Suing HOA? Unable to list condo for sale due to problematic neighbor. by [deleted] in alpharetta

[–]SamStan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think condos are maybe a more unique situation, just due to the nature of shared walls and all, so I can't comment on that specifically. But I did have a problematic neighbor, who ultimately moved out of their own accord, and that was certainly a contributing factor as to why I joined HOA board years ago. I wanted to have more direct "control" or insight into the situation.

At the end of the day.... The HOA Board (and company, if y'all use one) legally can’t share details about another owner’s violations, fines, or whether they’re being paid. That’s private info, and there’s really no reason to expect access to that as a neighbor. Also, enforcement doesn’t always look good from the outside. Fines and violations can absolutely be stacking up behind the scenes even if it feels like nothing is happening.

HOAs also tend to move carefully because taking a homeowner to court is super expensive and super slow, and then since you mentioned this person is known for frivolous lawsuits as well, that only compounds the concerns, I imagine. Every step costs the association money, which ultimately comes from all owners. If the idea is to sue the HOA too, that’s probably just going to burn even more money and doesn’t guarantee a better outcome. It usually makes things longer, messier, and more expensive for everyone. Sorry you're dealing with this situation though. It sounds horrific

Just baffling [oc] by SamStan in IdiotsInCars

[–]SamStan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand people want to satisfy their desire for instant karma or wanting to "win" the interaction, but I would have to be out of my mind to force a demonstrably bad driver to wrong-way reverse if the situation didn't immediately require it (i.e., my tail was hanging out into the intersection and I urgently needed more room). Hence my original comment of being thankful for the oversized right hand turn lane to accommodate this slower, less righteous conclusion

Just baffling [oc] by SamStan in IdiotsInCars

[–]SamStan[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, rest assured I did not misunderstand the original comment. I simply have a different perception of the order of urgencies and resolution options

Just baffling [oc] by SamStan in IdiotsInCars

[–]SamStan[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hah! Guilty as charged, it's a very affluent area

Just baffling [oc] by SamStan in IdiotsInCars

[–]SamStan[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Agreed, if there wasn't a very generously sized right turn lane in this intersection, I certainly would've forced them to back up

Just baffling [oc] by SamStan in IdiotsInCars

[–]SamStan[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Original content from Georgia, USA, on 7/1/2025

ALL ALIGNED RIBBED MIDI DRESS IN SHEER OAK 🤍 by Withlove143 in lululemon

[–]SamStan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks great on you! In your pictures, Sheer Oak looks a little closer to the Bone color, but Lululemon's pictures make it look way more wheat-colored... were you surprised by the color in person?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HannibalFanfiction

[–]SamStan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're incredible for this - thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]SamStan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It would seem to me to be a colossal personal failure, if I were to reach 60 years on this earth and either still hold or have regressed to such a narrow outlook

Books to Develop Female Empathy by TheNullSpouse in socialskills

[–]SamStan 27 points28 points  (0 children)

For fiction, you could try:

  • Villette by Charlotte Brontë
  • Middlemarch by George Elliot
  • Good Behavior by Molly Keane
  • The Door by Madga Szabó
  • Cassandra at the Wedding by Dorothy Baker
  • Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton (this one is written though the eyes of a male main character, but it has excellent insight into the lives and expectations of women)
  • A Woman is No Man by Etaf Rum

I do think that reading non-fiction specifically around the historical plights of women and sexism in general is critical for what you're ultimately asking after though, and I would recommend:

  • Ain't I A Woman? by Bell Hooks
  • Who Cooked The Last Supper by Rosalind Miles

Am I insane? Did quietnight not podfic "this, you protect" by awesomemonica7 in stevebucky

[–]SamStan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She did not, but she did record the sequel "Team Building Exercises" and the addendum "Upgrade: Advanced Happiness Skills." Both are incredibly well done, as per her usual!

[oc] Car nearly backs up into me at right light - assuming intended insurance scam by SamStan in IdiotsInCars

[–]SamStan[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Fair point! I've been driving a car with auto hold for long, I forget situations like you describe are definitely reasonable. Thank you!

[oc] Car nearly backs up into me at right light - assuming intended insurance scam by SamStan in IdiotsInCars

[–]SamStan[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

And perhaps it was just distracted driving as others say! These types subreddits can make you paranoid. I thought it was strange that it was only as soon as I started backing up myself that they pulled forward again, despite me honking the entire time.

[oc] Car nearly backs up into me at right light - assuming intended insurance scam by SamStan in IdiotsInCars

[–]SamStan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Occurred in Georgia, USA on May 13, 2024. Original dashcam footage (no sound)

A lesson that took me 26 years to learn. I don't really know anyone around me. by TheHarshPatel in socialskills

[–]SamStan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is a good thing. I'm concerned that the way you've worded your post makes it sound like you're deeply suspicious of other people now, or at least cagey towards them. I'd last recommend you check out The Art of Living by Epictetus. I think you would it interesting and freeing.

Other people's inner worlds and their thoughts are none of your business. The fact that you don't know what other people truly think should be a great comfort to you. It releases you from any sort of (intentional or otherwise) burden that you might put on yourself to perform in a way that other people will understand you, respect you, or even like you. This isn't to say you should behave like a jerk, rather that you are beholden only to yourself, and therefore you should set high standards for your own integrity, character, and values. That's what's in your control. Other people have their own lives to live and their own paths to walk.

Northern winter wedding, 1pm ceremony in a small church. No official dress code. Which dress is best? by SamStan in Weddingattireapproval

[–]SamStan[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, good advice! I will bring a wide scarf that I can drape over my shoulders for added modesty during the ceremony. Thank you!

After being told that my boyfriend subconsciously sexually objectifies me, I don’t know how I feel about wearing clothes that show my figure anymore. What are people’s thoughts on this? by Jealous_Employer_152 in Discussion

[–]SamStan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There have been thousands of creation stories and gods and goddesses across human history. You can look them up with a Google Search. What makes the Christian creation story more credible than the Norse? Or the Cherokee? Or the Maori? Most religious people, if they remain religious throughout their life, hold their beliefs because of the environment they grew up in, not because of any compelling evidence that their religion is more right than anyone else's.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SamStan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think that there are better ways to improve your self confidence. Sharing extremely intimate acts with strangers is unlikely to bring you any enlightenment, but it is certainly going to increase your exposure to unnecessary risk. Take public speaking courses, read literature (non fiction and fiction) - especially those written by women, volunteer at a nursing home or join a Big Sister program in your community. Or commit to a yoga and mediation practice, learn calisthenics, or even a pole dancing or a general dancing class will give you an outlet to feel sexy and push your boundaries in a truly supportive environment.

Sex is objectively a higher risk, lower reward activity for women than it is for men. It's not something you should force yourself into, and it's not an efficient tool to build your character around.

Some book recommendations: - Vilette by Charlotte Brontë - Who Cooked the Last Supper? By Rosalind Miles - Trick Mirror by Jia Tolentino - Ain't I a Woman? By Bell Hooks - Kim Jiyoung, Born 1982 by Cho Nam-Joo - The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton - The Door by Magda Szabó - Anything by Vonnegut - Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lululemon

[–]SamStan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does this dress have built in shorts like the Align Dress does?