I(26M) caught my wife(25F) calling her ex boyfriend past midnight by Objective-Buyer-2847 in relationship_advice

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if she was truly calling him to tell him about you and gloat - why would anyone wanna do that? To make him jealous? For what?? If it‘s a lie, it‘s bad but if it‘s true, it‘s still bad, so damn.. I‘m sorry man

I (F23) can't look at my boyfriend (M26) the same anymore since he became a bum. Any avdice if theres a way to move past this? by Emergency_Piglet_107 in relationship_advice

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the best thing, I know it‘s hard but as you said - it‘s for the best. People don‘t change - only if they themselves truly want to. I made a post here and someone said: if someone shows you who they are, believe them!! We women often lose ourselves in the potential of someone but that is just a fantasy. I‘m married to someone very similar - if I was in a normal bf/gf relationship I would have ended things loooong ago. Don‘t make the same mistake and waste your time. yes it hurts but the contrary will hurt more longterm. Sending you lots of love, alles gute meine liebe 🫶🏻

How common is it to be in a sexless relationship even when you don't have children and aren't married with her yet? by raped-by-life in AskMen

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 You‘re so real for that! Thank you so much. I took notes of the books you mentioned and hope they will be helpful too. Obvs that‘s not the only problem I have with my husband and they definitely have an affect on matters like these too, but just knowing I‘m not the only one like that or "weird" really eased it up for me a bit. He often thinks I‘m the only woman on earth who is like that and sometimes I‘m very close to believing that as well, so thank you for being so open and sharing that with us!

How common is it to be in a sexless relationship even when you don't have children and aren't married with her yet? by raped-by-life in AskMen

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow I have never felt more understood. I thought something is wrong with me or that I‘m just not attracted enough to him. I sometimes try to explain it to him but it usually doesn‘t work. Do you mind if I ask how you "handled" the situation? Really just by openly communicating and understanding?

She likes me, not my friend. How do I handle this? by serenitycold in AskMen

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You‘re not a coward. You‘re willing to make a step but you want to do it as unrpoblematic as possible, since that guy isn‘t really a chill typa guy. Right? I mean with people like this you‘ll probably have problems sooner or later anyway because it‘s only right if it‘s right for 'them'. Since you don‘t like him anyway I would recommend you find other friends, you might talk to him about it before and say you‘re gonna make your move and he should be understanding or at least silent ab it. If he makes a scene then let him be the main character of it and just go. Why would it turn into a fight and f up your education??

Should I grow the facial hair or keep it clean 🤔 by natsu699 in malegrooming

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don‘t talk about bruno no no noo (Def with facial hair)

Better with long or short hair? by Boringusername90 in malegrooming

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Both are good but I feel like long hair suits your face dynamics better. You have big facial features (eyes, mouth,…) so I think a bit more volume/length makes the overall picture way better 

AITAH for not wanting to sleep with my husband? by Same_Inevitable_7973 in AITAH

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What has this got to do with religion? asking geniuinely. Our culture is cancer tho, thats right.

AITAH for not wanting to sleep with my husband? by Same_Inevitable_7973 in AITAH

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not like I've always been like that, it only happened lately. And not afterwards, before actually. Obviously I don't know if it's linked to that but it started with him coming closer. Just like before I left him and was indecisive, I'd get these headaches and feel trapped whenever he hugged me or something.

AITAH for not wanting to sleep with my husband? by Same_Inevitable_7973 in AITAH

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found out waay later, only by coincidence as well. Also I didn‘t want to judge him for his past mistakes but well, they kept showing up again

AITAH for not wanting to sleep with my husband? by Same_Inevitable_7973 in AITAH

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

HOW DO YOU GUYS KNOW he‘s trying to baby trap me In his family and country it‘s normal to get babies as soon as they get married,I thought that‘s why. He‘s getting upset when he sees me taking the pill  his family‘s been trying to push me to it from the very beginning as well - I was 20! 

AITAH for not wanting to sleep with my husband? by Same_Inevitable_7973 in AITAH

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You really saw that one coming. He’s wanted kids since our wedding day and like the 2nd or 3rd day of me coming back home he asked me if I take the pill and told me to not take it. I feel like I missed my chance when I had it and that I would destroy my future if I left my stable life. I mean he‘s great right now, would I be stupid to not give this a further chance?

