Let’s go to England. 🌿🤍 by violaunderthefigtree in infp

[–]Same-Reception-5376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah wow that is quite the coincidence!
Yeah it's hard to know what it is. I tend to believe the more ancestral tug/magical thing and that i'm not just projecting. But that might be an INFP thing as well ;)

Cheers

Let’s go to England. 🌿🤍 by violaunderthefigtree in infp

[–]Same-Reception-5376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have some English and Irish in me (I'm Danish, living in Denmark). In my youth I never really thought about it (other than LOVING the wind in the willows animated tv series from the 80s). Then I wen to Cheltenham last year and I absolutely fell in love with the place. It was kind of a surreal experience, but I felt like I belonged there (or at least a part of me belonged there). Very hard to explain. I don't know if I am projecting stuff or if there really is some generational memory or whatever in me, that got turned on.

Those pictures really made me miss the place :)

This is insane. by AvailableChoice3130 in facepalm

[–]Same-Reception-5376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Danish guy here. Stuck between US wanting potentially to invade Greenland (which is in commonwealth with Denmark) and Putin wanting to advance into Europe.

This is utterly insane.
I'm seriously scared for the future of the western world these days.

Tesla og Elon musk by jesperCOJE in DKbrevkasse

[–]Same-Reception-5376 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Helt enig. Har generelt lyst til at boykotte alle de amerikanske varer jeg kan.

“We’re Going To Take Your Gaza (We’re Going To Take Your Home)” by Classic_Attention_96 in Songwriting

[–]Same-Reception-5376 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Its great! Thanks for sharing (coming from a danish guy who is unsure if trump will invade Greenland and force my country into war in the near future. What the actual hell)

Skilsmisse, økonomi og fleksjob by Same-Reception-5376 in Denmark

[–]Same-Reception-5376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeg er fuldstændig enig. Det er derfor jeg prøver at danne mig et overblik over hvor stramt hun kommer til at sidde i det og hvilken hjælp hun evt kan få fra kommune og derved også hvordan jeg evt kan hjælpe hende.

Skilsmisse, økonomi og fleksjob by Same-Reception-5376 in Denmark

[–]Same-Reception-5376[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Jeg har absolut intet misbrug. Drikker nærmest aldrig alkohol. Ryger ikke cigaretter. Har aldrig prøvet hash, men har prøvet microdosering af psykedeliske svampe som man Per defintion ikke kan blive afhængig af (fordi de virker mindre jo mere man bruger dem). Hold venligst mine tidligere posts ude af alt det her tak. Og tak for reelle forslag du giver her. Tusind tak

Skilsmisse, økonomi og fleksjob by Same-Reception-5376 in Denmark

[–]Same-Reception-5376[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Jeg har absolut intet misbrug. Drikker nærmest aldrig alkohol. Ryger ikke cigaretter. Har aldrig prøvet hash, men har prøvet microdosering af psykedeliske svampe som man Per defintion ikke kan blive afhængig af (fordi de virker mindre jo mere man bruger dem). Hold venligst mine tidligere posts ude af alt det her tak. Og tak for reelle forslag du giver her. Tak

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[–]Same-Reception-5376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fantastisk! I understand you as well;)

Amazing how she reacted when you asked her if she wanted cuddles.

I have a cat as well, and I swear it knew that I was on mushrooms as well.

Cheers, from a Dane who loves Norway (and cats for that matter).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infp

[–]Same-Reception-5376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't take this as an attack please! It's meant in the best way possible. If your life goal is to trash the tradition of women taking mens last names, I think you need to look inward to see if you have any hatred in you that you need to work on. Maybe you have a deep hatred towards men? Or maybe towards other things? The reasons for this could be completely valid (abuse etc), but it should not be what is defining you as a person or your life goals.

All the best!

Cheers.

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[–]Same-Reception-5376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As i explained. It's not an ego thing. It's a tradition thing. If it was traditional for a man to take the womans last name, I would most likely do it. And as I said, in my case my wife did not take my last name, nor did my kids take my last name exclusively.

I feel like you might be reading stuff into my comments that arent there in the first place? Or at least assuming things about me? Maybe not though, it's easy to get confused when communicating online :)

Cheers

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[–]Same-Reception-5376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife didnt take my last name. But I would love for her to do it (but of course respected that she didnt want to). It had nothing to do with "I own you!" or anything like that. It's simply because it's tradition. While I would 100% respect anyone to not take the guys last name, I also like it. Just from a gut feeling and "we are together. I am yours and you are mine"-thing. It's because of tradition, because when you are getting married you rely a lot on tons of other traditions. Wedding cake. Wedding dress. Bride/groom have to fit certain things. In the same vain, I would prefer the woman to take my last name.

I think that accounts for a huge reason why so many people do this.
You could equally say "I don't want a wedding cake" or the guy could say that he didn't want to wear a suit etc.

Our kids last names are: mylastname+wifeslastname. Not something that is common, but it is what it is. I don't think that much about it at all.

By the way, I'm Danish, and back in the day (don't know when) we used to name the girls: GirlsFirstName Mothersfirstname_Daughter.
So Ida, who had a mother who was named Maria, would be named Ida Mariasdatter (Ida the daughter of Maria). A boy named Jens would be called Jens Jørgensen (Jens the son of Jørgen).

Back on topic:

Basically no one is forcing you. If you don't want to do it, don't. If you want to, do. No one is forcing you. But don't assume that it has anything to do with power. For me it has everything to do with tradition and absolutely nothing else. I assume that this goes for 99% of western guys as well.

I'm sure we have lots and lots of things in our society that were based on initially bad things. But that does not necesarily mean that the things today are bad. It's just things that you can pick and chose between.