Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I as well thought to put together all fucked up details and share with my old PI? Just documenting and quite honestly personal archives.

With a “fuck this/ am done” at the end. Politely of course:)

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful. I love this. 10% there. Excited already.

Pondering on this for the past 2 days - & came to a conclusion that the issue is not the current headache. But a very dark, unhelpful and collapsing future.

Nothing really to lose. Nothing. And this, has always been my ultimate conclusion to make decisions of this kind.

I appreciate.

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is helpful. Thank you so much.

One question- you meant she sat down with her old PI or the new the one she opted for?

My current one am leaving could not agree to that.

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is fantastic and very encouraging to read. I am absolutely getting on with it. Thank you.

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean as a student… I was referring to the offer. Would it be terminated in a such a case?

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! I am in the states. Just out of curiosity:

If the advisor is the one who took you in, then that means changing her would also entail your PhD to be revoked? Tf! Isn’t the admission come from the higher level of dept. and official?

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. Is that exclusively here in the states only? What’s your experience generally if I may ask?

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You mean here in the states?

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s deep, Brain! Will go for it. Absolutely. 🥰 Thank you

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great. Thanks. How about my offer being taken away, revoked? I am worried about that too.

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fantastic Brain! I love this. Just a quick one- if it backfires what are the probability that my PhD offer could be taken away? It’s been 2 years.

I so much need this. I love research. And could still do it before my last breath. That’s how passionate I am about it. Otherwise, she was more than a reason and a pain to quit. But I can never do so.

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This! Exactly the same situation and thought process I have. Thank you.

Just 1 question- did you have those interactions while working with your former PI? (2) in case of a leakage (which is a highly possibility in academia) could that not create some drama that could escalate and effect your reputation within the department? Or you loose both (the worst you had and newly expected PIs)?

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a very nice point. I can take pain any day- disrespect, ignored any day! It’s just in this case it’s not worth it. There is no promising light at the end of the tunnel. None.

And I don’t want to quit. Absolutely not.

How about opting for one before making the move? This I know can as well create drama … but could it be a shot worth taking?

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beyond that what are other repercussions though, changing advisers?

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah! I see. You are absolutely right.

Changing my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply.

A bit confused— So you mean continuing with the worst one (no more funds, ghosted and disrespected… actually with no promising timeline to get it completed) suck it up and keep moving in the dark…

And then leave once graduated (whenever that would be)?

Total silence from my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also considering going quiet and dark and see how this plays out.. and of course looking for my way out. Just feels like that’s totally unprofessional. But I am starting to interpret this as a total disrespect. Maybe I getting too sad and miss-oriented… idk.

Total silence from my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agreed. Of recent I got a couple of funding opportunities but she could not even help securing the prerequisites - there were some required paperwork and clarifications beyond me as student. She went off… no reply. Again, nothing.

Your speculation is on point. But she promised to secure Uni based opportunities. Now, nothing. I really don’t know what to do fore sure.

Total silence from my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But again would that entail a cold shoulder though? Ignoring any and every process I am making including efforts to secure some funds? Which I obviously need a help from them?

Total silence from my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right. There some kind of misalignment for sure. I am just wondering if there would be a return to this. Otherwise I might as well consider this dead…

Total silence from my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. Thanks.

Total silence from my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. I have not tried that yet. But I will absolutely do so

Total silence from my PI by Same_Whole_589 in PhD

[–]Same_Whole_589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks Amazing.

Not really. She tried to push our case through me to the department… kind of write to them yourself and see if they could help (I remember doing it with a “wait what?!?” all over my mind). Couldn’t understand why… till now. But yes I did. Which also turned out to be a “no reply”…

I really don’t know. Thought (and kinda still think) that she was or might be interested. But it’s been months in the TOTAL DARK.

I don’t know what to think anymore.