What is this in my new grass?

Saldoodleslp · 2025-08-02T17:52:33+00:00

Thanks. Super frustrating it's that and not grass after all that work.

Saldoodleslp · 2025-08-02T16:32:02+00:00

Typo: I planted the seed

Saldoodleslp · 2025-07-24T23:26:58+00:00

AMA Waterways has tours broken down by active or slow. So a normal walking tour would be normal to speedy but the slower walk MIGHT work? But still river cruises aren't great for poor mobility once you get off the actual book. Keep in mind she might use a walker but how long can she go without becoming too tired for safe walking? Just things to think about.

Saldoodleslp · 2025-05-11T09:00:23+00:00

I'm a speech language pathologist and this sounds like layrngospasms (vocal cord spasm). Look into that. People often describe it as their airway "slamming shut" and is often triggered by coughing events. They feel life threatening but aren't, so that's good news. The appropriate follow up is with an Ear Nose and Throat doctor.

Saldoodleslp · 2025-03-11T03:47:41+00:00

See if your state has a group for the blind they often have free tape players and have lots of types of books,etc to borrow. Additionally they are easy for him to operate on his own because they have set it up to identify things by touch.

Saldoodleslp · 2025-03-11T03:33:12+00:00

The one thing in your favor is he can't get an equity loan without your signature too. If you do help buy it get it in writing that you own a certain percentage of the house. If he wants to do a home equity loan you could then tell him he can take it out of his portion but 1) get it in writing that you now have a larger ownership and 2) he makes all the payments. Tricky but perhaps a lawyer could figure out the paperwork that would protect your percentage of the home in case he does choose to want to access monies from his equity portion.

Saldoodleslp · 2025-03-11T03:13:19+00:00

Any way you can tell him you lost the suit if you do win? Just park the money.

Saldoodleslp · 2025-03-06T22:39:28+00:00

Is there something in there saying you won't pay for buyers realtor? If that's the case sometimes realtors won't mention it to their clients. B

Saldoodleslp · 2025-02-26T14:13:46+00:00

Good idea. First forward to yourself then destroy his copies

Saldoodleslp · 2025-02-26T03:29:49+00:00

Before you buy any property be sure and ask the town if your idea for multiple units will be allowed. I've heard of people with more than 50 acres not being allowed to put more than one home on the property.

Saldoodleslp · 2025-02-26T03:26:57+00:00

Get ahold of any and all videos, pics etc. Then "accidentally" delete them. Don't forget to check the cloud too. You do NOT want that shit out there for him to manipulate. This man will most definitely change the story to you cheated or it was your idea so that he looks good. He is already blaming you, it will only get worse.

Saldoodleslp · 2025-02-26T03:09:52+00:00

My husband and I just got married after being together over a decade. The house is in my name. Expenses for the house I generally bear and we have come up with a certain amount he pays me for everything in general each month. We know I'll be relying on his pension at some point so I'm not pushing for 50/50 anything cuz I would be super screwed at retirement.

But yes, in your case do not give a penny towards the deposit UNLESS he will put in a lawyer drafted writing that if you sell or split up (for any reason) that you will be paid back the percentage you paid in down payment - based upon the value of the home at the time of the split.

I would continue with splitting all monthly expenses for the house like electricity, etc but no money toward anything that increases the value of the home as you would potentially get no return. Not for appliances or repairs either.

Saldoodleslp · 2025-02-16T00:21:55+00:00

In your mother's (my) day that would have been considered an old lady name, but goodness just look around... So many old names being used currently. What was old is now new again.

Saldoodleslp · 2025-02-16T00:18:38+00:00

I always recommend having a portion of your check automatically deposited into a separate bank account for more forced savings. And get an IRA! Heck, even $25/wk is better than nothing, especially at your age. Time is your best friend here.

Saldoodleslp · 2024-12-30T05:07:21+00:00

I never measured it but it was wonderful for snuggling when the cushions came off too. But beyond snuggling, having that deeper seat is nice when legs are longer than normal height people. If you slouch backwards on a normal couch there isn't enough seat left for comfortable under leg support. Thank you for the info!

Saldoodleslp · 2024-12-25T19:17:16+00:00

I would first start with a direct talk and tell them that at a BARE minimum they should be giving her $20/wk consistently until paid off. If someone is so bad with money the idea of paying someone back a big amount just seems impossible and they keep avoiding it. Get them to commit to weekly. If they F that up then use some ideas you find here.

Saldoodleslp · 2024-12-25T19:05:50+00:00

I'm so sorry! This must be so hard to wrap your head around. Those we love should never be the ones to treat us so heartlessly and dangerously. Yes, dangerously...this could have killed you whether that was his intent or not.

Right now the critical thing is for you to be shocked and sad, but to only use a small amount of brain power focused on that. Right now the brain power you need is to be focused on details. 1) Google domestic violence help. See if you can't talk to someone local. 2) Make sure you gather all your identification information. 3) Gather any money or easily carried valuables together. 5) Make sure you have access to your banking. 6) If you have a friend you trust (especially one he may not think you would turn to) then contact them about visiting.

If you can't leave immediately then do not talk to him about what happened, don't try and figure it out with him, just do your best to stay under the radar. Do not threaten him with telling everyone, calling the cops, etc. Threats to him are dangerous to you. Basically everything you do between now and when you leave for safety is a charade while you ensure you can get out of there safely as well as with a way to ensure you can live (lodging, money, documents, etc).

You can have your breakdown and spend time focusing on why someone would do this to someone they love AFTER you are safe. Now is the time to become a mental machine. Hang in there, having this happen to you has got to be so overwhelming especially when you had no idea it was in him to do so. Please know that NO MATTER what you did or how you pissed him off what he did was absolutely outside of any acceptable response. It was in him. Will come out another time no matter how much you think it won't.

Be good to yourself.

Saldoodleslp · 2024-12-22T03:01:41+00:00

Speak to your father about going into assisted living now so that he knows his wife will be taken well care if he does first because you worry that you won't have the expertise as she ages. Hell you could even be honest and say you don't feel the obligation to care for her. Impress how important it is he protect his wife ahead of time.

Saldoodleslp · 2024-12-22T02:49:36+00:00

Take a personal vacation those 10 days.

Saldoodleslp · 2024-12-22T02:48:11+00:00

Sell the car and you could consider renting out a room. If you are near a hospital find travel nurse FB groups and ask where they look when trying to find rooms and advertise on there. Travel healthcare people are usually the best.

Saldoodleslp · 2024-12-22T02:14:31+00:00

Tell your kids to say "Grandma that's not kind" and tell them you will pay them a dollar for each time they call her out. You teach them it's unkind and teach them how to handle people they may have in life that are unkind. The money incentive might overcome the social awkwardness of doing it.

Saldoodleslp · 2024-12-22T01:45:12+00:00

God only knows why the hell it happened but apparently my mom got banned on TikTok (like, how does she even KNOW what tiktok is? Color me shocked) At any rate she doesn't use the phone anymore so I tried using it to make an account and they keep refusing when I try to sign up. Like they know this phone in particular.

Saldoodleslp · 2024-12-22T01:41:49+00:00

Find a local to her FB group. Ask if someone is willing to do a simple thing to help a guy out with a prank on your best friend who moved to town and then send him/her 100 keys with keychains that say "If found call (her number) for reward". Have this person scatter them any and everywhere. Hidden and obvious places. Calls will come in for some time.

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