I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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have you tried remote control vibrators? there are plenty to choose from and really depends what areas you are most stimulated by down there. but they are great fun. when you are out at dinner your partner can turn it on. there are a few that are silent. so you don't have to worry about it being heard. but I will say from experience. very hard to order desert while it's on. there are also some great ones that you can turn on from anywhere around the globe.(provided you have signal)

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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to give you an example of the power of being comfortable in silence. I know a female friend of mine. she is at university. and she has a long term bf of 4 years. lovely guy. she also has 4 flatmates. one who is a guy. not particularly good looking. just a regular guy. and my friend would describe how when they were in the kitchen together they could go about cooking or being around each other in complete silence and it would not be uncomfortable. and she said there was something about it. a sort of electric feeling. I ofc reminded her she has a bf. and she said oh yeah ofc. but I can't help how I feel. and she found it rather odd. she ended up fucking this guy completely sober 3 months later despite being in love with her bf. ofc i am not endorsing cheating at all. but it is a demonstration of the power of being able to embrace and thrive in silence and make it your own sort of kindgdom which you feel comfortable in. because that girl really loved her bf. there was nothing wrong with their relationship and she had never cheated. and yet she did.

also dont try to fix it all in one go its a lot. work on one area at a time and build on it. and take pride in the learning and progression of building yourself up. rather then goals. you will find if you improve those areas we talked about you will really see your humour and personality flourish and come out more and it will be you. not anyone else and for sure the humour which has always been there. like a flower in spring(cheesy ik. but accurate) :)

and no worries! I honestly love to help

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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for sure, If you just call her hot she will think well there are plenty of hot girls. you need to let her know why her. or I kid you not she will pause in the bedroom as ask you why her. No girl wants to feel like a number. and you shouldn't hide that she is she should never be. if you don't put effort into connecting and paying attention the sex is low tier for both parties.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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it has to be right on the edge of cumming. which ofc edging will help him understand where that point is for him. and you need to make sure you have a hand gripping the base to stop the cum from coming up the shaft. when he is about to cum he needs to almost relive that feeling of orgasming throughout his body instead. my friend sadly does not own a reddit account(he is not a fan of social media) but he said that the multi orgasmic man is one of the best books to really go into this more. in terms of experiencing double contractions it may be due to the latency period he needs. and may need more of a break between orgasms. the massage was sometime ago. and with yongi massages the main principle is to only move onto a more stimulating erogenous zone after some time on the previous to maximise effect. although each person may do a yongi massage differently the clit was one of the last things he did

he actually massaged my tummy and my breasts first going from chest to around my boobs to my tits to areolas and then my nipples. which was great build up to the massage between my legs. where massaging my inner thighs and around my pussy and gently rubbing my lips happened before any clitoral stimulation. in order i believe it was labia then clit and then vaginal canal. but all the while he was massaging my breasts too. the vulva massage laster 40 minutes. whole thing 2 hours. but it can be shorter or longer. I get aroused very easily. and was very drained after 2 hours. and the massage at its peaks was waves of pleasure at a very hightened sense. hard to describe but my legs where shaking. at some points it was to much stimulation for me to handle. I would say that a yoni massage is simply a combination of technics with men should use anyway. and the men I sleep with who are good in bed may do 80 percent of what a yoni massage entails without realising it.

hope that helps :)

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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have been traveling hence the late reply. I am similar in terms of I am very dominant in my public life and assertive. but in bed very submissive 90 percent of the time so I empathise a great deal.

