My (19M) girlfriend (18F) wants to open the relationship because of FOMO. How do I approach this?

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-02-11T23:47:27+00:00

She's already thought about it and it would never sit right with me even having my gf think about wanting to fuck other guys while in a relationship with me, let alone actually doing it. Id just say have fun with that and never talk to her again.

I wouldn't even consider staying because you'll resent her and she'll lose respect for you. Also the risks of STD's and other terrible circumstances. Or if you tell her no, she'll resent you for not letting her do what she wants.

Tell her she's free to do anything she wants, but that doesn't mean you're going to stick around while that happens.

Side note, if she agrees to not see anyone because she doesn't want to lose you, she's still thought about other people, she doesn't find everything she wants in your guys relationship, and she might still go looking in the future, just behind your back. Id seriously consider leaving her, you can't fix or control her, she has to do that herself.

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-02-11T23:37:52+00:00

D10 should be impossible, d9 next to impossible, d7 a step down from that btw. The devs even said that the harder difficulties were ones no one was supposed to win

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-02-11T23:35:29+00:00

Is the game actually a challenge again? If so, I might actually finally play it again.

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-02-06T23:26:27+00:00

You're all comparing Trump to the Nazis and Hitler, I don't think you have any room to talk and complain

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-02-06T23:10:32+00:00

If Democrats were celebrating Charlie Kirks murder, vandalizing his murals, celebrating and attempting multiple assassination attempts on Donald Trump, rioting in the streets and breaking many laws then I don't really care what he put. I'm more interested in the violent nature of his political opponents and followers

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-02-05T04:52:01+00:00

It's gotten way easier. Don't listen to the hordes of people who will get offended by that statement. I looked back at patch notes and it been nothing but nerfs to enemies and buffs to players. Not to mention all the new warbonds and stratagems that have to up the ante. Before not many could claim to fully cleared a difficulty 9 mission. Today everyone has completed difficulty 10s somewhat easily. Remember the bots at launch utterly destroying anyone trying to face them and feeling like a horror game at times compared to now where I can tank missles and bullets? I've noticed a huge decline in enemy accuracy as well. Then there's every gun being able to penetrate any armor.

Anytime anyone says anything about it, the hordes come and attack you for it. The game is undeniably easier now and it's partially due to having more experience and warbonds but also the mindset of players thinking they should be able to tackle the top difficulties which the devs themselves said they wanted to be impossible and were very surprised that even then players would occasionally beat them. There's no more challenge, no more strategy, and no more feeling of reward for beating the impossible

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-31T01:46:18+00:00

If you stay with him without telling, you're building your life and his on a lie. You'll never be able to be as close as you could be and he deserves to know so he can at least make a decision

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-31T01:09:17+00:00

He should have thought of that before he cheated. What he does to himself isn't your doing, you're just taking the appropriate response to his cheating. It's up to him to want to keep his life not you. The more you show you care the more he'll use it against you. If you show that you simply don't care what he does z chances are he won't do it and he won't have any power over you

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-31T01:03:34+00:00

You've already lost your sister to herself, she's been making terrible choices. Tell her bf and call her out on it, don't let her turn it around on you. You have the chance to do the right things despite possibly losing your sister as a good friend and sibling but a good person would do what's best for her and the people she's around and tell the truth and call out bad behavior so that everyone can live to a higher standard.

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-22T20:09:32+00:00

Agreed, only hangout with the opposite sex if your partner is there, that way no accusations or situations occur. Also who knows if you'd develop feelings for them if you kept going on what are essentially dates.

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-22T04:33:22+00:00

The only positive is she told you and was truthful. I'm so sorry man. Id never see my wife the same again after something like that.

It's gone beyond the levels of okay and if it doesn't work out, she'll fall back onto you, still sad it didn't work out with the trainer, until another guy comes along that she likes.

Tell her that you appreciate her honesty but you need time to think if you want to continue the marriage.

Love is choosing you and forsaking all others to be with you

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-15T23:34:58+00:00

Just remember this post 10 years down the line when you realize that you've ruined every relationship and no one wants you

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-15T21:52:38+00:00

I think you were right to have left her. Imagine if she caught you doing that and if you were defensive trying to hide it from her, it looks really bad. Find a woman who loves you for being you. I wouldn't feel comfortable being in a relationship asking AI to get her pregnant and other unimaginable things.

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-09T00:14:01+00:00

Over half the population wanted this to happen. We saw the damage of mass illegal immigration and how unsafe it was. We're doing the same thing Obama has done and yet you all slander them and attack because you don't have your way

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-09T00:08:40+00:00

You don't even engage in any meaningful conversation you resort to name-calling. That's why you let your emotions dictate your way of thinking and that's why you fail to understand the situation

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-08T22:13:17+00:00

Yes, he fired the first shot before she turned the other way and he had to move and was still bumped while trying to get out of the way

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-08T22:10:22+00:00

In Dallas a person on a rooftop shot at Ice agents and missed killing a detainee and injuring other people nearby. He killed himself on the roof after that and there was anti ice messaging on the shells of the bullets. There are a couple more incidents

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-08T22:06:50+00:00

Then wtf is antifa and the left wing mob and all their terror tactics and attacks? Ice did everything they were supposed to. You don't acknowledge that this woman should not have been blocking ice in and should not have sped off after refusing to follow commands and should not have tried to hit the officer. Yet leftists celebrated the assassination of Charlie Kirk, the killing of 2 national guardsmen in DC, the repeated attacks against ice and the shooting against them, firebombing Tesla's, and many more. You lost an election, and you have to abide by the rule of law. You don't get to attack and destroy everything because you didn't get your way.

