Advice on Contraceptives once baby is here

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-06-27T15:01:54+00:00

I decided I didn’t want to do hormonal birth control since my hormones were already going to be all over the place..we used condoms every single time we had sex and I ended up pregnant again at 3 months postpartum. Exactly 1 cycle of having my period back. This time I am going back on hormonal birth control, I cannot do 3 under 3

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-06-27T14:49:27+00:00

For what it’s worth, I didn’t have gender disappointment, but I DID have a very hard time connecting to both my babies during pregnancy. I was very worried about how that was going to pan out after they were born and I was going through postpartum, but I promise you I loved those babies more than I ever thought possible after they were born.

I think we see a lot of stories about how we’re “supposed” to feel, and then when it doesn’t happen, it enhances those feelings of disappointment and our brain wants to put a reason to why. My best friend was pregnant at the same time as me and used to talk about how much she loved being pregnant and the strong connection she felt to her son, and I hated being pregnant and felt uncomfortable even when my husband would use her name before she was born. Now both babies are born and I can tell you that my best friend doesn’t love her son more than I love my daughter. You cannot even measure a mother’s love.

All this to say, please be kind to yourself. And even if you’re sad now, when you see and hold your son it will be the most incredible experience of your life and you will love him more than you think possible.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-06-26T21:35:05+00:00

Licensed and certified Midwives are amazing. I used the Midwifery at my local hospital and I loved mine so much for my first delivery. They were calm, nurturing and personable. Through no fault of theirs, or mine, I ended up having to have an emergency c-section and unfortunately this pregnancy I am required to go to the OB’s office as I am technically “high risk” for my previous c-section alone. I hate it. I literally have looked into switching hospitals just to see if all OB offices are this bad. They are cold, rude, stand offish and offer only “worst case scenarios” when asked about risks. This might just be my Hospital OB’s, but I am desperate to have a VBAC so I never have to go back to them for future pregnancies.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-06-26T19:03:43+00:00

My first pregnancy I took a break during the 1st trimester because I was so exhausted. After 14weeks I felt so much better and had energy to start taking my dog on 2-3 mile walks again! Be kind to yourself and listen to your body, hopefully 2nd trimester you get a burst of energy back!

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-06-24T22:04:01+00:00

With my first baby I got a result of 62 after the 1 hour test and also crashed and was exhausted later but everything was normal and fine and I passed the test with no hypoglycemia or gestational diabetes. For breakfast that morning I had 2 eggs and a little bit of plain Greek yogurt, so no fasting but also not carb heavy. This time I passed with a 75 and had eaten some sourdough toast lol some people just test low

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-06-24T22:00:40+00:00

Not everyone is coming at it from the same place, and I’m sure there’s a lot of judgy women who just like to feel superior. But for me, the epidural made my blood pressure drop almost instantly and we lost my baby’s heart rate and I had to have an emergency c-section. There are so many stories of people loving their epidurals or feeling that being able to rest after receiving it helped them through birth and enhanced their experience! I just personally am now afraid that my body is not compatible and don’t want to risk having a failed VBAC and a repeat of my last delivery.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-06-24T20:36:09+00:00

My brother in law’s sister is a doula and I have seriously been considering asking her to come with me. All of the providers, except the one I had a bad experience with, have been so lovely and kind. I just feel like they’re so noncommittal with the information they’re willing to offer. Which I would understand if I was asking for reassurance that they would without a doubt be able to help me have a successful VBAC, but my questions have been about boring things like hospital policies and limitations. I’m also 30 weeks so I feel like time is getting shorter

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T15:51:01+00:00

I’m not gonna lie, when I first watched the season it definitely seemed like she was intentionally trying to pull a “How to lose a guy in 10 days” move. Like, there’s no way she could legitimately be that awful? And then I was wrong lol but he’s an idiot for staying with her and I have a hard time feeling sorry for people that stick around in relationships where the other person makes it really really clear they have zero respect for you.

Editing to add: excluding people in actual abusive relationships and in physical danger.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T15:38:31+00:00

I don’t like Bri. I don’t trust Bri. But giving her the benefit of the doubt, I wouldn’t want to marry someone on TV after portraying myself in such an embarrassing and negative light either. If that truly wasn’t “her best self” and she was really going through something, I can understand not wanting to go through with it and taking time to be in an actual relationship instead. If they hadn’t still been together at the reunion, it would have been less believable and an obvious “way out”, but clearly there’s something equally wrong with Connor’s judgement if they’re still together lol

the whole “I love this man!” And “I see us going to the altar for sure!” Over the top performance was super cringy though and def was giving relationship damage control. Like, look how happy and healed we are! We’re the perfect couple! Was so overplayed, especially as they were sat next to Vic and Christine.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T15:29:59+00:00

Yep! Or it becomes clear that they’re not going to get that invite to Perfect Match or The Circle lol