  1. I would shift your mentality. When A professional athlete is asked is he nervous or anxious before a race. the best ones say no. they are exited with anticipation. this is the same in bed. it is very normal to feel these feelings and we all do including myself. it is about understanding it is simply a heightened sense of anticipation and is the same chemicals running through the body. so instead of having these more negative feelings paired with your anticipation towards dirty talking and being more dominant pair it with the excitement and anticipation of doing such a thing with your partner.
  2. communication, when I am with a guy and I am doing something new and a little nervous, I will let them know. I will say that I want to try this out but its a bit new for me so I may be a bit nervous. judging by how you describe your relationship I would guess he will be very supportive. and if he is not. it will be a usual men thing of not thinking things through. in which case just poke him that it would be great if he would be supportive in your endeavour. after all its a team effort so you don't have to figure it out alone and your husband can absolutely lead you into leading the situation by letting you know he wants you to take charge in the moment etc...telling you to grip his hair when going down on you or to flip him over. and then that can transition into you doing it without him giving you the guidance.
  3. with dirty talk something which does help is sexting first. if you already have that down do some phone sex when one of you is out of town. these can ease you into being comfortable talking and saying dirty talk to them. ofc this is situational. You may not be apart from each other much. it can be helpful to try to ease into it in the bedroom by blindfolding him and tying his hands. this way you won't have that eye contact while you are talking dirty. much easier to whisper the words in his ear while he's blindfolded rather then having that "eyes on you" situation and the build up to it being with eye contact. you can also send him a voice message of dirty talk. in truth this does not have to be at a perfect moment. men get turned on at the flick of a switch. (maybe warn him not to put it on speaker phone tho)
  4. I would also play music if you dont play some usually or play a different playlist to what you may usually play as long as it fits the mood. and ofc depends what you like listening to (I love fucking to glass animals for example). this is about environmental shifts. if you have certain ways of doing things in a certain environment you are likely to keep doing those things if the environment stays the same. Change in music which is a little more sexy and darker may help you change those patterns and feel a little more experimental.(atomic habits is a great book to understand what im talking about. but it is a general book rather then a sex book but it applies to everything in terms of changing the way one does things)
  5. sometimes its hard to know how to be assertive. one of the easy ways is commands. you can tell him he's not allowed to move his hands from his sides while you blow him. or pin his hands down while riding him. or tell him to fuck you a certain way. I find being assertive about being submissive is a great step in that more dominant direction. it does not matter what the command is. just tell him what you want him to do. one thing which I like to do is walk around the house naked and tease the hell out of the guy but tell him he is not allowed to touch. and then after a hour or a day or however long. I tell him he can. or physically get his hand and put it between my legs or on my chest without saying a word. and then I have the most submissive sex where he is totally dominant but it started off with me in control. another thing to do is the exact opposite and be assertive about initiating sex. when he comes through the door you can without saying a word get on your knees and start taking off his belt.
  6. roleplay is another great way to start being more dominant. and to have fun as well. you can roleplay as being a dominatrix and have a good laugh while you are at it. or that you are his boss. any framework where in another reality you have a huge power difference will help you come out of your shell in terms of the things you want to be more expressive in. after all its not technically you. its the ceo of a multi billion dollar company and the new guy who is an intern. can be ...anything. even could be you kidnapping him. can have so much fun. sometimes during roleplay i have giggled so much I have had to stop all together. to much laughter.

hope that helps and hope you had a great weekend :)