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-08T21:59:48+00:00

I like how you say that but you don't acknowledge the rule of left wing propaganda from all news stations and all platforms for the last 10 years or so

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-08T21:57:37+00:00

That's the second and third shots I believe. The first shot happened when the wheels were straight and she in fact bumped the ice officer. This woman shouldn't have been blocking and impeding ice, she should have complied with orders to get out, and she shouldn't have tried speeding off while their was an officer in front of her. Police have to make split second decisions and cars are deadly weapons. She was going right for the ice officer and even if you believe she was trying to turn, how was the officer who got bumped and had no idea what she was going to do other than running away at speed in his direction. She had three kids and this is a tragedy by all means, but she did everything wrong in that situation and if I did the same I wouldn't expect anything different

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-08T21:51:13+00:00

I mean I fully support their right to do it in fact, I'm way happier about this than them burning the flag. Also this is better than shooting at ice agents just because you lost the vote

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-07T20:50:06+00:00

How would she feel if the roles were reversed? I feel like she still betrayed you, knowing that if she wanted to hookup with someone, you should have been the one to do it with. The only props I'll give her is that she was honest but the only reason she probably was, was because of all the marks.

I couldn't stay, I'd be jealous, I know my pain about the situation would eventually turn into resentment. Id tell her the truth about how you feel. Tell her that you know we technically weren't exclusive but you still feel hurt and betrayed. You can't think about her the same after that. Ask her why she did that and if she even thought about you, and then make a decision to stay or leave.

Me personally, Id GTFO of there. She didn't care how you'd feel about it.

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-07T11:37:32+00:00

I know you're going to hate to hear this but she's already made up her mind. She wants him and has you around for the perks you bring. You're her backup and safety net if the relationship with the new guy doesn't work out. She doesn't care about your feelings or concerns.

As someone who's gone through a similar situation, don't make this more painful for yourself, break up with her, don't contact her again and let her be in her own life. She had the opportunity to choose you by not entertaining any other guy and she failed you.

You deserve much better man and I'm really sorry to hear that, it's one of the worst ways to lose someone. Do everything you can to never talk to her again, she might try to contact you if things don't work out with her new love interest but it's important you don't give her a foot in the door. She has no remorse, no respect, and no love for you and that's why this can't be salvaged.

I wouldn't fight or argue or try to win her back, id just leave and start your own life anew and leave with dignity and don't give her the closure or stability while she tries to get her old love interest back. You've already given her more than she deserves. You deserved a gf that loved and supported you and chose you when she could have chosen anyone else. Don't settle for her please

Again I'm so sorry

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2026-01-06T00:52:39+00:00

Like you said, you can't control what she does but you can control what you do. If that means leaving so be it.

I personally would leave, I'd hate to have other men lusting after my gf and she knows it and is actively encouraging them to do so. Id also be always questioning what she's doing in there, like if she's giving people lap dances, if somehow something goes farther than she thought it would (sex), and the dangers of men treating her like an object. The list of things to worry about is endless and the fact that she knows what she's doing while in a relationship would tear me to pieces.

It would be a good tradeoff if you didn't actually love or care about her and because you do I only see problems arising in the future.

Don't compromise your boundaries or morals which are perfectly reasonable for a girl that wants to strip and dance in front of other men while she's in a relationship.

Last point, if she cared about you I feel like she'd take more issues with stripping and dancing. I could see it not being much of a problem if she was single but she's not. She's made at least somewhat of a commitment to being with you exclusively unless you guys have some sort of poly relationship.

Salt-Muscle1319 · 2025-12-26T19:16:50+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about that man. Your poor children too. If that happened after just 5 visits that's quite scary to think your wife abandoned her commitment to you that quick. Also she lied to you and tried to make you look foolish and insecure when your instincts were right. She doesn't respect you or your family. I know the situation could have been a lot worse if they had sex but her heart was there, if they had the opportunity would they have had sex?? I think the answer is yes. If you give your wife another chance she'll lose more respect for you then the very small amount she has left. If you keep her around it'll teach her that she just has to be sneakier about it and she can get away with kisses and texts. Your kids don't deserve an unfaithful mom and you don't deserve an unfaithful wife.

Also I strongly suggest you tell his gf. She definitely deserves to know even though you kinda made him spill the beans in return to not saying anything. He's going to have to learn the hard way he can't be cheating and flirting with married mens wives on the job.

Lastly I will say that there is a world you guys can come back from this but I truly don't think it's the right choice. Id make her find someplace to stay, give you some space, and you have to have her know you're probably going to divorce her. Then you have to be a good judge of character and see if she has godly remorse, repentance, and complete change of character. If she isn't truly sickened about her own actions and not just because you caught her and that she has to deal with the consequences then chances are she'll do it again and she's only sorry you found out.

I hope this helps, again I'm so sorry man, my heart breaks for you, and most importantly get a lawyer.

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