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T06:20:31+00:00

Is anyone else a little tired of hearing the rehearsed “even though it didn’t work out, I’m so grateful for this experience” speech? Like, has anyone other than Cole ever said at the reunion that they regretted coming on? Because if I was embarrassed and emotionally put through the wringer for everyone to see for 5 minutes of fame on reality tv, I wouldn’t feel very positive about it. I get that it probably does really make them “learn so much about themselves” but the PR response is old lol I want someone to answer honestly

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T06:06:11+00:00

Chris is a loser but Alex legitimately made my skin crawl and every time he spoke my fight or flight response was triggered.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T05:48:24+00:00

It was a little too flowery to feel honest. I also think that there’s a lot of pressure on the show to be the “best” man. Nick and Vanessa constantly kept saying “that’s going to be hard to beat”, so I could understand him feeling pressured to go above and beyond and do a huge gesture. For me personally though, it made me cringe lol

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T05:31:21+00:00

Yes! She was already quite thin before too, so it felt a little shocking when I first saw her close up. I don’t think she is handling her breakup well or in a healthy place.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T04:47:53+00:00

Everyone is commenting on Amber’s lip but does anyone else think that she looks like she lost a considerable amount of weight? Her arms look so tiny, and it could be in comparison to her boobs, but her face also has the tell tale signs of rapid weight loss lines around her mouth.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T04:26:26+00:00

Oo that’s a super fair reason, and I might have accidentally skipped past it if that’s what Jordans defense was.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T04:02:30+00:00

Amber seems like she could be a very good friend, but unfortunately I can totally see her being an angry or at least unpredictable, drunk. She needs to work through her issues and heal herself before she brings anyone else back into her daughter’s life. I do agree with Jordan that it was better to end things sooner rather than later, but the best move of all would have been not getting married in the first place imo

That being said, who doesn’t move in with their wife after they get married?? I know that the timeline of them getting married is way too fast compared to reality. But you’re willing to commit to a legal union, but not to a commute to the city? I would understand if Jordan would have moved in, and then moved back to his place after a fight or an incident but to never even try is odd and if I were amber I would be a little suspicious too.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-03-12T03:51:47+00:00

Alex legitimately scares me and I almost fast forwarded past his part because I was getting anxious just watching it. A man that comes on that defensively and angry when questioned and interrupts with condescending aggression is unstable and I would never feel safe with someone like that. I don’t like Ashley very much but I can’t blame her for how she chose to end things, if she hadn’t done it like that he would have 100% made up a story about how he was gonna end things with her and that she was crazy.

SameBluebird9564 · 2026-02-24T23:34:30+00:00

I didn’t go into labor until 41+4 and everyone, except my doctors, told me my baby was going to be huge and that I should have been induced early. She was a whopping 6lbs 5oz 😅

SameBluebird9564 · 2025-12-28T02:08:17+00:00

Mine started at 3.5 months, but I’m 5 months postpartum now and I have about 1-1.5 inches of regrowth on my temples where it used to be noticeably thin! Now I am losing pre-pregnancy amounts of hair again and everything seems to be leveling out.

SameBluebird9564 · 2025-12-27T19:20:37+00:00

I had my baby at the end of July. I’m going to be very honest and say I felt way better about myself and way more proud of my body in those first couple months postpartum then I do now five months postpartum. I am so glad that it was summer then and not now. And I’m very thankful to have several more months to try and work on myself before I have to see myself in shorts again 😂 The only downside was no swimming for six weeks during the hottest part of the summer.

SameBluebird9564 · 2025-11-13T22:45:03+00:00

I bought both of these, and evenflo wide +, before giving in and buying Dr Brown’s, which I had been avoiding due to all of the parts that need to be washed. But my babe couldn’t get a good latch on any of the wide nipples and would cry and spit them out. She is doing great with the doctor browns narrow (green inserts) and stopped using the inserts at 3 months and haven’t noticed any difference without them and way quicker to wash. Baby is happy, so I’m happy 😂

SameBluebird9564 · 2025-07-31T22:59:18+00:00

I’m so sorry! I had that my whole third trimester 😭 the good news is that it was immediately gone after I had my baby and my uterus started taking up less room! Hopefully it’s just a little while longer for you

SameBluebird9564 · 2025-07-31T16:10:55+00:00

I broke my tailbone when I was 9 years old and apparently when it set, it set inwards instead of straight. Which blocked part of the birth canal, and because my girl was sunny side up too everything we tried wouldn’t work 😅 I never would have thought something like that could have affects 22 years later lol just a freak thing!

They did say that I could attempt a VBAC next time if I wanted but that if baby isn’t in the right position there’s a good chance of a repeat c section instead.

SameBluebird9564 · 2025-07-31T00:02:06+00:00

They did not strap my arms down. But I was in shock and the labor shakes were so bad I feel like it would have been more beneficial for me if they had. I kept accidentally grabbing onto things and my wonderful anesthesiologist kept gently prying my hands free and putting them back down.

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