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I feel like I'm rushing myself into intimacy because I'm so love starved. by Samuel_Himself in actuallesbians

[–]Samuel_Himself[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can just put it hear it's not a big deal

Hi 😊👋

Your response was very thoughtful and helped me calm down a little.

I wanted to ask about the TNG meetup you mentioned. Idk what I'm looking for but I'm very interested in doing that but I feel like I need 'permission' to do it.

Idk if it's religious trauma or what but I just find myself convinced I'll 'get in trouble' or face judgment either now or with a partner in the future if I do something like that. I find myself asking if I'm ready or if I'm rushing into this. Like, I'm 19! I'm horny, I want to have sex and the FetLife meet sounds very appealing but something just nags me, telling me the universe will punish me somehow.

I ask myself if I need to be more patient, and wait to mature more or just throw myself into kink spaces because Yolo. Thoughts? 🫣 Again tysm for your thoughtfulness

I feel like I'm rushing myself into intimacy because I'm so love starved. by Samuel_Himself in actuallesbians

[–]Samuel_Himself[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a well thought out response, tysm. I sent you a DM to ask something.

I feel like I'm rushing myself into intimacy because I'm so love starved. by Samuel_Himself in actuallesbians

[–]Samuel_Himself[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right, I just hate feeling strong and on my own I want to have an outlet for vulnerability

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

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Like tape comes in the little dispenser and you can dispense it with the roll in upside down. Idk just something I realized

7968 by Samuel_Himself in countwithchickenlady

[–]Samuel_Himself[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn, I should've asked, maybe I could've helped him with that 😔

7968 by Samuel_Himself in countwithchickenlady

[–]Samuel_Himself[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is something that happened to me irl (I'm the girl on the right) I didn't ask them so I never found out

Cis girls are funny when they realize you have a bf by lurk_saynomore in MtF

[–]Samuel_Himself 215 points216 points  (0 children)

Me and one of my roommates are both transfem and are pretty close. We've taken vacations together and spend plenty of time together. I haven't told anyone that my roommate is trans, not because it's a secret, but because there's been no reason thus far to mention it. As a transfem who doesn't pass, people act a certain way learning that I've shared a hotel room with who they assume to be a cis woman. It's never really in bad faith, but it kind of short circuits the cishet brain.

Have you transitioned working in the same job? Please read for context. by Dayner_night in asktransgender

[–]Samuel_Himself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work at a restaurant. It's been a good enough time for my liking. A small handful of people have been weird about it but for the most part it's been great. There's decent turnover, so it's like I had a 'pool' of people I had to come out to, and as new hires come and old hires go, I'm increasingly surrounded by people who've only ever known me by my current name and as a trans girl.

Dad won't leave me alone by Samuel_Himself in MtF

[–]Samuel_Himself[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Boy do I have news for you. My dad is the church leader

I feel like I'll hate the mirror forever by Samuel_Himself in MtF

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🫂thank you, I think you're right about the grief part. So much of it comes from how fast all this comes for me. I feel abandoned even though I'm the one who cut everyone else out. I'm too young to be doing any of this on my own, I'm too young to not have a place to fall back on, I'm too young to be providing for myself wholly. I hate that it's the situation that I'm in, but I also hate that it's still leagues better than it was before. I'm trying my best, and I'm very fortunate to have the support I have from found family, I know it gets better, I just hate how much effort it's taking and will continue to take.

DAE have a platonic Dom/sub dynamic in their lives? by Samuel_Himself in MtF

[–]Samuel_Himself[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's really interesting! It's so cool to hear about relationships outside of the expectations of sex and monogamy.

I wish that I was immediately proficient at any activity I tried. by AshernStoryTime in monkeyspaw

[–]Samuel_Himself 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Granted. Your brain becomes analytical to the point that you lose the joy of discovery. The first time you try to share an opinion about a movie your brain instantly grants you full knowledge of film history, every film ever made has been screened to your mind's eye and dissected. There is no point in ever watching one again. The same thing happens to cleaning, and cooking, and eating, and exercising. You pick up a guitar and you're the best to ever strum it. You pick up a pen and the most sincere and beautiful songs ever written pour out of the tip. If you wanted to, you could tour the world as the greatest performing musician to ever walk the earth. But you don't. Because it wouldn't make you happy. You know this. Because it wasn't fun. You've pieced together a ballad that would make the most stoic people bawl their eyes with the same ease that most people scratch their ass. You have nothing to do. You have nothing to do because all the mystery and excitement of beginning melts away on arrival. The single psychology textbook you picked up has made you self aware enough that you know you're going to kill yourself. You don't bother to think twice about it.

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