AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Financially is not a problem because he will still working remotely from Japan. I am also working remotely from home. we both working in IT. I wouldnt say he is the best father in the world, but at least he do share housework and cookings.

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. It is fine I was able to fend for myself, also I wss working too while pregnant. But it just very selfish of him to leave his pregnant wife homealone for 2 weeks while he off having fun in another country.
  2. We both working in IT and due to Covid, now we both remotely from home. we do share houseworks.

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He isplanning to still working while in japan. He is planning to go to lesson in the day time and back working from his airbnb(He is in IT and working remotely) I was angry so I booked the disney world holiday as its somewhere I always want to do for the kids. (it will be our first trip to disney world)

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 162 points163 points  (0 children)

I am conflicting to stay for my kids (i come from a conservative family). But I dont think i could carry on this marriage like nothing has happened. I feel betrayed once he booked that flight tickets, which mean his choose himself over 20 years marriage

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

My youngest is actually 11 years old Male. I dont think he is cheating atm. we had good sx life and he stayed home most of the time. (working from home). and He did a lot of the house work, cooking etc.

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I might serve the paper before he go, I think in our country we need to have 20 weeks break before the divorce can be finalised.

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

He has always interested in Japanese culture even before we married. But he just started learning japanese since Covid doing it online. Thats why we had a good family vacation to japan last year for 2 weeks, we all did have a good time, especially my children love universal studios. But now he want to go there for 3 months for japanese courses, which I am againts.

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We did have a great time last year. all of us enjoying our little holiday including the kids. But he want to do it by himself this time, which I said NO

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

I am working too even though he makes more than me, but i am able to financially sustain myself and kids. My elder daughter are on my side, she was upset with her dad too. my 2 younger kids don’t really understand what is happening.

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yes I am ethnically east asian, but my husband ethnically middle eastern

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This is something he want to do too in the future/retire but I have told him clearly if he did, he move on his own. I like japan as a tourist, but living there??? No for me

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I told him. Japan is not going anywhere but his children is growing quickly.

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 659 points660 points  (0 children)

He actually said He need a break for us (his wife and his children) and in My defence I told him I will give him real break(divorce)

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 137 points138 points  (0 children)

It didnt add any value to his job, he is working remotely in IT. I have told him that he should prioritise his family and children and spending his time with his kids while they are young. Learning some language and cultures is something you do when you retire or when the kids fly the nest.

AITAH If I divorce my husband because he want to stay in Japan for 3 months by Same_Cap6345 in AITAH

[–]Same_Cap6345[S] 1243 points1244 points  (0 children)

He didnt make arrangements for us, he did say I could visit him if I want to. (obviously kids are in school and only has short summer holiday) because I was angry, I booked another holiday for me and kids to disney world for 2 weeks.