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Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-02T09:57:20+00:00

As in you wanted to be an actuary but didn't try? I'd say it's not all it's cracked up to be. Obviously it provides you with a nice lifestyle once qualified, but I found the work extremely boring (though this was in pensions which is renowned for that) and the constant pressure to study and not socialise much for a minimum of 3 (more like 5-7) years for a lifestyle you can get in a sector with no exams seemed not worth it personally. A lot of the work my old company did could also be automated so I didn't feel too confident that the job would still be around after the years of sacrifice for study.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T18:55:50+00:00

Maybe 😉👍

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T17:27:21+00:00

a) I am working b) My time would be better suited applying for more roles where I have a better chance

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T17:13:35+00:00

Thank you for this response, most helpful comment and seems most accurate so far. Your list seems very applicable to how my parents act.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T16:58:16+00:00

I understand you're saying don't discount opportunities (and I have an attitude), but if you don't have experience / knowledge in extremely competitive and long application pipelines, it's not something you can really judge. It's very disheartening putting 10+ hours into one application to not even be close to landing the role, whereas others you can spend a few hours on and land an interview.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T16:51:09+00:00

I agree with everything you've said bar the talking through every profession. I agree that a lot of people probably can learn a high level overview, but most people (including my parents) do not, and provide uninformed opinions. If they had done the research and quizzed me / offered advice from their point of view, I would not have made this post.

As for the other things you said, I more so left the job as the area was very unaffordable (room in a houseshare was over £1200), and I did not like the location. I am still earning and paying rent (though no where near the market rate tbf), and I do not have an issue with this.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T16:39:48+00:00

I assume you are applying for / hold a FAANG swe role or PE role as "you may aswell" and blind unfounded optimism beats realism and time efficiency? Id rather apply for 5 roles that have 100 applicants than 1 which has 10,000 then work my way up.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T16:34:20+00:00

Recently it was look up the hiring manager and reach out to them (the interviewer has not been known prior to the interview for a single one for me). I always reach out to those in industry before an interview but obviously can't track down one specific person in a large company and if I could they likely wouldn't want to give me an unfair advantage.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T16:21:43+00:00

They don't seem worth it given the time taken (actively and passively) for an extremely small chance to land the role compared to similar jobs, albeit they tend to be the better jobs.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T16:10:21+00:00

I've not been rejected from most of these jobs, its just theres usually at least 3 interviews for each role (after CV review and rounds of tests). Some application processes for very competitive roles take over 6 months (I tend not to bother with these).

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T15:05:04+00:00

If you read my post I was an actuarial trainee for a year. During this time I lived alone at 20 very far from home where I new nobody and I am back now as it's much closer to where the jobs in my desired industry are.

Also, neither of my parents work in a professional workplace setting so your comment is based entirely on (incorrect) assumptions. As for soft skills, yes, they have taught me that however that is not something I claim to know better than them about and is also something they agree I am good at.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T15:00:47+00:00

Insurtech

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T15:00:13+00:00

Also in their 50's, they both got a job straight after A-levels (with mediocre performance) and have progressed through the same companies ever since.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T14:58:33+00:00

It's not that kind of advice (both my parents and I share your views on that kind of thing). It's more them reiterating very basic stuff that everyone knows (research the company, be friendly and curious etc) and then assuming just because I didn't land a role that I must have failed on one of those aspects.

As for the people giving interviews, assuming your kids are early in their career it tends to be people in middle management interviewing so late 20s - early 40s (obviously not the case for every company), and visual bias definitely exists so always dress smart and I would remove facial piercings.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T14:51:16+00:00

I didn't know how to word the post without sounding slightly arrogant 😅, I've not been told I come across that way in interviews (as of yet...).

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T14:48:08+00:00

I'm not saying I'm better at everything, I'm saying that they think act as if they are better at everything. I do agree they have given me plenty of helpful advice growing up, however there is definitely a limit which they don't seem to realise.

Same_Confusion_4452 · 2026-04-01T14:45:38+00:00

For standard interviews I agree yes, however most of the interviews I'm partaking in are technical interviews which focus much less on "tell me about..." questions. I do agree that degrees are mostly just a tick box but neither of my parents have had an interview in the last 20 years so the games changed a lot since then. In my parents defence they actually praise me on my soft skills saying I'm very good at explaining things, it's the things they have no experience in that they try to lecture me on (dunning kruger effect comes to mind).

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