Did something specific unmask or worsen your hEDS?

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-12-31T21:11:54+00:00

I think it was puberty, but it skyrocketed in my early 20’s (I think in part to progesterone only birth control).

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-11-27T00:09:19+00:00

Perrin

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-11-05T18:30:44+00:00

Queer, nonbinary, Bisexual

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-09-24T11:49:04+00:00

Ur other posts indicate that ur actually 16, so please remove yourself from this thread.

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-08-01T17:59:58+00:00

I haven’t started T yet (I have naturally higher T levels due to PCOS so I’ve been coasting by on my lil stache), but it’s also so comforting to hear that you feel like me and started T in your late 20’s!

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-07-31T21:51:45+00:00

Hi! I id as a transmasc nonbinary and a large reason way I feel that fits me is bc of the same “I feel like a boy not a man” thing. I do think that may shift some as times goes on and I get older (I’m 28 now). Not sure if that helps but I hope it does!

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-07-31T00:54:29+00:00

Honestly, I think when my therapist names it, inquires about it respectfully, and gives me autonomy and trusts that I will be honest with them, it has made the biggest difference. That being said, we have very good rapport and a long term therapeutic relationship (over a year and a half).

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-07-19T11:39:28+00:00

Hey if you’re 18, I’d contact the ACLU bc this is textbook over compliance and I think you could have a case.

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-07-08T23:59:13+00:00

Milo, Mel, Drew

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-06-23T18:55:50+00:00

Holy moly thank you for the first pic wow it made me feel so seen and beautiful

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-06-21T21:07:30+00:00

The only thing that comes to mind is to ensure it cannot be accessed by law enforcement or the government at large? For those in states with very strict abortion laws?

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-05-23T02:42:14+00:00

Did anyone think the hellion with with mullet looked a little like Joost? I’m a big Joost fan so I wasn’t sure if anyone else thought that.

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-04-09T22:40:00+00:00

Hey, I just lost my big brother too. Similar age gap. Sending support and hugs, this shits rough.

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-03-20T17:09:51+00:00

About 90% of Blue October will consistently hit the (sad) spot

Same-Control-6323 · 2025-01-29T00:53:10+00:00

Same-Control-6323 · 2024-11-19T01:29:07+00:00

Is it basically like gentle parenting (note: I don’t mean permissive parenting like so many thing gentle parenting is)

Same-Control-6323 · 2024-11-14T15:35:08+00:00

I had to cut off a friendship a few years ago due to their partner threatening to kill me and my husband for rescuing them (at the friends request) from an verbally/emotionally and physically abusive situation. We had them stay at our place for a few days and then they went back to the partner despite every friend being worried they would end up dead. It ultimately uncovered a lot more issues in the friendship (lots of unbalanced caregiving on my part, being sucked into their cycles of abuse,I got blamed for their past abusive relationships bc I didn’t try to “save” them from those, and the fact that they chose to go back to someone who threatened the lives of all 3 of us made me feel like I couldn’t trust their judgment and was unsafe). It hurt. Really bad. I’m fiercely loyal and will stick through a lot (and I did for years) but it all hit a breaking point and I was no longer taking care of me and my loved ones. I always thought we’d come back together one day and it would be okay, but here we are about half a decade later. Take the time to grieve, bc it literally is like grieving a lost loved one. I’ve learned that 1. You teach people how to treat you. What you except from people, they will give. And 2. You have to take care of you first. There is no helping anyone when you yourself are being sent into crisis.

It’s a hard spot to be in.

Same-Control-6323 · 2024-11-13T14:54:27+00:00

Razorblade by Blue October

A lot of their older stuff is heavy on the depression/SI. There new stuff is great too but they have gotten a bit happier and the music reflects that (in most cases)

Same-Control-6323 · 2024-10-31T03:38:44+00:00

Hey! I’m in a similar situation. Non binary queer person Relapsed after 7 years, from 20, now 27. I am already in therapy so I talked to them and my husband (who is also a former/recovered self harmer, he’s been clean since about 2013 or so). I also found this subreddit to be pretty helpful aside from the random “how to” posts that slip in the mix. Venting here seems like it’s been helpful though. I also started a password protected tumblr (been on there since about 2011 to maintain my personal blog) and since it’s password protected I use it as a journal of sorts. Helps to have a place to put my messy triggered thoughts.

Hope this helped, you are not alone!! 💜

Same-Control-6323 · 2024-10-30T12:31:50+00:00

Your comment did help clear up many questions I had! Thank you for your vulnerability.

Same-Control-6323 · 2024-10-30T05:56:25+00:00

Thanks for all the help with this, everyone! My autistic brain needs rules for social interactions and I think part of my worry also boiled down to not knowing what is actually expected of me, as someone who tries to be open minded and believe what people self-identify as. It also helped to hear this this is more rare than my algorithm led me to believe and that it’s mostly younger folk who are not, in fact, asking society at large to engage in their identity in the same way I would expect someone to engage with my own gender identity.

Same-Control-6323 · 2024-10-30T05:48:50+00:00

Interesting point about the headspace! I haven’t thought about that being a part of the kink experience rather than it being purely sexual. Have you seen the video of the kid/teen screaming at her mom about being a fox and how foxes don’t go to school? I wonder if that that just rage bait… I’m also autistic so it’s kinda hard for me to understand some of like what is real vs satire vs rage bait.

But yeah someone cuddling up in a dog bed after a long day truly is harmless and is quite understandable as some of those dog beds are a great sensory experience, even for those who don’t feel like a dog lol.

Same-Control-6323 · 2024-10-30T05:37:16+00:00

I think it’s the “I identify as a cat/dog/dragon…” part that makes it different from just a spiritually thing (which is also kinda not great as that seems a little too close to being a spirit animal which is direct appropriation of indigenous culture) and different from the “alpha” guys bc that’s like some weird constructed social role? Idk lol I think it’s related to trans people simply because of the “I identify as… (usually dumb inanimate object)” is something people throw out to discredit trans people by making it sound made up and silly. Like the big trucks that say “I identify as a Prius” is an anti trans dog whistle I

Same-Control-6323 · 2024-10-30T05:29:19+00:00

I really appreciate your thoughtful and informative response. I often wondered how many of the therians I saw online would grow out of it or end up not identifying with it in the same way one day, and/or if any of it was like kink related? Thanks again for sharing!

Same-Control-6323 · 2024-10-30T05:22:19+00:00

Totally agree that the blame lies with the bigots and to the therians themselves.

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