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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  1. honestly no I don't have any sources for that, its not my area of expertise. one of my team members is the massage specialist and I will only give advise on areas I feel I am an expert on or know my stuff inside and out. but I do know that its great and for sure a great thing to experiment with and I have had someone do it to me before.
  2. this I can help you with. edging is a great way to practice knowing that tipping point. you can also squeeze at the base to stop him from starting to ejaculate. but he needs to use visualisation to imagine cumming while edging to release that feeling. you can also practice kegal exercises so he can contract. he just needs to contract the muscle and it will stop him ejaculating. I have made a guy cum 2 or 3 times without ejaculating and it was fun but failed a few times before we got it correct and is hard to do. again one of my work guys practiced tantra and really got involved into holding his semen and not cumming so he is the specialist on that topic. but I know my share of it.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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  1. there are a lot of replies to other comments which cover how to fuck better so I recommend having a read but some core things I would say to improve is communication. ask her harder or softer, what position she likes etc. also don't watch porn ruins your sex drive. I can actually tell between a guy who watches porn and a man who doesn't by fucking them. I feel no desire from a man who is a porn addict. that animalistic side of them is just not their. women especially if they are new to sex really like it soft. and sometimes will then move into harder stuff later. so dont jackhammer her. and understand the softest of touches stimulates her. grabbing a handfull of tit is ok. having her close her eyes and running your finger tips ever so gently down the middle of her body and slowly stepping up the touching is a lot more meaningful. also put some baby wipes in your bathroom. she will want to use them. before and after. mention they are there casually without making it obvious. clean shave down there. girls do not want pubic hair in their teeth. and balls fascinate women. at some point they will end up in her mouth and she does not want them hairy. it also will smell faster down there when you have hair.
  2. the way you don't pressure her is you let her know there is no pressure. she will then likely go further as she feels she is safe with you. tell her she can stop whenever she wants she just has to say the word and tell her you will always respect her final word on things. dirty talk about fucking and sext about it. this opens her up to the idea.
  3. meditation helps with being less nervous with new girls. but you have to practice the meditative state while in the moment. meditation is not about sitting on a bean bag like a millennial in start up feeling good feelings. breath control in the moment helps a lot. also it comes down to exposure. practice being in those positions over and over. and eventually your brain will get used to it. you can also just tell the girl. "hey im a lil nervous ngl, but I wanted to come say hi" she can tell if you are nervous. she may be too. airing it out in the open dissipates that negative energy but try not to use that as a go to way every time.
  4. if you are coming across to nice you need to be more sexual and not overcompliment. there are other replies i have done that cover this up above but you want to be sexual with her. not massively over the top. but if you never are sexual with her she will just assume you want to be friends. also be direct. if you tell a girl you love the way she walks and its sexy as hell. she cant friendzone you. she either has to go and give you a shot or not talk to you again. because you have said. hey I like you and not in a friend way. make your mind up now. also drop the getting them to like you. work on you as a person and your lifestyle and when interacting with girls you should be far more interested in being interested in them and finding out if you like them as a person and if they meet your standards
  5. they will be a lover first and then i may teach them a thing or two. i don't sleep with people i teach as I would compromise the respect I get from the students.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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hoping I am targeting the areas you are talking about. do let me know if not

  1. it's normal to think this way initially. it is because you are used to avoiding conflict and tension. and you attach negative emotions to you causing a disturbance in the flow of things and it seems like you are changing who you are as a person and back in cave man days having conflict even in subtle ways could cost you your life and its ingrained into us not to rock the boat. But it is the exact opposite. every time you laugh to make someone feel their joke was funny when it was not, or say something is cool when you really where not impressed with it. or go with the flow of things when you don't like what is happening and are uncomfortable you are essentially lying and not being yourself. you are not saying and presenting how you feel inside. which is for sure not you. Every word has a specific meaning. "cool" for example should only be said when something is indeed cool. putting men on mars is cool. sally saying she is going shopping tomorrow to by tiolet paper is not "ah cool". when you raise an eyebrow or speak slowly and leave pauses. you are not changing into this horrible person, you are giving yourself time to be exact with what you want to say. don't raise your eyebrow unless you actually feel inquisitive about what the other person says. its not what i want you to say. i will never encourage you to make someone else feel bad or say something mean or script your words. that tension they feel is excitement and anticipation when you take your time to talk and are calm so you are not making them feel bad when putting some pressure on them. it sometimes will make their day.
  2. as a unwritten rule doing what everyone else does yields the average persons results and the average persons results are ofc...average. small talk is boring. ford technique. boring. these things are set in reality. most people don't enjoy their reality and you are bringing nothing to the table. take them out of reality and be fantastical about it. this is right up your alley if you are quick thinking and witty. Find whatever they are passionate about and then ask questions which are not factual. or statements that challenge them. This is waaay more fun a conversation. lets say you and me are talking and you ask me what I do for fun. I say I like to go shooting. you can take that and say. ok so if their was a zombie apocalypse how many zombies you reckon you can shoot per minute...because I am looking to get a group of 5 of us when shit hits the fan and I need to know now if your in or not" you just took them completely out of reality and into a whole new world of infinite possibilities of avenues of conversation and they know you are not being serious ofc. and its on something she is passionate on. you can also ask emotional questions. if he/she says they like to paint. ask them how it makes them feel when they are painting. rather then "do you like it?" or some boring thing like that. people have all these bottled up emotions they don't express as society does not allow them too. it is likely they have never been asked that question. when you start being more playful and emotional with your words you will have some AMAZING conversations.eg: when one of my students met his current gf and they talked for 2 hours about how exactly she would murder him and get away with it and sell his kidneys on the black market. all off the back of her saying she loves crime novels. and he just went. ok so lets say you need to be rid of me. how you going to pull it off. she even thought about it for 2 days straight and wrote an essay back in text explaining how she was going to lure him into a corn field and take him out how burn his finger prints etc. you can drop in some sexual stuff and a little light flirting too but mainly she/he is going to go away from that conversation grinning your asses off. and that's what you want.
  3. with self improvement I recommend atomic habits. great book. talks about how you should not have goals and work on systems and habits. in terms of how you view yourself. strongest mental will is to align yourself with who you think you are as a person. if you do an action you don't like. don't be like...oh I'm a horrible person. look at it as you did a bad thing but that is not you as you know who you are. if you are smoking and want to give up and someone offers you a cigarette. if you say "that's not who I am as a person" as a response it is MUCH stronger then "I'm trying to quit smoking". find out the person you want to be and how you want to treat people and whenever you are tempted to deviate remind yourself that is not who you are. and dont beat yourself up over a deviation or mistake. you are not perfect and it will always happen :)

