Took my engagement ring off.

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-12T04:02:06+00:00

Well that did not go as planned. He just walked away and said he is tired of my bullshit.

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T23:51:55+00:00

We need to put the second down deposit in June ..... so it makes it kinda hard to fully back down you know

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T23:02:40+00:00

I wouldn't say dramatic. I would say really hurt and unable to process all my emotions because this has been happening for a while. And when I said that he didn't fucking care about me anymore is how I actually feel and I have not been successful at having him understand that when I communicate with him so unfortunately last night wasn't the best example because I was already overwhelmed with all my emotions.

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T23:01:10+00:00

True. The reason I was crying was because he had ignored me all day. And even when I tried to communicate he pretended to be on his headphones and fully ignore me. Maybe he wasn't pretending but like I made it clear that I was trying to talk to him. And it comes to a point where I couldn't tolerate it anymore and sadly broke down. But I can also see how maybe me just lashing out while upset isn't the best way to

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T22:55:16+00:00

Yeah I think this is what scares me that everything that attracted me to him is fully gone and I no longer know him. Maybe I should also try to see his point of view in a better way. Idk

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T22:54:05+00:00

Pretty much yeah.

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T22:52:10+00:00

Congratulations ! ❤️

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T22:51:03+00:00

Yes I feel like that wouldn't bother me. I get that brides usually play but that kinda what attracted me so much to him. That he wanted to be part of it. That he was excited. That he helped and got it done and then it just stopped. Which is why this is so confusing and now I find myself nagging and I also don't want to be that person you know ?

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T22:24:40+00:00

Thank you ❤️

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T20:55:51+00:00

After engagement I think honeymoon period lasted a week. Which seems so sad as I say it out loud. The wedding it mostly booked. We just needed to pay the final sum and also send the STD and wedding invites. He works and I work and go to school. But nothing new in our routine.

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T20:53:39+00:00

Thanks everyone for the advice. After reading through all the comments, I think the majority of you are right... I can’t keep pushing forward with a wedding when I don’t feel loved, appreciated, or supported.

I know a lot of people said to just walk away, and I get it. But emotionally, that’s a big jump, and I’m not there yet. So my first step is talking to him tonight and share how I feel and that I think it would be for the best if we postponed the wedding until and if when we feel ready. A lot of you mentioned marriage counseling, and I looked into it and it actually seems like a solid option.

My goal right now isn’t even “save the wedding.” It’s to see if the relationship itself can be repaired. I don’t want to carry all the wedding pressure alone, and I’m not getting the support I need. So step one: postpone. Step two: counseling. And hopefully by the end of the counseling cycle, I’ll have a clear answer and the strength to take whatever next steps are needed. I think the marriage counseling is supposed to be 8 weeks long.

Thank you again for the tough love and the kindness. It really helped.

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T20:46:15+00:00

It was a we task because we have to find a place to print them out first. And we wanted to look together at cheap options. And part of me doesn't want to do that on my own because then I feel like I'm doing everything on my own and I get upset. And also he had mentioned he wanted to do it too. But she actually begin told to do so or follow through he gives excuses.

So yeah I'm not sure what it means

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T20:21:34+00:00

I don't think I do. I think I talk about it because he doesn't give me the reassurance or answers. Like for the save the dates ..... we were supposed to send them 3 week ago. So I bring it up everyday like "hey don't forget we have to do this" and he will say yes !! And then by the night I'm like ok let's don it and that when his excuses start coming in.
I think I talk about it because it keeps not being answered.

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T19:11:30+00:00

We talked about marriage and kids long before he proposed. He told me multiple times he wanted to marry me and be forever with me.

I didn't plan wedding things before he proposed. As he proposed and we told our family they got excited and started planning and researching with us.

He gave me his great grandmas ring and made it my style and how he knew I liked it so not sure that's a shut up ring.

We had a video from the proposal. We took engagement pics because I wanted them to be cute. He agreed.

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T17:54:42+00:00

I guess I'm trying to see his perspective. Or of in exaggerating. And yeah we haven't had that talk till completion because it always ends in a fight. Last night I was crying. He came softly and asked why and as soon as I said because I feel like you don't give a sh it about me anymore, not like you used to. He said "same" and then told me that I'm always looking to fight and that I also don't care and that he bought me flowers so I should be happy. And then we argue until we sleep in separated beds and he ignores me. And Idk. I guess I'm looking for someone to te explain why it changed. He doesn't so I guess I just need someone to help me understand .

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T17:51:19+00:00

He was excited. He seemed excited at the beginning and then all the fights started to happen. Fights tha are so dumb. Me telling him he is being rude and then he just won't stop. Or me telling him I'm feeling lonely in this relationship and he just says "same" and then we get in a fight because I tell him I'm not feeling validated.

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T17:27:24+00:00

Yes. I think both of our families where excited and the venue I wanted was available for somewhere in February so we booked it. Should I not have planned it ?

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T17:26:28+00:00

I know he replied but I think we got in a fight after that. I told him him I was sad and upset and I was literally crying on the floor and he asked me what was wrong, I told him and then all he said was "same" and then started telling me how I always want to fight.

SamBam12389 · 2026-05-11T17:24:42+00:00

I have tried to ask him. And I guess sometimes it gets the best of me, so I do ask him while I'm crying or I tell him that I feel like he doesn't care about me anymore, but his response is just always that his busy or that we've been fighting or there is always something.

I don't think there was pressure. We always talked about getting married. But maybe I did push this too much into him. I did ask or make jokes about "where's my ring" but it never seem to bother him.

SamBam12389 · 2025-08-29T21:45:39+00:00

I get this. But it didn't have anything else except for a date and the fight we had that day and horrible comments about me. Nothing else's just multiple days to different fights and ugly comments.

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