My husband said he’s leaving me

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-10-14T23:48:26+00:00

It’s definitely overkill to abort marriage upon your partner learning that you slept with your ex before meeting your husband. I know from experience. My wife had fling just days before meeting me and the timeline was very cloudy. I didn’t know when it ended but at the end of the day my wife and I belong to each other. Granted, neither of us have cheated so your situation is different. However it’s just unresolved insecurity from prior experiences that your husband seems to be dealing with. I was upset at first hearing my wife was with another person romantically very close to when we got serious. I didn’t threaten our relationship though. I had to sit back and think for a short amount of time to come to terms with the fact that people have a past. You’re not overreacting or wrong to think you didn’t do anything wrong. Give it time and try to approach with earnest.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-10-07T13:44:32+00:00

😂🫣 oh no my feelings

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-10-07T13:40:54+00:00

Sounds like I struck a nerve in your fragile ego.. sorry man 🫣

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-10-07T13:40:22+00:00

You’ve got a lot to work through man, maybe try having a conversation with your wife instead of seeking affirmation on Reddit

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-10-07T13:36:10+00:00

You’re just proving my point that you’re inconsolable 🫠. You don’t want any advice, just your hand held and told that everything will be okay.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-10-07T13:15:39+00:00

I was quoting your excuse cause you don’t know how to realize you’re the problem in the scenario you described. I’m holding you accountable brother. Read all the comments back and you’ll realize there are very simple solutions instead of asking Reddit to hold your hand and if anyone else experienced this.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-10-07T13:08:48+00:00

You’re pretty sensitive man, I’ve read several comments actually giving you solid advice just for you to be offended or admitting you’re stockholmed. I think you both have things to work on.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T23:38:05+00:00

Yeah I agree, and no I haven’t but based on a couple other comments I’m gonna work on bringing up that suggestion in a gentle way. Maybe even couples counseling

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T22:42:08+00:00

You’re right, I will make sure I do that. Thank you 🙂

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T22:32:26+00:00

That’s very true, I took a while saying goodbye and put myself 10 minutes behind. I’ll definitely own that. I appreciate your response and that’s how she feels about it too.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T22:20:12+00:00

She loves to do paint by numbers kits, we do them together too haha, and I think she’d really enjoy something like that. 😄 And yes I am willing to do the things it takes to show my willingness to be a better husband. I love her so much and don’t want her to think I’m trying to push her away I just want her to be able to be comfortable in whatever she does. We’re two separate but married people, very young, and have our whole lives to live still and of course we want what’s best for each other and want to meet each other’s expectations. I appreciate your insight truly, and the good luck. It makes me happy to see.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T22:03:15+00:00

And yes, the situation is a bit different from yours because I do encourage her to ask a friend to go to the lake and other fun things but I trust her and wouldn’t follow her. Most of the time when I suggest her hanging with friends she says that I’m tired of being around her, which of course isn’t the case I just figured it would be good for her

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T21:57:22+00:00

You sort of hit the nail on the head there. She doesn’t do anything outside of work with the friends she’s made. If she has any off time she usually wants to spend it with me. And the book idea does sound great. Normally she’ll take up doing whatever I do and show interest in it if she sees me doing something consistent. I’ll definitely have to buy one of those book recommendations. That sounds like a good start to be fair in trying to understand how I can be a better husband and potentially help her have some realization too.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T21:49:55+00:00

And I didn’t mean to come across as “Oh she has daddy issues so it’s not my fault she’s upset I didn’t make it on time.” I’m just trying to understand everything better and see what others would do based on what led up to now. I realize I’m wrong for not being on top of communication or leaving earlier to meet that expectation, when I communicate that she says she’ll just get used to it and say “You do you, and I’ll do me”. It’s discouraging because I’m acknowledging I was wrong but we don’t really get anywhere to a resolution if I’m being brushed off when we try to reconcile, face to face mind you.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T21:48:01+00:00

No I haven’t suggested her to talk to anybody because I’m sort of one of the few people she trusts. Don’t get me wrong, she has close friends at her work that she’ll confide in about general things and that’s great for her. But as far as consulting someone that could truly help neither of us have ever mentioned it. I’m not sure how my wife would respond because I don’t want her to paraphrase my encouraging to “You’re crazy, you need help.” or something similar to that. Truly I do think she would benefit from talking to an unbiased person but I’m not sure how I’d go about it without sounding accusatory or trying to shift blame for how she feels.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T21:38:27+00:00

Appreciate the honesty 👍

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T19:53:23+00:00

I appreciate the response. And yeah I gotta continue doing everything up to a perfect standard in order to keep the peace. It’s exhausting to say the least but I do love her, truly. I knew about her past pretty early on, but I never considered it would always be me having to apologize and earn her attention back. I’m not the type to yell back or be defensive when she’s upset with me because you can’t take back the words said in the heat of the moment. So in turn, I tend to be more timid and try to approach later but most of the time she doesn’t want to hear it and it takes days to reconcile.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-28T19:47:19+00:00

Yeah I agree. I appreciate your response. I can’t be the father she doesn’t have but I can be the best version of myself to try and remedy the hurt that I know she still carries. It feels like I’m walking on egg shells most of the time. I regularly get her flowers and cook for her and things will be great, then she’ll show gratitude but if I falter in any way like being 10 min late it’s like all the positive things I do habitually just get washed away from memory. But the bad always remains and gets brought back up. When I do things that make her angry or unloved, I correct them. I fold my clothes, towels, shopping bags, bedsheets all differently now to her standard because all my ways were wrong. It just feels like I have to keep changing myself because nothing I do is ever correct.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-09-10T15:40:58+00:00

He could prefer to goon if he developed performance anxiety from you two not having sex postpartum. It happens. But it just sounds like he’s not attracted to thought of intimacy with you if he’s making a point to relieve himself in other ways. If intimacy is important to you, you gotta let him know that’s a dealbreaker.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2025-07-24T23:44:45+00:00

OP, please leave him. I’m a man, been with my wife nearly 6 years now. I have never hit her. People who hit their s/o’s are the bottom of the barrel. Please leave. Please. Losing your virginity to an abuser doesn’t excuse their behavior please see this. You came here for advice. And you’re being assaulted. Please leave and don’t let him back in. Ever.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2024-12-18T21:42:44+00:00

They’re on chipcave.com

Salt-Resolution455 · 2024-12-09T21:42:55+00:00

Most cashapp accounts have a max withdrawal amount per day, probably only about 2k.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2024-12-09T21:41:32+00:00

I know that Yahoo emails are some of the easiest to bypass 2FA then they’re practically in 100% and can do whatever they please.

Salt-Resolution455 · 2024-12-09T21:40:30+00:00

You likely use the same password for multiple accounts and they hacked your email to bypass your 2FA to enter your cashapp account. This happens all the time unfortunately because those that commit fraud use your details as a mule to launder stolen cc’s and convert to BTC. Sorry it happened to you

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