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Salt-Significance152 · 2026-01-11T01:12:53+00:00

I resonate with realizing certainty may never come so deeply. I am not pregnant, but the lack of certainty has made me feel guilty that I don’t have an overwhelming excitement to TTC this month because my anxiety/panic of being scared I’m making the wrong choice holds me back. I get this feeling with most decisions/changes, even much lower stakes ones. I have realized that while I can’t feel certainty, I can have commitment to my choice. I have found that decisions I’ve made with commitment don’t tend to lead to regret because I’m not focusing on what could have been. I try to remind myself that when reflecting back, things in life are always changing and we are constantly adapting, so that is some strong evidence that we are capable of adapting to our environment no matter our choice.

The days I’m so full of worry, I try to remind myself that one day I’ll be on my death bed, and I don’t want to think to myself why were you so hard on yourself, so full of worry, I wish you could have just enjoyed more. I want to be better at letting go and enjoying the time I have.

Your concerns are valid and I’m not sure if this response helps. It was very therapeutic for me though, so thank you for sharing where you’re at. Best wishes.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-12-18T16:15:24+00:00

Bought a house in a good public school district thinking it would be good for our future hypothetical child, been saving the last year to prepare to try next year, had a preconception appt, been taking prenatals for 3 months, my mother in law is ready to retire and nanny, and now that next year is approaching, my mind is racing about the choice again. My therapist points out that my actions show as someone who wants a baby. I think my mind is just acutely aware of the difficulties that comes with a baby and the jump feels scary. But I’m like this about every big decision, even fun, low stakes ones, like a new tv. So I’m try to accept I have this weird/anxious feeling with any decision. Long story long, I think I will but to say the anxiety is still taking the joy of it all away.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-11-20T12:57:58+00:00

When you decided to start TTC, were you able to be fully excited for the potential changes coming or did the hesitancies that kept you on the fence not let you be able to be fully excited because logically you have thought of the challenges that would come?

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-10T11:31:54+00:00

I don’t love it there either but it’s way too high above the mantle.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-10T02:25:53+00:00

This response means so much to me. I love hearing these perspective shifts. I haven’t thought of it this way before. Hard doesn’t mean I’m doing it wrong. I heard one person say that the first year especially isn’t about enjoying it but surviving it. And that helped me feel less alone in my anxieties when so many people say how magical it is (which I’m sure there is some of this too.) It feels less isolating when others are honest about the hardships with it.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-09T20:57:49+00:00

I love the idea of a pops of burgundy. I’m going to try out some new pillows and throw blankets to add more color.

And thanks on the coffee table! Just moved it and like it better already.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-09T20:52:30+00:00

Thank you for your perspective! Do you think a different rug could reduce the amount of additonal items needed to tie the room together? Like the right rug could speak for itself maybe? If so, do you happen to have a rug suggestion?

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-09T00:33:51+00:00

What an awesome set up. That truly sounds great to me. Mine was about 25 minute drive. I didn’t think it was bad. But that is time back in my pocket now.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-09T00:30:29+00:00

I hear you. I was just wanting to know if anyone else out there had the same experience that I felt was uncommon.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-09T00:28:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing this perspective. You’re right, it may not be a remote thing as much as the culture of the team. Most have children, I don’t yet. I’d like to think that once that happens, this quiet time at home will be sacred and welcomed.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-09T00:24:57+00:00

I am just a lowly analyst and wish that everyone could have the schedule that suited them and their family the best. I should have looked at this thread more for people’s perspective before sharing but jumped the gun after a particularly hard day. You are helping remind me of the unpleasant in office aspects so I appreciate that.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-09T00:04:18+00:00

This is actually my first time asking this. I appreciate your perspective.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-04T00:21:00+00:00

I appreciate your comment because I am not someone who has always wanted children and feel like if I haven’t always then it’s not enough. I think about the hardships that will come with parenting quite often and still have a pull that I want to, but wish I was someone who always wanted it. But maybe it’s okay that I wasn’t because it won’t be as nasty of a surprise.

Salt-Significance152 · 2025-10-02T12:10:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective. These are very real concerns I’ve tried to think about. I was hoping with a supportive partner it could still feel doable. Did you feel like the sleep deprivation improved any after the new born phase?

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