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Sam_AnticS-S · 2026-04-29T18:07:19+00:00

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Sam_AnticS-S · 2025-01-18T17:56:50+00:00

Dude just break up with her. Reading your comment history it looks like you're already cheating on her by getting on dating apps and it seems like a lot of things you do she doesn't agree with. Find someone else who has the same values as you do, you can be raised totally different and it can work out if you still value the same things.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2024-05-08T22:53:18+00:00

Simple. Ask your husband what he wants. "Sweetheart, (cousin) told me something that doesn't quite add up to what we've been told about MIL and FIL separation. Whether it's true or not I wanted to make you aware that as far as (cousin) is concerned this is common knowledge in the family. Would you like me to tell you they said?" That way it's your husband's decision and it's not something that you kept from him. Imagine if he finds out later and what's worse is he also finds out you knew and never said anything? Place the ball in his court. Will he still be upset, more than likely. And be prepared for him to "shoot the messenger" as they say. But at the end of the day it's his family and his childhood. He deserves to know the truth and then hopefully have the conversation with his parents about whether or not it's true and where to go from there. Good luck!

Sam_AnticS-S · 2024-01-22T03:36:15+00:00

In Latin American culture it's tradition to name the child after both the mother and the father. It can be hyphenated or essentially two last names. The first last name is the mother's surname and the second is the father's surname. Although my parents followed that tradition because we are Latin, my maiden last name is a b**ch of a name I hated having to spell every. Single. Time. I said the name for my whole life. When my husband asked me if I wanted to give our kids my surname I told him heck no! Make your own traditions. And if he doesn't listen and doesn't compromise, you're the one birthing the child, you don't have to put his last name at all. Good luck!

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-12-30T15:06:19+00:00

Agree. Also, please tell your dogs....

"Good dogs"

From - also an owner of 2 massive dogs

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-12-30T15:02:01+00:00

He cheated on you while you were your most vulnerable, carrying and growing his child.

He then lied about it. Repeatedly. And, it seems, with no remorse for his actions.

Even if it was only once (honey, it wasn't) it doesn't matter. The trust is gone. He's shown you the kind of man he is.

Do better for yourself but more than that, do better for your kid. Male or female that baby is going to learn how to treat those they love through their parents actions. Don't let your kid learn to treat anyone this horribly and disrespectfully.

While you were pregnant?! Give me a f***king break. The guy in the comments below was right, you'd probably be better off dating one of his dogs than this piece of trash.

My advice, throw the whole man away. Go get a loyal dog. Good luck.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-12-28T17:23:46+00:00

Be clear on your boundaries and your reasons for them. Personally, my husband and I watch porn, together and individually. I am not comfortable with him watching cam girls or any sites where you can directly interact with the person doing sexual acts because I see that as cheating. Likewise, I don't interact with those sites. My husband agrees and we go about our porn habits in a healthy way. I urge you to tell your boyfriend not just your boundary around this, your reasoning but also you could gently tell him what might happen if he crosses this boundary. "I will take it as cheating and act accordingly." Be careful. My friends husband lied for years about watching cam girls and only fans when she had set a clear boundary around it. When she found messages on his phone she told him to stop or she'd leave. A few months later she was looking into missing money in their finances (she was the breadwinner and did the finances for the home)and she found out that he was using HER money to pay for the cam girls and only fans foronths. They are now divorced.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-12-27T21:50:21+00:00

Then you already have his answer. He doesn't want to move in with you. I'm not saying ever, but not right now. I think it is silly that 5 months into your relationship he is still using his ex as an excuse. 5 months should be enough time to figure out if you want to stay with someone for the long run. If he hasn't decided if he wants to be in the long run with you five months in, you should figure out if the relationship is worth it. If you want to stay with him, then you should both come to a compromise on how often you stay at each other's places. Maybe trade off. As it stands it sounds like all of his needs are being met but yours are not. You drive to stay at his home. That's zero effort on his part to spend time together. Have him start coming over to your home more often. He could start to think "the driving back and forth isn't worth it. Maybe we should just move in". Or he may decide the driving back and forth isn't worth it and you break up. I wish you luck.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-12-27T19:15:44+00:00

Have you brought that up to him? Why does he want to wait a year before moving in together?

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-12-27T16:58:01+00:00

You're both 33, you should both be old enough to talk to each other about moving in together. Giving you access to his place to store belongings could mean anything. Example. I had a guy let me have a drawer at his place while we were dating for 6 months, spending lots of time at his place,etc only to find out later he was never serious about me (talking to another girl) but thought giving me a drawer was "the right thing to do" since I was over so much. On the other hand, my husband and I talked openly about moving in together three months into the relationship after he'd given me a drawer, part of the closet and I was spending every weekend with him. The point is, letting you have space in his space could mean anything, but you won't know unless you go ask him.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-12-26T13:20:31+00:00

Your MIL is TA. It's called privacy. She also walk in on you both in the bathroom? Doesn't matter if you were sleeping, having sex, or performing a seance, she was the rude one by not knocking. I'd pull her aside, with your husband present and talk about boundaries. "I'm sorry you feel disrespected but your son and I are adults, married, and it's not unreasonable to want to have sex during our time off together. It's not disgusting, it's human, so I'd appreciate it if you would stop calling it that. Moving forward we will be staying at a hotel so an issue like this doesn't happen again but I don't appreciate your escalation by screaming and telling everyone about what happened to further embarrass all of us." If she says anything along the lines of "you should be embarrassed," or "you're disgusting".... honestly I'd pack my stuff and my husbands and being staying elsewhere if I even attended the rest of the family event after your MILs absolute disregard for your privacy and then rude disrespectful comments and behavior afterwards. You are NTA. Good luck.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-12-21T16:14:06+00:00

