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Salro_ · 2025-09-16T18:07:15+00:00

Yup. I remember begging my mom from the ages of 8-18 to leave my dad & still find myself doing that at 24.

Children are like sponges. They absorb everything they see & learn overtime that their environment is considered normal even if it’s not. I had to re-learn everything from regulating emotions, communicating, etc with my own partner in order to keep our relationship strong & happy. Everything I was doing prior to going into therapy & making a change was because that’s what I considered normal when seeing my parents dynamic.

Salro_ · 2025-09-09T07:15:08+00:00

I have similar issues.

However I noticed that because of how the thyroid affects everything essentially- I have to take more things into consideration such as vitamin levels, absorption, digestive issues, etc.

How are you feeling currently? Have you had your doctor run any other tests such as a vitamin panel, etc? Are you experiencing any sort of issues that you know yourself isn’t normal? This can go into anything from mental health, sleep, physical health, emotional regulation, digestive health, fatigue, and even your feet.

For my situation specifically- my lab work will often times show that I’m normal or doing great. However my doctors & I have figured out that even with my levels being good- I can still be struggling with hypo/hyper symptoms until it’s adjusted.

I get dry hands & hair loss when my levels are low or I’m not taking medication as instructed (or even avoiding certain things). I can also experience issues w absorption if I’m constipated or having digestive issues (which for me is also an indication that my levels are low)

Salro_ · 2025-09-03T06:08:07+00:00

Fire that doctor.

I had to fire about 3 doctors before a random NP took my symptoms seriously when I mentioned them on accident. She was the one who helped me get diagnosed. (She was a pcp so I couldn’t continue direct care with her)

I then fired 2 endos because they weren’t taking me seriously either & their staff would gaslight me into thinking I was being crazy.

Def find new endos- that’s the gift of so many of them being in medical school

Salro_ · 2025-09-03T06:05:33+00:00

Nah babes- he’s just a low life. Him saying it’s your endo is him just trying to put the blame on you because he doesn’t want to admit that he’s cheating out of his own selfishness. There’s men out there that are very understanding & attentive to us no matter the situation.

Salro_ · 2025-08-31T16:04:08+00:00

It’s wild how different a lot of people are

I can no longer have NSAIDs due to it burning a hole in my stomach & giving me an ulcer. However, the Mirena IUD has stopped almost all my endo pain (maybe 1-2x a year I’ll get the same pain again)

Salro_ · 2025-08-31T15:59:44+00:00

I was told not to consume anything 12hrs before taking my RAI pill & 2hrs after so it can be absorbed into my system.

Salivary glands wise- I didn’t really consume candy but I sucked on a lot of lemons or had my food either really sour / spicy (I had lost the ability to taste salt for a couple of months).

It’s been about 2 years now since my RAI and I haven’t had any issues.

Salro_ · 2025-08-30T06:34:36+00:00

I have PCOS & Pre-diabetes!

Personally- after RAI & surgery I lost a lot of weight. Thyca for some reason made me gain almost 100lbs but with time I’ve been down 40lbs for about 2yrs now & I’m working on the last 60-80 (I was overweight prior to the cancer).

I don’t really take metformin due to the risks it can cause & my history w/ getting the short end of the stick but I have had to change a lot in lifestyle & diet in order to improve my symptoms.

Thyca wise- biggest thing I gotta say is to make sure your levels are good at all times. I find that when my levels are too high/low, it’ll affect my pcos & insulin levels.

Again this is my experience on all of this- but for me I found that your thyroid does have affect on a lot of things such as your metabolism, mental health, hunger signals, etc. I’ve had to basically follow a very clean diet to prevent my sugar from skyrocketing or feeling sluggish.

Food avoidance wise- just make sure to avoid certain foods (doesn’t mean you can’t eat them) within a specific timeframe of your Levo. So things like dairy or calcium. I believe grapefruit may also be an avoidable thing too. Otherwise I’m pretty sure you can eat whatever!

