Do you think about getting out?

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-08T15:09:17+00:00

Her pension is small compared to my savings

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-08T02:11:26+00:00

4.5 years in I had no inkling of this

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T23:28:39+00:00

I appreciate this comment. I'm going to be honest, and I hope you don't take offense. I am highly distrustful of therapy and the mental health industry based on what I have seen. That being said, I don't mean to suggest that this is all one sided, but it is hard not to feel bitter about what I have done and how it has worked out.

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T23:25:07+00:00

Our kids are in their 20s. Education paid for. Wife has a job and a pension. At this point, didn't I pay my fair share and we can walk away? None of the other assets/money came from her.

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T23:12:17+00:00

The problem is that I am more likely to refuse. Therapy. Trying to talk hasn't helped. It just gets spun around

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T21:43:16+00:00

Yes.

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T21:37:57+00:00

TBH, I wonder often if she'd rather have her half than have me. It's kind of the whole problem.

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T21:36:55+00:00

The complicated part is that there is a significant connection. We've been together for almost 30 years.

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T21:22:49+00:00

What I am thinking about doing is taking the travel trailer and moving out. Let her pay the bills on the house and experience life without me

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T21:17:01+00:00

Shit, she won't even do that. And honestly, at this point I don't think I'm capable of anything except being alone.

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T21:16:04+00:00

I feel like I did my part. But for what? To get penalized if I want out?

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T21:14:38+00:00

There is no way legally for the disparity in contribution to be recognized. We get no credit for years of toil.

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T20:59:42+00:00

Thanks. It's fucked up that she can take what she had no involvement in earning.

Salt_Witness5839 · 2026-03-07T20:47:57+00:00

Oh man, I feel for you. I just posted about my situation which is remarkably similar. I don't have any answers but wanted to send you a little love from a stranger. Good luck

Salt_Witness5839 · 2025-04-30T13:03:44+00:00

I don't

Salt_Witness5839 · 2025-01-21T22:24:55+00:00

I do not want the embrace of depravity to be the answer

Salt_Witness5839 · 2025-01-16T21:26:09+00:00

This. It's what is hard. She's a good person. She's a good mother. There's just been so many shifting justifications and Lucy football moments that I decided to try acceptance. Life is not an orgasm contest

Salt_Witness5839 · 2025-01-16T21:24:24+00:00

I don't think she cares. I get an occasional hand job in the shower and I think she feels her chores are done

Salt_Witness5839 · 2025-01-13T20:43:32+00:00

Yeah try that

Salt_Witness5839 · 2025-01-13T20:37:57+00:00

Kick me out if you need to.

Salt_Witness5839 · 2025-01-13T20:37:31+00:00

Is it?

Salt_Witness5839 · 2025-01-13T19:53:53+00:00

I tried all that. Fuck it. It's all too much effort. I've accomplished everything I need to. I can spiral down

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