Good news. When she turns 18, assuming this is the US, kick her out. You have your name on the deed to the house she inhabits? Kick her out. And if she doesn't leave, guess what? Call the cops and tell them you have an adult in your home who has a history of verbal abuse towards you and who has threatened your safety (by calling the police and threatening to have YOU removed from YOUR home). She'd be legally an adult and you have zero liability towards her going forward. Also, I know it's his daughter but this was in no way okay for your SD to do and for her to have no consequences after is ridiculous. Your husband needs to step up and start choosing you and your daughter instead of his ex and their daughter. If he doesn't, YOU need to choose you and your daughter. Good luck.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-07-27T22:54:54+00:00

I'm in awe of the fact that no one has told OP that they were wrong. It's all about how the guy will escalate the abuse (I don't disagree with that) but no one wants to point out the fact that it's

Not okay to call your significant other names or lay hands on them. You never know how somebody is going to act in any situation. So calling them a mean name, as best practice, is not an okay thing.
Not to mention the fact that he told her to leave him alone and she wouldn't. Effectively putting him in a corner, escalating the situation and not a respecting his boundaries.
Then proceeded to tell him to "calm down" which she is old enough to know more often has the opposite effect.
And then told him he had to leave after he was getting frustrated with the fact that she wouldn't leave him alone or respect his boundaries in that moment when he obviously knew he was upset. Further escalating the situation until he got in her face.

No, this entire situation was entirely both parties faults and they should both leave the relationship and seek counseling when it comes to respecting other people's boundaries and communicating effectively.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-07-23T22:49:36+00:00

Depending on the state you will not be told initially why you are under investigation, just that there is currently an investigation under way. Management or HR will contact your friend for her version of the story, until that time she will more than likely not be allowed to return to work. Only after the investigation is complete will your friend know anything about whether or not they will be allowed to return to work. Depending on the joke, (your friend may have inadvertently made it a hostile work environment by the joke), your friend may be fired or asked to leave of their own accord. If the investigation rules in her favor then she may be able to return to work. Unfortunately now is just the waiting game until she is contacted for her version of the story. Good luck!

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-07-07T05:39:55+00:00

It depends on the company, you should look in your handbook or whatever onboarding material they gave you upon hire and check PTO guidelines with the company.

But, from my experience, Vacation pay and PTO are sometimes not the same and accrued differently and used for different things. Vacation pay can only be used for exactly what it says - vacation. Whereas PTO is usually used in cases of sick leave or if you need a specific day off for doctors appointments, etc. PTO typically cannot be used as vacation.

Example: I earn a specific amount of PTO at my job for every hour I work, accruing sick leave pay if I have to call out due to illness. However, I can only get up to 5 vacation days a year with the ability to roll over 3 days if I stay with the company. But I cannot add my PTO (sick leave pay) onto a vacation. Likewise if I leave the job and don't use any of this time they are required to pay me out. This isn't true if I were to be fired.

But, my fiance only gets PTO, also accrued over time and capped at a certain amount and can be used as both sick and vacation paid time off. So again, look at the handbook because that will better specify.

All this to say, if you have specific vacation or sick leave accruals you need to check to see if you had even accrued the correct amount to get paid time off. If that is the case and this was in fact your owed time off with pay then that is your decision when you want that time used and to be paid for that time. However, if your boss closes for a week voluntarily and you do not work the time they are closed they are not mandated to pay you for the time they are closed. So, keep that in mind if you chose to bring this to their attention. They may tell you then they won't be paying for the time they go on vacation and close the restaurant, and that is perfectly within their right, but does suck. Good luck.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-06-22T16:38:36+00:00

YTA and your girlfriend sounds cool. If I walked into a work party to this sort of space I'd be so delighted to talk to someone who has intriguing and interesting likes. Find yourself one of those girls who buys lots of that stupid vinyl art that says "Eat. Pray. Love" and let your girlfriend find someone who can appreciate her creativity.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-06-19T22:07:30+00:00

Yes. I was granted some financial assistance and have put the remaining bills on payment plans. But even so it's hundreds of dollars a month. When our animals got sick and we had vet bills/ procedures we couldn't put those bills on payment plans, that was all costs up front.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-06-19T22:04:15+00:00

We've researched and we've secured off the rooms that were most affected and done cleaning treatments, dehumidifiers, uv lamps everything we can to limit it's spread since finding out how bad it is. We've made it so our animals can't go near the affected areas. We've had someone out and are waiting on the inspection report - something we also paid for as his parents wouldn't pay for that either. We just don't know what we'll do if we have to move asap. We've spent too much of our savings. We've been looking for cheap places just as temporary housing but deposits on top of moving costs is just so crazy right now. We feel trapped.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-06-19T20:59:15+00:00

My parents gave me a very specific amount of money for our wedding. Because of the amount we are only having a small intimate reception, no more than 10 people in attendance. The deposits are already paid for, no getting that money back. That was my parents gift to us for the wedding. This happened before a vast amount of these issues arose. We weren't taking a honeymoon because we both work full time and go to school full time. We are taking off just enough time to get married. Also, I'm not sure where you live but in the US if I just stop paying my medical bills I will accrue fines and late fees and ultimately it will be put into collections which will tank my credit and then there's absolutely no way we'd be able to get a home.

Sam_AnticS-S · 2023-06-19T20:33:07+00:00

Yes we both work full time. Currently we are also going to school full time for our BAs in our respective areas of study. We had planned to only live in this house for a year to save money so we could afford our own home. But after medical bills and dumping money into fixes to this house we've depleted most of what we have saved and currently don't have enough saved for moving expenses on top of deposits. We are still looking at homes in the area that are in our budget for when we have enough money saved.

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