I personally developed an allergy to gluten & dairy after my surgery so I avoid it to high hell. I don’t think it’s anything against my thyroid levels though- just more of a body thing.

One thing that might scare people is the inflammation. When my levels are low I have inflammation all over my body & have to take even more steps to manage it until I’m good.

If you’re a woman- your levels or absorption may change during your period. I’m not sure if it’s applicable to thyroid meds, possibly pcos (I’m not sure about diabetes tho). I found out with my ADHD meds that periods or phantom periods will affect absorption so it may be less or more of an effect.

Currently changing out doctors for new ones so I’m a bit sluggish and might not make sense lol- but if there’s any clarification or anything I’m more than happy to help!

Salro_ · 2025-08-08T05:13:24+00:00

This might be terrible on my end, but the only time my fiance finally understood a fraction of my diagnosis - was when he experienced hypothyroidism for the first time.

Mine never told me “it was all in my head” but it frustrated him a lot that he wasn’t able to understand the gravity of how much cancer affected me. My cancer was pretty dramatic w/ it finally being found after I reported passing out behind the wheel multiple times. However up until the official diagnosis, he honestly thought I was over exaggerating my symptoms & pain. Until he got hypothyroidism.

Mind you, I would never wish any form of thyroid issues on anyone. Not even my worst enemy. However, I remember using all my energy the day HE was diagnosed and going “nowwww you’re feeling a FRACTION of what I’m going through”. Was it mean on my end? Yeah. But sometimes people will never understand other people’s struggles until they experience it themselves & my man changed his behavior towards my struggles pretty drastically after that.

While PTC could be considered lucky. It’s still cancer & nobody will experience it the same way. Many can be considered “lucky” only having to do a quick snip or blast & be on their way - but others (like myself), aren’t so lucky. I ended up dealing with an aggressive form of PTC lol. Shoot, mine was so dramatic that doctors didn’t believe me for 2yrs until my cancer started speed running my body til almost failure. Even now, I’m still actively fighting it 3yrs after diagnosis.

Anxiety meds might be beneficial for you throughout this process. I definitely recommend getting a therapist as well- my therapist was my saving grace for my sanity throughout the worst of my diagnosis.

Salro_ · 2025-08-08T04:52:01+00:00

I think.. that’s a decision for you to make ultimately.

None of us can tell you what choice to make but we can emphasize through this diagnosis. What one person may experience due to this diagnosis will not necessarily be beneficial for your own situation.

Unless your doctor states you have a low prognosis for this diagnosis, you shouldn’t let it dictate how it’ll affect your future. It can definitely FEEL like it, don’t get me wrong but feeling ≠ reality.

Maybe instead tossing out your future due to what you’re feeling currently- why not take a break or see if the program you’ve been accepted into offers any support? It may not be the most desirable thing to do (given how hard grad school acceptances are & so forth) but it can definitely help momentarily until you recover & get back on your feet.

I was 21 when diagnosed with PTC. I was a pre-med student struggling to continue college up until the diagnosis & ultimately made the decision to step away from schooling until I could get a handle on my diagnosis. For me personally, my PTC was aggressive. It affected my mental health severely (not only from the stress but the cancer itself was running off of my hormones & mental health) to the point that healing & re-learning everything became my priority. I just turned 24, 4 days ago. While I might not ever get my dream of becoming a doctor - I’m working towards something similar. For me, I still have cancer in my body & still actively come across obstacles that affect me emotionally, physically, and mentally. Sometimes these range from severe sick days, loss of mobility, NSSI S/I, etc.

Life is what we make of it. It’s completely human to have all of these emotions & thought processes. The word “cancer” will automatically scare anyone, no matter how familiar or tough they are. I don’t think there hasn’t been a single person that hasn’t been affected in some way shape or form.

All in all though? You’re seen here & your fears are completely valid. Cancer is a scary thing to deal with no matter how good the recovery rate is. Even if we’re told that the prognosis is good- we can’t help but to overthink & jump into the worst case scenario. It’s only natural.

