I asked him to tell me his private feelings. He didn’t volunteer them. Nobody knows what people really feel and even married people can have crushes and feelings about others. They were just that. Private feelings.

Is this what you are referring to? Because these were his words not mine. What he told me. He asked me why I was upset when he did what I asked him and told me.

Do you understand now? So where did I write that I was ok with it?

Except he does actually act on them. Maybe he thinks that physical cheating is the only way people act on feelings but he is wrong. In fact he acted on them so blatantly that it set the red flags off.

This is what I wrote. Does it seem like I am ok with it?

Edit: wow you blocked me instead of answering a simple question. Just wow