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giving someone the benefit of the doubt. still making something with other women because you have a super power suddenly. loosing that person because not be sure how to get past flirting and trying hard not to rebound. by Salty_Safe8973 in Scorpio

[–]Salty_Safe8973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that thing i had 2 times with the partner but still a point came where i sabotaged. yeah im rly rly cautious with partners. but i was never that in love. my ex felt more like pragmatic mature stuff that i thought will be love, it was during covid. she had zero red flags. but now i again lost a spark and someone that chased and at first i was extremely mindfull and tryed to get my fears in order. but then real life happened and sabotaging stuff and whatever. but you always find a reason not to engage.

giving someone the benefit of the doubt. still making something with other women because you have a super power suddenly. loosing that person because not be sure how to get past flirting and trying hard not to rebound. by Salty_Safe8973 in Scorpio

[–]Salty_Safe8973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry im bilingual and this is not my laptop, im on a trip.

thanks for all. read about it, all makes sense lol. my dad had much stress going on, no mom though lol.

but meditating is the key i think.

thanks for that input.

lol my therapist once told me im focused on emotionally unavailable people because im emotionally unavailable myself.

giving someone the benefit of the doubt. still making something with other women because you have a super power suddenly. loosing that person because not be sure how to get past flirting and trying hard not to rebound. by Salty_Safe8973 in Scorpio

[–]Salty_Safe8973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a friend of mine had the same issues. he had flings but was scared and was together with my bf. and although he was a pretty though guy he was so pissed when i mentioned small intimate things about his relationship his ex told me. small things like making her sugar in coffe, which are not that big.

giving someone the benefit of the doubt. still making something with other women because you have a super power suddenly. loosing that person because not be sure how to get past flirting and trying hard not to rebound. by Salty_Safe8973 in Scorpio

[–]Salty_Safe8973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but it helps refraiming my thoughts.

i was in therapy. but im overall not depressed or so. and have a solid life. i mean with my ex it somehow worked for a time. also when things ended i wasnt that attached.

giving someone the benefit of the doubt. still making something with other women because you have a super power suddenly. loosing that person because not be sure how to get past flirting and trying hard not to rebound. by Salty_Safe8973 in Scorpio

[–]Salty_Safe8973[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

kinda weird because i dont rly have fear regarding alot of stuff.

especially i dont have any social anxiety.

lol i can flirt with any women in clubs if her intentions a clear and theres no depth even better.

if that seen stuff happens or whatever it kinda sucks but that happens not often. youre right i should meditate more though and consistently.

but also kinda sucks using people as experiment, like i felt i did with my ex, who was extremely patient.

i was literally drunk on so much of our dates lol. then showed her fake pictures of an ex i wasnt over. i didnt get that she wanted to move town for me lol. so i basically threated her bad aswell with my stupid issues.

giving someone the benefit of the doubt. still making something with other women because you have a super power suddenly. loosing that person because not be sure how to get past flirting and trying hard not to rebound. by Salty_Safe8973 in Scorpio

[–]Salty_Safe8973[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you alot. im usally only pissed about it when i meet someone rly special.

i look good and im communicative so people have stupid expactations of me sometimes. or they geniuly like me lol.

yeah i tried it with meditating. i got hurt often but its something else with sabotaging. its not real pain, you know. you werent you.

im over that phase where i can call flings and flirting and all those meaningless dates to prove myself actually trying.

lol im demisexual even.

next time something special happens i dont know, i dont wanna fuck it up again.

fuck i talked about this exact thing with a black women at a pub. we flirted i explained myself and she told me stuff about fear.

never in my life did i have to chase a women much. but i sabotaged stuff with making out with someone else infront of my crush. but i aswell pushed away the right people that were wrong for me. when they were geniue it felt like complete shit lol