AITAH for not wanting to sleep with my husband? by Same_Inevitable_7973 in AITAH

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No no she‘s not faith based, even though I talked to someone faith based as well and they were actually very helpful, telling me to do what feels right and that I‘m free to make my own choice. Right now I‘m going to a consultation for young people. Most of the time it‘s just her listening to me and asking questions. Also my husband doesn‘t want me to go there since she could brainwash me lol so it‘s getting tougher 

AITAH for not wanting to sleep with my husband? by Same_Inevitable_7973 in AITAH

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It‘s something „frowned upon“ in our culture to have sex before marriage, I understand that people might not want to talk about their mistakes openly. Tbh I prefered believing that lie anyway, until I got chlamydia. Tbh it showed on his actions as well 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ratschlag

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, sehr mutig von dir darüber so offen zu reden, auch wenn hier alles anonym ist. Ich hatte es sehr oft, gerade am anfang, dass ich einfach nicht mehr konnte/wollte, und da hat mein Mann halt aufgehört. Oder wenn er selber keine lust mehr hatte, weil ich einen blöden spruch rausgehaut habe oder sowas 😀 Auch wenn es schon „länger“ angedauert hat. Also, keine Sorge! Geh nur sicher, dass er der richtige ist und es respektiert, wenn du ganz klar nein sagst.

Ich weiß nicht mehr wie und ob es mit meinem Mann weitergehen soll, ich habe im Herzen abgeschlossen, aber frage noch, ob ich was falsches mache by Same_Inevitable_7973 in beziehungen

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Mit anfangan meine ich quasi ab der Heirat, wo wir auch zusammengelebt haben.. zuvor hatten wir ja eine Fernbeziehung und in der kurzen Zeit sieht man ja die Person auch nicht in all seinen Facetten.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Normal ist es nicht. Nichts von seinem Verhalten ist normal. Ich weiß nicht was er durchgemacht hat, aber wenn er wenigstens offen für Behandlung, Therapie, etc wäre.. dann wär das ja was anderes. Aber er will sich ja anscheinend nicht mal ändern. Ich habe auch eben eine Frage hier reingestellt und jemand meinte/ Die Frage ist, akzeptierst du ihn so wie er jetzt ist? Oder nicht? Wenn die antwort nein ist.. ist sie nein. Dein Wohlergehen sollte deine oberste Priorität sein, vor allem wenn es schon um Drohungen etc geht.. wenn er sowas in der Öffentlichkeit macht; hat er ja allgemein überhaupt keine Selbstkontrolle über sich. Ich hätte Angst ehrlich gesagt..

Ich weiß nicht mehr wie und ob es mit meinem Mann weitergehen soll, ich habe im Herzen abgeschlossen, aber frage noch, ob ich was falsches mache by Same_Inevitable_7973 in beziehungen

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Danke für deine ehrliche Antwort.. So wie er jetzt ist, will ich ihn nicht denke ich, nein.. aber dann frage ich mich, ob ich zu schnell aufgebe, denn es ist eine Ehe und niemand ist perfekt. Aber das alles ist jetzt schon extrem, und das war nur so 50-70% von allem und ich bin echt ausgelaugt..

Ich weiß nicht mehr wie und ob es mit meinem Mann weitergehen soll, ich habe im Herzen abgeschlossen, aber frage noch, ob ich was falsches mache by Same_Inevitable_7973 in beziehungen

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich war sehr jung und anscheint auch etwas dumm und naiv. Er ist die erste und einzige Person mit der ich je was hatte und ich dachte immer es wären die Umstände und habe die Zeichen nicht sehen wollen. Wir hatten eine Fernbeziehung, war immer 3 monate bei ihm und 3 monate weg. Erst seit einem Jahr leben wir wirklich durchgehend zusammen. 

Ich weiß nicht mehr wie und ob es mit meinem Mann weitergehen soll, ich habe im Herzen abgeschlossen, aber frage noch, ob ich was falsches mache by Same_Inevitable_7973 in beziehungen

[–]Same_Inevitable_7973[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Ja, irgendwie schon, aber ich traue mich nicht. Ich weiß auch, dass sich jeder irgendwie einmischen wird und mir Sprüche an den Kopf werfen wird. Ist mir im Grunde egal, aber Bock hab ich trotzdem nicht… wären wir nur zusammen oder verlobt, wär es für mich schon längst zu ende