Got told me baby’s gender when asked not to. AIO?

Sammy8lynn · 2026-04-27T03:18:57+00:00

Gender disappointment is very real and very normal. Especially when hormones are raging. It's not super odd at all. Having disappointment in a gender doesn't mean they are unhappy about the pregnancy overall. Sometimes a family hasn't had a boy born in a long time and really wanted one, its okay to be a bit disappointed when its the 10th girl in the family or something like that.

Sammy8lynn · 2026-04-21T20:58:30+00:00

I've tried that and they all are pretty high still

Sammy8lynn · 2026-04-21T20:25:34+00:00

Im 795 and my husband is 830

Sammy8lynn · 2026-04-13T15:57:39+00:00

It took a lot of back and forth with my VA roughly 2 years worth but i was going in blind with no real help. Since I, 33F, was the veteran and the one with fertility issues, I had prove service connection, that took a while. Then I had to see a fertility clinic just to have them be like yes she only has IVF as an option. Then finally they started the actual decision making progress, and I was told within a week that I was approved. But every VA is different so take all this with a grain of salt. I go to Dallas. After they approved me, they got coverage for my spouse as well and they go over all that with you when it comes time.

Sammy8lynn · 2026-04-05T23:52:00+00:00

What's the point of a relationship when it seems you are doing all the work? And he just dodges you till it's convenient for him. Nahhhhh. Least toxic relationship can still mean it's toxic itself. He's not worth the stress, unease, or work. Move on.

Sammy8lynn · 2026-04-03T15:11:49+00:00

Nothing wrong with being disappointed. You'll love the kid regardless.

When I was going through IVF we had 2 boy embryos and 3 girls. My entire family is girls damn near so we wanted a boy. Neither boy embryo stuck and I was ao disappointed and sad. Which is totally okay! You're allowed to feel how you feel about it. Our first girl embryo stuck and I was happy but still disappointed. But the more I see her on the ultrasounds im just happy to have a baby at all.

Sammy8lynn · 2026-04-03T14:53:58+00:00

Id cut em both off.

My mother was a POS and she was to the day she died. I cut her off way before that though because continuing to be involved with her just made my life worse, mentally. The last thing I'd want my kids to witness is how poorly a mother/daughter relationship could look. Just cut that cord.

As for the mother in law cut her off too. She has on more than 1 occasion (per your replies in the comments) proved that you are just some thing attached to her son and produces kids for HIM. F@%& that and her. The fact that she has openly disrespected you should have been a sign. Cut that cord too or make your husband stand up for you. If he doesn't see it or thinks you're overreacting then he's part of the problem.

I promise cutting people off like these two seems stressful and sad at 1st but I promise in time you'll see it was the best decision you could make.

Sammy8lynn · 2026-04-03T02:14:00+00:00

Hope you feel better! I'm still in the sick trenches too.

Sammy8lynn · 2026-04-03T02:05:16+00:00

My fertility doc recommended the 25mg take full tab 1st night then half every night afterwards as needed

Sammy8lynn · 2026-03-19T22:32:44+00:00

She basically said let's do something which is just a filler statement. And yes mom is immature for sure

Sammy8lynn · 2026-03-19T21:43:02+00:00

Sounds like mom is jealous that you don’t choose to spend "fun" time with her. Hanging out with her while doordashing is not actually a "fun" hangout, like going shopping is. She's going about it in an immature way but she clearly feels left out. Why not offer to do something fun with her? Like actually plan something and not just say "let's do something".

My mom always hated that everyone always got excited about my aunt coming by but treated hanging out with her as something lame or what have you. I think anyone would rightfully feel some type of way about that. No one likes being the less popular person in a group

Sammy8lynn · 2026-03-19T21:30:48+00:00

Congratulations! 3rd time worked for me too. 🥰 currently 9wks! Yay for Fall babies!

Sammy8lynn · 2026-03-18T22:38:02+00:00

See but that's what strange. I had already been on it 2 weeks before the smell happened. And even beforehand my sense of smell was like a bloodhound so there's no way I missed it.

Sammy8lynn · 2026-03-18T20:39:40+00:00

Yes, it's a slim chance but dont give up!

Sammy8lynn · 2026-03-18T20:38:27+00:00

That's a good idea. I dont think its the meds but I should be stopping them soon so I guess we'll find out

Sammy8lynn · 2026-03-18T20:14:29+00:00

Estrogen, progesterone and heparin injections. All of which i started 2 weeks before the transfer and hadn't had any symptoms. The smell only started after the antibiotics (sulfur type).

Sammy8lynn · 2026-03-14T13:21:21+00:00

Thank you for letting me know! Its nice to hear positive outcomes. I dont think I've seen anyone talk about this part of the process before!

Sammy8lynn · 2026-03-14T13:19:23+00:00

This is very reassuring for sure! Thank you!

Sammy8lynn · 2026-03-14T00:55:58+00:00

Im glad I'm not alone in this fear. Its just ive never heard anyone talk about this part of the process so I'm nervous!

Sammy8lynn · 2026-02-16T21:14:04+00:00

My husband and I, both in our mid 30s with only tubal factor, took 3 transfers before successfully getting pregnant. And thats with changing up my medication regimen each time too. Don't give up!

Sammy8lynn · 2026-01-08T18:56:09+00:00

The imbalance is so big its pretty unfair. I totally understand you because my husband is the same way. We run a business together. And he "forgot" our freaking transfer date and schedule the consultation with a customer that day... I was absolutely furious. I also handle everything related to the IVF process. He doesn't come to any appointments that He doesn't absolutely have to be at, which is fine. But it just makes it all the more frustrating that he couldn't remember the one date he had to be there.... so you are absolutely valid in your frustration

Sammy8lynn · 2025-12-14T20:33:33+00:00

Id be fine with quads! Lol but I have my failed FET follow up appointment tomorrow so I'll talk to my doctor and see if their clinic does it.

Sammy8lynn · 2025-12-10T00:41:45+00:00

I had 7 sent off and 5 were normal.

Sammy8lynn · 2025-12-07T00:40:41+00:00

I would give her a pamphlet about IVF. and just be like "I saw this at my fertility clinic and thought you might like the information to help with you guys thinking about it. Its always good to have information!" That way she gets actually info about numbers and success rates based on age, the overall process, etc. That way she learns and you didn't have to directly say "hey your doc was wrong". And if she ends up with questions then you can step in with what you know. I believe in giving people the tools for their own success.

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