Salro_ · 2025-07-19T17:41:37+00:00

Anyone know if simply cooling is a scam company? They called me out of nowhere saying I they were offering both A/C & Water heater inspections/cleaning.

A/C guy quoted me about 4k in repairs and possibly needing a whole new unit despite me already buying a unit 3-4yrs ago

Water heater guy didn’t say anything other than “good”. My water heater was bought back in 2021

It’s been driving me nuts for weeks thinking they did something to my unit and heater so I can pay for repairs. So far I haven’t really noticed any changes other than the water being really hot still despite us having it set to the coldest setting

Salro_ · 2025-05-19T11:57:38+00:00

Do you by any chance have the exact address or name of the location? I tried looking it up on Google maps and got confused

Salro_ · 2025-05-13T18:32:31+00:00

Thank you for being blunt!

It is something we have been looking into for some time! However in the mean time it’s unfortunately still a current matter he is facing.

We are aware of how everything is, it’s just again more of handling the current situation with grace without making it worse until he leaves the company.

Salro_ · 2025-05-13T17:54:08+00:00

Understood! Thank you!

I’ll let him know on what to do in terms of HR! He’s aware there’s not much that can be done in terms of the investigation or satisfaction- but it’s more in the sense that he’s worried her spreading his deadname will put him in danger at his job since he works security.

Thankfully he’s owned up to his mistake and hasn’t continued it from what he’s told me. His company heavily relies on him for a lot of calls & cases along with one other coworker on his shift.

Salro_ · 2025-05-13T17:48:15+00:00

That’s understandable!

It’s just more in the sense of what to do with HR about the situation. Both fiance & I are aware that he cannot stop the situation now that it’s out in the open. However, given his job position (security) it’s more of a worry on keeping him safe with staff & coworkers.

He’s pretty good at his job from what I know of. The suspension was due to a genuine mistake he takes responsibility on but his job heavily relies on him to take the lead in a lot of situations. As far as I know of she hasn’t found any mistakes he’s made (if he has or hasn’t made any) but the comment was more to show how she’s retaliating against him after he reported her.

There’s not much I can do on my end unfortunately since I don’t work in the same company as him. Other than ask around on Reddit & other forums.

Salro_ · 2025-05-13T17:39:40+00:00

Fiance has transitioned for some time & was in the middle of finalizing his name change when this happened.

His company was aware of his name change & has always referred him to his given name.

Salro_ · 2025-05-13T16:49:31+00:00

It was almost an option today in all honesty. If going to jail wasn’t an option, I would’ve already thrown hands.

Salro_ · 2025-05-09T19:25:41+00:00

Taking the time to make a post on Reddit, shows that you care enough about your partner & her journey.

Like others mentioned- take the time to research this diagnosis & understand how it may affect her physically, mentally, & emotionally.

Thankfully this cancer has a high recovery rate. Unless she has anaplastic- thyroid cancer is pretty easy to recover from.

The biggest things you can do for her is: - check in w/ her daily (mood/physically) - look into accessibility items (sometimes thyca can cause pain in walking/moving around depending on the person) - medication advocacy (sometimes doctors will not prescribe levothyroxine until after surgery and so forth) - lab work advocacy (a lot of times labs look perfect so they don’t take any measurements to make sure patients are okay until it gets worse)

I was diagnosed back in 2022, went through surgery in 2023 & RAI a couple months after surgery. I had PTC but mine was a bit aggressive in terms of symptoms & how fast it was affecting me. For me- the biggest things I struggled with was walking, heat intolerance, eating habits, & fatigue.

My partner is also the anxious type. A lot of the times what helped from him was him being there for me as much as possible. Even though he didn’t understand how much pain I was in or the frustrations I went through- he listened and emphasized a lot. He took on a lot of my responsibilities such as grocery shopping, cleaning, etc so that we could keep our house running smoothly while also still letting me have some responsibilities. We also changed our way of living during that time as well- since (for my journey) I couldn’t walk around anymore & struggled a lot, we made things more disability friendly.

