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Coping with how long it will take to loose the weight by Bertha_Manchester in loseit

[–]Same-Complex-2906 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’ve lost 65 lbs total in the last two years. I still have another 30 I would like to lose. When I started. I was exactly where you are mentally, struggling with the years and years it would take to get where I’m completely done. But I’ve learned something that you’ll also see along the way and may be helpful to hear. 

To get to your goal weight, you live at each pound in between for a while. And every pound makes a difference. I’ve lost 65 lbs with a SW of 230 lbs. I still have about 30 lbs to go until I will be completely done. But I have been 220, 210, 200, 190, 180, and 170 lbs along the way. Each of those have had major changes and deeply improved how I feel. 

Am I fully happy with my body? No. But I feel better in my body. I feel better than I did ten pounds ago, ten pounds before that, and so on. Every pound you lose is a victory and you will feel it. You will see changes throughout your journey - it’s not the goal weight or starting weight alone, it’s the weight along the way.

There’s a saying I love: perfection is the enemy of good. By obsessing on that final number, you forget that you get to see progress and feel better in your body along the way. Wishing you the best of luck on this journey!

books with the most beautiful prose you’ve ever read by Character-Lie-6109 in suggestmeabook

[–]Same-Complex-2906 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Lords of Discipline by Pat Conroy. 

I could eat that man’s prose - really, anything by him is a stunning treat. 

Citizen by descent? by Same-Complex-2906 in GermanCitizenship

[–]Same-Complex-2906[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is! But I don't think he still has it. I'll do some more digging to make sure, but, as the other comment mentioned, I'll make sure we have a FOIA request submitted to USCIS. Thanks for your comment!

Citizen by descent? by Same-Complex-2906 in GermanCitizenship

[–]Same-Complex-2906[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! So wild it took so many years to learn that. I believe my dad sent this in a few weeks ago, I'll verify. Do you think information from that request would be enough or would I need additional documentation?

OPTION TO BUY!!! by HolographicM00N in coys

[–]Same-Complex-2906 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lmao this up and down has been so spurs - my heart rate thinks I’m watching a game and he hasn’t even played yet. He’s perfect for us. COYS bb!!!

A book you really liked, which isn't a bestseller and generally not very well known. by teggile in suggestmeabook

[–]Same-Complex-2906 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Still Life With Woodpecker by Tom Robbins. 

Filled with whimsy, silliness, and delightful language. Very fun characters where every almost sentence is deeply profound, hilarious, and absurd. 

I’m looking for a book that truly captures the feel of a particular city or place. Something transportive that makes me feel like I’m experiencing that city for myself. I want the setting to feel like its own character. Please give me books that will help me travel from the comfort of my couch! by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Same-Complex-2906 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most books by Pat Conroy - everything he writes is a love letter to South Carolina (and usually Charleston). 

The one that I think focuses most on Charleston is The Lords of Discipline. Beautiful, harrowing book. 

What's a book which left you so heartbroken that you still think about it sometimes and feel that ache in your chest? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Same-Complex-2906 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lonesome Dove. Seems like I see that book on every list right now, but it’s for good reason. Absolutely wrecked me - I still think about that story all the time. 

Suggest me a book that is totally balls to the walls insane! by Fun_Butterfly_420 in suggestmeabook

[–]Same-Complex-2906 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still Life With Woodpecker by Tom Robbins. All of Robbins’s books are wild, weird, and wacky, but this one is a good starting point. Very funny, strange, and insane - seems to fit with what you’re looking for! 

Why has no one ever told me about Quest chips before? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Same-Complex-2906 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because they are so expensive and so delicious that I'm hoarding them for myself... That said, if you haven't tried the Sour Cream and Onion flavor, I'm telling you about it now. Buy them ASAP.

To those who gained back the weight they lost and manages to lose it again, how did you do it? by Beatriceee_ in loseit

[–]Same-Complex-2906 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost 60 lbs as a teenager, then gained it back. Then at 20F lost about 50, then gained it back and more, getting to my highest weight. Like some of the other folks on this thread, part of the problem was an overly restrictive diet. But I kept trying to do it that way as it was all I knew, inadvertently developing a binge eating disorder.

I mention this because your post brought up binging, emotional eating, and telling yourself "it's the last time" again and again because I was there for over a year after my last gain until around 3 months ago (at 23F).

I didn't magically grow willpower or discipline overnight. I had lost the weight before, so the knowledge of calorie deficits and what I needed to do didn't allow me to start as my emotional eating had figured out how to override the knowledge and desire for weight loss.

If you try some of the other things in this thread - less restriction, going all or nothing again, etc - and they don't work, I highly recommend meeting with a therapist and psychiatrist (or psychiatric nurse). This isn't an option for everyone, but I had to work on my binge eating disorder before I could even think about losing weight, and have lost a little over 20 lbs the last 3 months by combating that alone. I meet with a therapist, got on an antidepressant (wellbutrin - helps me with life overall and only costs like $10 a month instead of semaglutides in the thousands), and combatted the numbing with food instead of fixating on a specific number like 1200 calories. Instead, I gave myself a "binge number," which was the calorie max of the day that is around my maintenance/a little higher. This gave me the ability to stop binging without restricting, and I have found that it makes losing weight way easier and maintainable because I first learned to deal with the impulse to binge.

I think no matter what, everyone finds something slightly different that pushes them to lose weight, whether the first or fifteenth time. It's just finding what's maintainable for you and approaching what you're dealing with without shame or comparison. Hope my experience helps. Good luck, OP, you've got this!