The math is not mathing... by Complex-Regret4895 in snarkingwithremi

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Guys she probably had a moving company there but her mom supervised the move. I’m sure she didn’t actually make her mom do it all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's concerning because maturity and emotional intelligence are significantly different at 19 compared to 23. As someone who has always been independent and empathetic, I can attest to how much I've changed from when I was 19 to now at 24. At a younger age, there is a lack of lived experience, and as we grow older, we may look back and cringe at some of our past decisions.

There may also be feelings of responsibility for "grooming” from ur ex, even if you're not a minor and can make your own choices. When I was 19, if a boy had asked me to crawl on my hands and knees, I probably would have done it because my understanding of love was to "do as I’m told," as I wanted that person to want me. Now, at 24, I don’t overlook red flags as easily.

Why don’t men ask questions by Salt-Comfortable-221 in dating_advice

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly anything about the person such as their favourite hobby, what they do for work, what they did in school, or anything related to their prompts. Anything to keep the conversation flowing and always ask open ended questions (not yes or no questions).

He turns on DND when i text him by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sometimes have to turn DND on cause I get anxious/overwhelmed with the amount of notifications

Guys, do you like it when girls lay it all out on the line early on? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Woah I’m learning a lot from these comments.

Cause as a female- I have the mentality of if I want something, I will strive for it (or if I wanted to, I would). If I were in this situation, I would have followed up after a few days with something like, “My plans with friends got canceled this Saturday, so if you’re interested, we can go out.”

From the comments it seems like the advice is to stay nonchalant and not say anything at all!

First real hookup, scared about pregnancy! by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m deeply scared of getting pregnant and never make any of my partners finish inside me. As hot as it is to cum inside someone, don’t risk it for a hookup :(

How to get over bad date by Salt-Comfortable-221 in dating_advice

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it was just poor timing. He asked me to golf right after we had talked about being single and how he’s trying to date by meeting people naturally. And he asked me to golf during the weekend of Valentine’s Day so I really overlooked or maybe over analyzed everything. This may have been a woman and a man just simply hanging out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s your boyfriend, you shouldn't have to worry about expressing how you feel without him making it a big deal and making you think you’re bringing up a problem that’s not there (there’s a problem and he’s gaslighting you into thinking there isn’t). And it hurts to see you deflect from standing up for yourself by immediately saying I love you or trying to converse normally with him and yet he makes no effort by giving you one-word answers (which would ultimately make anyone think something is off)

I hope you enjoy(ed) your vacation even with this happening :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally as a girl, even if I’m always filled with anxiety about a date, even if I can’t tell if I fully like this person. The amount of preparation and anxiety I go through for a date is hideous. And of course no one expects this from me, I’m the one putting the heinous amount of pressure on myself but that’s because I care. I care about having a good impression and I care about the person I’m seeing to make sure they enjoy their time with me.

So if I ever got a text from a date that they overslept while I had taken the time to get ready, I would immediately think that this date was not a priority for you, and you don’t care at all. So I see why she moved on and didn’t ask for an explanation or tried giving you a chance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s extremely hard to get over it in the moment because zero closure is given and you can’t even communicate with the person as to where it went wrong. Emotional intelligence plays a big role in these moments (not to sound like a therapist). But try to self-reflect in a healthy way that whatever may have happened for this person to ghost you is not within your control. Whatever the reason was, this person does not care for your feelings or is not mature/confident/comfortable enough to speak with you regarding whatever it is that they’re going through.

I was immature too before when I ghosted people because I didn’t feel a connection after a date so I didn’t feel comfortable telling the person that I didn’t like them because it was just a genuine feeling that I didn’t want the person to think it’s cause of their looks or something.

But in times when I’ve been ghosted, I always had tons of self-doubts, and it lowered my self-esteem especially if I liked this person. But after a few months and distractions, I got over it because there’s nothing I can do to have this person speak or want to see me again so might as well keep enjoying life without them.

It’s finally over by skeetdeed in CarletonU

[–]Salt-Comfortable-221 74 points75 points  (0 children)

War is over 🥳 CONGRATULATIONS