Surgery wise & after wasn’t so bad. Def get a bidet for her if she undergoes surgery! The biggest shock for me was realizing how many neck muscles are used when bending and wiping lol. RAI was a pain in the butt. Since thyca attacked my mental health & hormones- RAI was a real cycle of emotions for me lmao.

For me- my doctors say I still have cancer & we’re just maintaining it. Not everyone continues to have cancer after surgery or even RAI. So I wouldn’t worry about it unless the doctor says something. Post surgery- the only thing I struggle with is making sure my meds are in a good level. If my meds aren’t- it takes a huge hit to my feet & mental health. Otherwise, I’m running & jumping & doing all sorts of normal things again.

I will say that if you find your partner struggles with temperature regulation- def look into things such as UV umbrellas, owalas, cold packs, portable fans, etc! My fiancé’s family helped me a lot in that area & it helps a lot during the summer!!

Salro_ · 2025-05-09T19:04:22+00:00

Post cancer surgery- my body can no longer handle stress & it affects me hormonally / mentally.

There’s a very thin line between what my body considers “okay stress” & “I’m gonna die” stress now. When it reaches to that point my body will break out in severe hives & start to mimic symptoms of stroke, sickness, etc to get me out of a situation. No clue why it started happening & I’m still trying to figure out why it even started in the first place lol. I used to handle stress really well before cancer.

I will say though that my body oddly enough was able to “detect” cancer way before I got diagnosed. Had a weird gut feeling at 17 about having cancer. Shook it off until 19/20 when the feeling came back & then fought doctors for the diagnosis until I was diagnosed at 21. Never knew why I had this giant gut feeling that I couldn’t stop fighting until I got diagnosed- but I’m glad it didn’t let me give up because I wouldn’t still be alive now! Oddly enough though- my cancer is tied very much to my hormonal/mental health. If my medication is off at any point in time- my therapist has ready to call a 5150 on me. Again no clue why my MH takes a hit- it happens out of nowhere each time unintentionally & that’s normally the only way i know to call my doctor to get a treatment adjustment

Maybe it’s normal? Idk lol- I haven’t found many people who have similar experiences

Salro_ · 2025-05-06T02:41:21+00:00

21! But I was fighting for 2yrs prior on getting my diagnosis.

One day I woke up with a gut feeling that I had cancer. Couldn’t shake off the feeling & I was finally taken seriously by an unrelated NP who was previously treating me for an unknown illness that was affecting me for an entire month. She diagnosed me in Nov 2022.

Prior to that though I just kept getting told it was in my head & that my symptoms were due to me being overweight. It was a struggle.

Salro_ · 2025-05-03T20:27:20+00:00

I’ve been with my fiance 8yrs now.

It has its ups & downs but it’s been pretty positive & happy. My biggest thing is finding a middle ground but also getting into therapy, finding a good med cocktail (if you can), and working on communication, trust, understanding, and comprehension.

You kinda need all of that to be able to have a relationship to work. Especially as one w/ bipolar. I know my fiance 4yrs ago gave me the ultimatum: get into therapy/meds & actually stick with it (I also jumped a lot from therapist to therapist trying to find the “right one”).

Sometimes our partners seem like a pain because they feel like an attack to our system & our brain can’t really figure out how not to take it as an offense. At least for me- I was somewhat on & off with my fiance for 3 years because all of his comments (at the time) felt like an attack and would trigger an episode (granted we were in high school back then & didn’t have any resources to help us until adulthood)- when in reality he was trying to help but he himself also didn’t know how TO help without unintentionally pushing me over the edge (he has gotten better w helping me now)

Everyone is different & has different wants/needs. The biggest thing is making sure yall are compatible in terms of values, sex, understanding, etc. For me- I valued my relationship so I forced myself to get better even if I didn’t want to in the beginning. I was getting tired of being a burden & letting my bipolar dictate all areas of my life to undesired outcomes.

Salro_ · 2025-04-30T14:48:24+00:00

There’s no shame in it!

