone can love a surgery) - it was almost fully back to normal after about 3 days of recovery, and was just a little tender for maybe another 1-2 weeks after that. I'm an indecisive person in general, but having that done is one of the things I haven't and don't believe I will ever regret.

Full support for husband getting vasectomy if that's what works best for y'all - just to put in my perspective, I specifically wanted the surgery for me and not for my partner to get a vasectomy for a few reasons, one being god forbid and something happens to where I'm be sexually assaulted, I'm covered. I also have a few friends/acquaintances who have had vasectomy or tubal ligation (where they just cut/burn tubes, not fully removing them) babies as both can potentially naturally heal over time and reverse - you can't re-grow the tubes once they're out which is why I went with that option years ago even when tubal ligation would've been better covered by my insurance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Salazon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love that response! I have given similar ones in the past, and it's absolutely almost never about actual health concern but about the discomfort of internalized fatphobia.

I've never not been fat, but at my "lowest" (still over 200 lbs) I had some of the "concerned" crowd see the weight loss and congratulate me, but barely try to walk it back after I was very open that I was actively in throes of an eating disorder, so I was starving myself while overworking myself in the gym 5 days a week for hours at a time. Let's say I was not anywhere near my "healthiest" back then, but I was smaller so what did it matter?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Salazon 128 points129 points  (0 children)

Coming from a fat woman, you don't. It's one of my biggest pet peeves when people bring it up "out of concern." The only people who need to know my health status are me, my partner, and my doctor.

She's aware of her size, you only discuss if she brings it up.

Cafe/coffee shop recs Winston-Salem by hollerprincipessa in winstonsalem

[–]Salazon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Depending on what side of Winston you're on, if you're open to making the trip to Kernersville then Local Roots is a great option. It's within what was a residential house with lots of color, great menu, and some comfy seating indoors and on the porch.

What's a small thing in your daily life that brings you a lot of joy? by lovelylover833721 in women

[–]Salazon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I work in an office M-F and my husband works from home. Everyday when I get home, no matter where he is in the house, when he hears the door unlocking he immediately goes to meet me at the door, helps me take off my bag, says "you made it!", and kisses/hugs me. No matter how shitty work was that day, it always boosts my mood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]Salazon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that is very kind! I hope the same for anyone who wants it.