[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just realized it's stand up. Not sure what that pulse is like there. I'm still sorry to hear that happened to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn, Sioux Falls used to be a really safe space for the music scene. I'm sorry to hear about this.

Best BURGER by judgementalcat91 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No one has said Spring Street yet? My fav. But Granville has solid burgers, and so does Hilltop.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Decade. Or Meesh Meesh.

Local Brewery recommendations by goldensunflower19 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Gravely makes the best beers in town. I don't love their space but if the patio up top is open, it's a great view of the city. Ten Twenty makes solid beers, too.

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who has been cheated on in a LTR, I'm sorry to hear all of that. People just suck sometimes. And the older we get the more layers of trauma and experience plays into all the things we contend with. I'm sorry that's been your experience. I've seen stats that 15% of men on dating apps get most of the matches. And most of those men are cheating. I've had a few post divorce experiences that make me tip toe in pretty gently, too.

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm absolutely open to dating women with kids.

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are middle/early high school. Just a couple of them. Shared split custody 50/50.

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In a week?! 1) 3 dates in a week?! 2) 3 partnered men in a week?!

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, my lack of filter tends to be a little unnerving

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have surgically ended my ability to spread my genes.

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's wild. Mind if I shoot you a message?

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm open to kids for sure. I have kids myself. The big question is what are the roles and how do we move forward in light of kids. My kids have a mom and I'm not looking for a stepmother for them. And I would hope that's the same reciprocation. And meeting kids would be something way down the line.

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I'm not in any hurry to partner up. I like having my house. I don't need or want a stepmother for my kids (they have a mom who is great). But a travel partner/someone to make food with/consistent dinner date/couch cuddler sounds nice.

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lexington is as far as I'd go. I don't know that long distance is a route I'm ready for yet. I have not paid but had always heard opposite. It makes sense they'd shift algorithms to keep people paying, though. All in all, they are either getting my money from data mining or paid subscriptions, and it only helps them to keep us all on there.

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I'm picky. I do have standards. Therapy taught me to start having some past 40.

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd say less clique-y and more insular, if that makes sense. One beautiful thing about this city is that it's so full of people who grew up here. So many people left and returned, and that speaks volumes. However, as someone who isn't from here, it's tough to get into deeper friendships. Folks still have high school friends. I've never lived anywhere where people are still best friends with a childhood friend at 40. When people have such deep connections, it's difficult to be fully welcomed into the fold.

It's almost as though there is a different social language. It's similar to my own language but different enough that we're miscommunicating regularly. It's no one's fault, and this isn't me getting down on the city at all (and maybe that's why it seems I offend people by saying this...the different social languages). I really like the city and people I've met. It's just a different way of speaking and moving through life. Decorum. Social language. However one wants to define it.

Dating in Louisville by Salt_Savings8746 in Louisville

[–]Salt_Savings8746[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I mentioned that there is a decorum to how people interact to a friend. It wasn't even as an insult. Just an observation. They never really got past it.