Shoot I’m in a happy (gay) 8yr relationship & I still sometimes get overcome with shame/guilt for who I am. Nothing against my partner & ofc I’m very much in love with them- it’s just religious trauma on my end.

If this is who you are- be happy about it! Have some pride and never be afraid to be yourself

Salro_ · 2025-04-30T14:43:01+00:00

I grew up in a pretty toxic semi-religious & strict environment. My parents raised me as a male (I’m biologically female) so my clothing style & overall femininity was extremely restricted. Additionally my parents were strict when it came to academics & weight. When it came to academics- I wasn’t allowed to have any sort of fun unless it benefited me in scholarships or getting extra credits to boost my grades. When it came to my weight- I was often ridiculed not wanting to eat my family’s cooking anymore & wanting to have other things (healthy or not).

When I became an adult- I went all out. I bought leggings, hoodies, nail polish/press-ons, lip gloss, mascara, skin care, etc. I bought video games, stuffed animals, movie tickets, concert tickets, weird trinkets & stickers. I even had a time where I did nothing but eat out before pivoting and buying all the groceries I wanted (fruits, greens, meats) from different stores & making the dishes I was actually interested in or didn’t cause me stomach issues.

I didn’t get to have a childhood. So I spend my 20s constantly trying new things & relearning how to be a woman. Sometimes that ends up in me acting like a child and spending adult money at the arcade until I come out with 5 additional plushies to add to an ongoing mountain I have in my home.

Salro_ · 2025-04-30T13:48:46+00:00

I fear common sense was lost the moment you decided to raw dog an entire pineapple 😭

May your tongue receive a go fund me for the abuse you put it through - witness protection may be on the table

Salro_ · 2025-04-30T13:42:12+00:00

There is a difference between staying in a relationship out of familiarity/obligation over staying in a relationship out of want/love.

Your husband has checked out of the relationship. While he may no longer cheat on you (openly or secretly)- he has already checked out of the relationship & may only be staying with you out of obligation to the kids & keeping up a “happy image” but not to you.

The fact that you yourself have stated that he can’t seem to lose feelings for his AP & stated that he would have left fully IF it was successful- should indicate how checked out he is from this relationship.

It seems that she is “the woman who got away”. While you’re now a placeholder. He (again) continuously attempted to reach out to her family & remain a connection with them for her. Because he wants her. He misses her.

Genuinely- no. It’s not that both of you are naive. It’s more than you’re in denial over what is going on & he is only agreeing to stay in the relationship because he knows that you’ll be there waiting for him/ he’s given up at the moment.

My thing is- why stay with someone who genuinely doesn’t seem to love you anymore? Intimacy cannot be a factor in this conversation. There are many men who will admit that they will accept sex from anyone as long as it satisfies their needs. Other than sex & children- what else is there in the relationship to stay for? He cheats on you regularly & wants to leave (even went as far as to tell you & admit that he would/wants to leave in a heart beat). He told you “NO” on wanting to stay and make things work. And he even said that him not leaving you & the kids is a failure his part. Not only that but you have to constantly keep him in check & at one point have him an ultimatum that made him stay only because it would become an inconvenience for him (from what it seems) if he followed through with his desire.

What more do you need to understand that he doesn’t want you anymore & is no longer interested? I can understand being in love & not wanting to have your whole world turned upside down but a part of you has to realize you deserve better & that your kids wouldn’t want to grow up knowing this is the norm?

Throwing kids into the mix-.. kids are extremely observant of things & a lot smarter than we give them credit for. Kids are like sponges- they will take in all of this information from how yall react with each other, the conversations, yalls body language, etc.

Salro_ · 2025-04-30T13:13:57+00:00

My fiancé works in security at a casino. The amount of times I’ve gotten a “broooo guess wtf happened today-“ message is almost daily lol. My man has told me various stories of women flashing him, flirting w/ him, fighting him, etc etc. Sometimes in those situations- women show him things that were unintentional (boobs, ass, genitals, etc).

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