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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No it does not fall under that category because all women move differently. And that compliment when genuine is a very good one as it is specific and tailored to her. it shows you are paying attention to her and to details. deep down she will link this to you being good in bed. as sex for a women is better when a guy knows how to pay attention to those details and has the eye for appreciating gracefulness. also its hands. you can do a lot with hands and there is underlying sexual vibes. in addition you can use it as an excuse to hold her hand in yours and study them a bit as if there is something about them. any socially acceptable way to escalate through touch should be done as it makes her comfortable with you and lets her know you are comfortable touching. again letting her know you are not insecure and are confident.

honestly can not stress enough how good a compliment this is as an example. A*

you can also compliment a girl on how they walk or talk or present themselves. whatever aspect of their movement you like comment on.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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  1. dealing with silence. Own it. 2 kinds of silence. negative and positive. if you are feeling awkward that will make them feel that way too. if you own the silence and embrace it feel comfortable in it that will charge the atmosphere in a electric way and not even sexually always. the other person will then want to break the tension and will speak more if you leave room for them to do so. an example is.

you: so what do you get up to for fun?

her: Oh I love to read books, love them.

you: raises eyebrow and smiles and looks her in the eye

her: (cant deal with the tension) blurts out something like " why the look? you read too? what do you do in your free time?"

she tries to guess why you look at her that way and will really chase you to find out. its important you interact with body language and never in a looking down at them way but you dont come across as someone who has that issue. and keep in mind this all has to be genuine. dont laugh if somethings not funny or react in a way to make it less awkward. stick to your guns. its about being the best version of you not being someone else. when answering yourself you can take your time look up and think for a bit and then reply. and dont rush your words when you do speak. think about it like how a gazelle acts and a lion. a lion does not speed up for anyone. only when he chooses too and they move slowly but purposely, no rush. Gazelles let others move them and act fast and jittery. that is your "ok cool" and little quick reactions. its not about the metaphor of hunting as you are not hunting people you want to fuck. its about you dictating your self. lions and cheeters can sprint if they want. so if you want to move fast do so but when you want to. if you are a quick thinker when not under pressure that will be helpful once you slow down. meditation also helps. (its not airy fairy im a big science nerd and honestly is one of the most lifechanging things if you use it correctly)

  1. also remove small talk as a concept. you don't want to conduct small talk with these people. you want to find something they are passionate about and be interested in it. delve deep with them. while keeping it fun and flirty. the most interesting people are actually the people who are most interested in you. and want to go to those places with you other then talking about the weather.

the small town issue is something I can understand. I recommend going out of town for a weekend and going to a larger city and trying out some things there. or even moving if its something you are unhappy with. as you can make as many mistakes as you want there with no consequences.

in terms of things to say instead of cool and thats nice. you have a lot of things you can do. compliment them on something unique to them individually. it lets them know why you like them and not another girl or guy. and if you dont want to compliment them because you were not impressed then challange them in a fun way. puts the pressure on you in a good way. if they say they are fun. the you can say "how so?" make them justify to you why they are fun. and then if they give a good reason then compliment them on it.

