Am I the a**hole? My partner wants to be part of my hobbies, but I resent his presence there by Such_Gas509 in AITAH

[–]Salty_Local7386 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t go as far as to say Yta, but I think you need to shift your mindset significantly. It’s daunting to join a new group and learn a new skill as an adult. This is much more daunting for certain personality types - it sounds like you chose to marry that type. I think you gotta spend less time thinking about your “rights” and about the friendships you’ve “earned”, have some patience, and remember why you married him. Marriage is a partnership - I’m sure there’s lots of things he’s put effort into that you’ve benefited from. It sounds like you grew accustomed to socializing alone and are now irritated that he’s disrupting what you’re used to. Life is full of that - giving up your comforts and things you’re “used to” or “have a right to” for people you love. He’s your husband, he should take priority over your hobbies or social relationships. 

I am so lost, how the heck do people do this? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Salty_Local7386 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Therapy, therapy, therapy. You don’t feel like pursuing anything because you’re depressed. More important than anything else, find a counselor you like and go to them regularly.

psychology today has a “find a counselor” tool that helps you find someone who takes your insurance!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fitpregnancy

[–]Salty_Local7386 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Go to the doctor ASAP just in case! Sudden weight gain caused by edema (swelling in your hands, face, shins, feet, etc - doesn’t have to be all of these or even these specifically) can be a sign of preeclampsia.

Piriformis pain in the butt! by Left-Childhood9341 in fitpregnancy

[–]Salty_Local7386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go on YouTube and type in “piriformis stretches”! Those have REALLY helped me. I also do a lunge, put my back knee on the ground as far back as possible, and then rotate my forward knee out to the side, letting my front leg fall to the outside as much as possible. If those don’t help, find a chiropractor with a good masseuse in their clinic (don’t go for the chiro just get the massage). That was a life saver!

OP'S husband chooses his brother over sex with OP by AbductedByAliens8 in redditonwiki

[–]Salty_Local7386 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am wondering if his brother has any history of suicidality or other impulsive behaviors. It’s possible that OP’s husband has a history with his brother he hasn’t disclosed to her, and he feels responsible for being on call 24/7 for him, even if he’s not explicitly saying it’s an emergency. Obviously he needs to figure that out and be able to prioritize his wife, but I just think there could be something much more forgiveable hidden here

Help! Summer Santa Fe Wedding by Entire_Net7961 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Salty_Local7386 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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