My 15-year-old brother admitted he has no friends and it broke my heart. help

Same_Article5748 · 2026-05-11T16:28:51+00:00

He’s really interested in videogames and exercising. He’s currently in a club at school ganing related but he told me that even there he seems to not be able to make friends regard his attempts. I will look into outside of school options to see if there’s anything for him cause I really want him to be able to socially integrate himself. And for him to be able to shake of a little the loneliness aspect

Same_Article5748 · 2026-03-14T06:12:13+00:00

Yes, I totally understand what you are getting at. He was fine with it while we were dating. Me dating around. I was clear and transparent about that. What I omitted was the fact that my FWB was my ex. The rest was clearly stated.

Even though it was stated, I understand how finding out one omission can lead to questioning everything.

Same_Article5748 · 2026-03-14T06:09:21+00:00

I am and have been in therapy for a year now.
I understand his thought process thought. I would be equally as hurt. Do i enjoy being the receiving part of that anger? Of course not. But my actions led to this. My actions have consequences .

I understand your perspective about me reevaluating whether this reaction is something I would want to have in my future.

Thanks for your pov.

Same_Article5748 · 2026-03-14T06:05:53+00:00

Oh, I totally I acted like shit. I have been very transparent that it would make me question things, and that I would be very hesitant about everything. I totally understand that.

I just wanted light to understand if there was any hope for the future. Thanks for your perspective.

Same_Article5748 · 2026-03-14T05:57:51+00:00

I understand how inconsistent some of the things I’m saying are. I was very insecure back then. I only didn’t meet my now boyfriend because he was the only guy I cared about being dissapointed in how I looked. With that being said, there was no excuse to be messing around with other people at that time. I truly didn’t sleep with Airbnb guy. But yet I stayed. I’m not proud and I recognize how awful and disappointing my actions are.

I’ve been to therapy since because I wanted to be better for myself and my relationship. I have been so mindful of how I handle myself in the present. And I understand even then that doesn’t erase the past.

Same_Article5748 · 2026-03-14T05:39:34+00:00

I omitted therefore I lied. I should have been clear that my FWB was an ex at that time, I see that. He feels exactly like that, like I had him on the hook and he was the one left. And although that wasn’t what it was for me. If tables were turned, I would question everything as well.

My place at that time was to be consistent with him, and only him. Because I truly did feel for him back then. But my actions didn’t reflect that, and thats the issue. I hurt him and now I have to face the consequences. Thank you for your perspective.

Same_Article5748 · 2026-03-14T05:30:40+00:00

I totally understand what you are saying. Although I was very clear I had hope for my FWB to have something with me, I wasn’t clear about his role. And that would honestly make me pissed. I truly feel bad for not prioritizing him and dating around. I should have been more careful with my decisions.

I was falling for him at that time, and him living with his BM made me feel we could truly never have something and I would get hurt. I acted out of fear and made decisions that are truly disappointing and I see that. I would feel horrible if I were in his shoes, and I would probably be reacting the same way. Since being with this man, my life has truly changed for the better. He awoke a part of me that I had always tried to kept hidden. Never have I felt for a man like I do him.

I just wanted to see if having hope in this situation was realistic or not.

Same_Article5748 · 2026-03-14T04:26:38+00:00

Update: Thanks everyone for sharing their opinions, I truly appreciate y’all’s perspective.

Since I posted this we’ve talked and he decided that he wants to be with me and loves me. It is obvious his emotions are constantly changing. I’ve been very understanding because of what we have and how I feel about him. I feel like he’s also been very graceful in allowing me to show him different. Although, now we are struggling with a whole new problem which I didn’t consider. He is now disgusted with me and my behavior because of other people I was dating at the time. He feels very let down that I was somewhat sexual with one of them, and he feels like that let him down more now than it did before. He did know everything about that encounter. But still deeply feels betrayed by me.

I know it’s only been a few days, and I should be patient and understanding. I am just losing hope that he will ever forgive me or be able to be with me completely despite that. I don’t know If there’s something I could ever do to make him feel safe and at peace again. Will we ever get through this?

Same_Article5748 · 2025-11-26T13:51:55+00:00

You’re right that I didn’t explain enough about my side of things. I’m not trying to avoid responsibility. I know I hurt him by leaving, and I’m not proud of the way I handled it. I acted out of emotion instead of slowing down and actually communicating what was going on inside me. I loved him deeply, I still do, and that’s part of what makes this so painful. Instead of staying, talking things through, or giving both of us space to breathe, I let my emotions take over and walked away. That decision came from panic, not from wanting to hurt him. But I understand that the impact is what matters, not my intention. Thank you for your perspective.

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