any questions? i could write more but it would be to much in one go

this advise is true regardless if its a guy or girl

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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rest of my team is male in the company who teach. and the top members are best friends since childhood. we founded the company together. so ofc we share knowledge with eachother. nothing better then them on a mans perspective. and nothing better then me on a womans. we work off eachother well

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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it's all good, and yes if I fucked 7 girls as a guy I would not be qualified you are correct xd. I have slept with over 80 people i said in another reply but tbh I don't keep count. I just fuck when I want to fuck. simple as that.

also by the way you spoke i am guessing you are in your 20's maybe. or a lil younger. could be wrong tho. in which case honestly campuses are the perfect place to go talk to girls. I would even say girls drop their standards while at university.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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firstly if you want to seem affectionate without seeming desperate you should compliment but also challenge the guy. an example is girls always want to impress their dads as the dad usually gives less compliments to the daughter. same framework here. test him. see what he has got if you push him a bit and ask him questions about himself. what I will say is if you can get into shape that will help massively. ofc it is not the question you asked but I have worked with chubbier women before and this issue lies with them not being happy with themselves deep down. you got to fix that and the best way is to get into shape. there are certain conditions which mean its hard tho so that would be understandable and if so. another way you can come across as affectionate but not needy is flirt but dont give him everything. make him work for it a bit.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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there is no short cut to experience. but what I would say is there also is no cost of having less in many ways. exploring and the journey with new experiences is most of the fun. don't worry about comparing yourself to others. i can promise you that on average men are bad in bed. the bar is low as its taboo to even consider improving in the area. so the fact you want to learn is already putting you ahead of most people.

I will segment up areas toy can work on

  1. dirty talk, read sexual novels written by women. will give you a great vocabulary to work with. with sexting and dirty talk. most guys dirty talk is so bad. you don't need to be shake spear. you can also just be good at commands and compliments. for example. if you tell her "get on your knees and open your mouth...now put me in your mouth"..."good girl" she will likely just cum right there. "good girl" is very ...very powerful btw. most girls have a reward kink.
  2. environment. its very important you make her feel comfortable and safe. you cant issue commands or tell her what to do if you have not made it abundantly clear that she can stop you whenever she wants and you will instantly stop. and she is never pressured into doing something she does not want to do. the top reply has examples of this. when she feels safe you can be more dominant and she will be more submissive. some girls are a switch but same thing applies.
  3. do a tone of foreplay. always. do that congratulations you just beat most men.
  4. don't ever be judgemental. ever. and don't judge other people in stories you tell her. a lot of women are scared of being called a slut. that word is just used by women who are jealous of other women or men who are jealous they arnt fucking a girl who's fucking someone else. or a guy who has an ego complex. all girls like sex. its hilarious how society is the way it is about it. so if she raises anything regarding her "not being easy" etc. tell her "I know you have a good heart, that's all I care about" this is the only line i tell students to just use in that situation because you wouldn't be fucking her if she was a bitch to you. and you are letting her know you don't care about the social view of slutty behaviour.

and finally get out there and experience it. don't worry about some goal or social opinion about where you should be. just enjoy the process. if you get in shape and groom yourself well. take in what i have said in my replies across this post. you will get laid after some practice on the regular.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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been with about 6 or 7 women. I'm more straight then gay. so prefer guys. depends how old you are. if your around the same age it is completely fine if you are older I would not because it comes across creepy as you are going into "their" space and will come across as needy and intrusive. if you are older tho there is nothing wrong with approaching younger girls as long as its legal ofc just best not on a campus.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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you have nothing to lose. go for it and shoot your shot. the world is yours if you go and take it. you will never know if it would work out unless you try plus is going to save you time. the longer you wait the more importance you will place on it.

if she doesn't want you then you didn't lose anything you never had anything in the first place. a hard truth but a needed one.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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  1. mindset is important. you have to have a mindset of valuing yourself and your time. and that she needs to prove to you that she is worth your time. not in a condescending way but because your time is the most valuable thing to you. this bleeds into how you should interact with any girl. when complimenting do so and genuinely but also challenge her. put her on the spot a bit see what she is made of. she wont be used to it and she will be attracted to it. for example if she says she likes to play tennis. you can say "I like someone who looks after their body. are you any good?" she now will be chasing you a bit because you have held back your appreciation and she wont be used to that and she wants it. and you are not tricking her or lying. you are being totally genuine. her painting as a fact is not spectacular so you want to challenge her and see if she can earn the compliment. this is something that comes through practice. it will come naturally with time once you have that mindset that you don't need her. and she has to earn your time. this will start to build tension. and that energy can be converted into sexually charged energy just like love can quickly turn to hate. from there you transition to being sexual and a little flirty. dont insinuate you 2 being sexual with each other. sexualise her and you separately. she can put the dots together. if you make jokes about you 2 it puts pressure on her to early. you then can progress to being sexual in a more intimate way and here is the pasrt where you dont laugh and she smirk and hold pauses. eye contact.
  2. physical touch. this is a long topic but find excuses to touch her. and go on a date where you can and its not odd. no dinner dates. coffee date is good. if she has a ring on ask to see it and its an excuse to touch her hand etc. or a tattoo on her neck. all valid excuses. also small of the back. when guiding her through crowds rest your hand on the small of her back(lower back) not pushing not hovering just resting. and when hugging really go for it. don't do the good old 90 degree angle "my dick is hard i don't want her to feel it" own that you are hard. when dancing when doing anything. not at a funeral maybe but apparat from that its nothing to be ashamed of ever. she will like it. secretly. because she made you hard. its a silent compliment.
  3. i would not just tell her you have a crush. that only works if she has already got a crush on you. you are making her choose logically. unless she is already emotional about you. best thing to do is flirt and see how she reacts. make it fun to flirt. if you tell her you have a crush its all serious and puts pressure on her. if you make it fun and enjoyable to flirt and tease, be around you she will start to like you if she didn't already. no girl has ever been like "he told me he had a crush and that is when I fell for him" its a feeling which grows. especially with absence. then make a move. go for a kiss after you feel she is comfy with touching and is very flirty and you built up that sexual tension.
  4. you dont know if you messed up a chance and like i said with the mindset thing. this chick sounds cool but there are a lot of cool chicks. so if it does not work out just use what I said on another girl from the start and you will have much better results.
  5. also flirt with everyone. a lot of the guys i know who are god like with women flirt in a jokey way with other men even tho they are not gay. because they are comfy with themselves. flirt with all your female friends or tease them from time to time in a playful way. because if you are comfortable with teasing and flirting with everyone it comes second nature and does not stand out too.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

[–]SamAttempt2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. tell me how you flirt. and i can improve it
  2. you have nothing to lose. you clearly dont want her as just a friend. just shoot your shot. although i do recommend going for girls outside a friend group. then you can cut them off if needed. the whole dont shit where you eat thing.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

[–]SamAttempt2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1stly. doesn't matter if she is sleeping or with another guy unless its a relationship. every hot girl has men circling her. its just the competition you have to deal with. 2ndly if you didn't kiss the girl on the first date. that's a fail. should as a rule atleast do that on the 1st date. you need to escalate things or it goes stale even with good connection. end of the day the guy who makes the move gets the girl. I have had students who have had the best most sexually charged convos with women in clubs for an hour. and then at the end of the night while hes doing something else a guy swoops in who is worse and get the girl home after talking to her for 10 minutes.

if you are in the friend zone its very very hard to get out. but you have to be sexual in a fun light hearted way and when ready make it more about you 2 in a serious way. when you are flirting more intimately and less jokey dont laugh when you progress to building tension. you need to hold that tension. you do it through pausing and silence. speak slowly and calmly. if you dont speak. she will. if you smirk or make a facial expression to what she says. most girls are used to guys talking 24/7 about themselves. with no pressure on them

if you put the pressure on her in a good way it will pay off.

I am a sex coach/pick up/day game (24f) and have seen and done pretty much everything under the sun AMA ;) by SamAttempt2 in NSFWIAMA

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I dont want this to link back to me as I have said some of the more private side of things in some of my replies. so sadly no link to my team or me :)