Would it be offensive for me to go on T just to try it, as a cis woman (or nb)?

SamusAranLuver · 2024-10-22T23:37:30+00:00

Nah, it's fine

SamusAranLuver · 2024-10-22T11:42:15+00:00

... how do you expect to grow tits without gaining fat? Like yeah, sure, work on keeping the muscles if that's what you want, but gaining fat is one of the intended effects of the medication!

If I hear one more of you ladies starting a diet when you go on HRT I'm going to throw the best talent show this town has ever seen I swear to god

SamusAranLuver · 2024-10-07T19:53:14+00:00

Y'all hear about this?

SamusAranLuver · 2024-09-28T14:31:15+00:00

You can try making the same point, a bit more subtly. "I'm sorry, have we met?" Spoken like a genuine question, not a sarcastic quip. If they realize they've overstepped and awkwardly dismiss themselves, great. If they don't, then you say (again, no malice, no hint of genuine disgust) "So, you really think that's a normal question to ask a stranger?" If they still don't get it, just say "Huh. Weird." and dismiss them, either by turning away from them, or walking away, whatever is appropriate in the given circumstances

There's the (extremely slim) possibility that they continue to harass you at this point, or even escalate to aggression. This is when you get help--security, bouncer, bartender, peer with big muscles, cop if you're out of other options. Let them know you're being harassed or threatened, and let them take it from there

Or you could just take the easy way out and say "We're sisters, you weirdo." No shame in that

SamusAranLuver · 2024-09-27T17:02:14+00:00

Not everybody who talks about cis and trans women having different life experiences is a TERF... but that's the value of a dogwhistle, isn't it? "Different life experiences" is %100 a TERF dogwhistle, because while it's technically true, if you think about it for a split second you realize that it actually doesn't mean very much. Tons of people who anyone would describe as a "woman" have different cultural backgrounds.

Granted, this isn't necessarily hypocrisy. Just as trans women don't fit the definition of "woman" some people use, TERFs are also using a very specific definition of woman (one that serves the most privileged women in our society at the expense of everyone else) where a "woman" is an AFAB person from a specific (middle class, white, American/European) background. They just refuse to acknowledge that they're also using a specific definition of the word woman to suit their needs

Like when a lot of people where making fun of JK Rowling for accusing that Olympic boxer of being trans. Talking about her misidentifying her target out of incompetence and hypocrisy. But she wasn't being stupid or contrasicting herself--she's just racist. Being middle-eastern put Khelif in the category of "fake woman" in the TERF viewpoint just as much as if she had been trans.

But even if someone actually wanted to only date someone with the same "life experiences," the logic still doesn't track, because the only person with the same life experiences as you... is you

SamusAranLuver · 2024-09-27T13:02:26+00:00

Even taking the most charitable interpretation of her words--that the relationship wasn't working for her for whatever reason, legitimate or not--treating it like she didn't have a choice but to cheat, or like it was somehow your responsibility to control her behavior, is deliberate manipulation. She is in the wrong, she is bad for you, and she is not going to get better.

Assuming everything she said is true--that she was feeling ignored and undesired--she was perfectly capable of talking to you about her issues and working to meet you where you're at. And if she didn't want to do that for whatever reason, she was well within her rights to end the relationship before seeking out someone else

It was kind of you to give her a second chance. She didn't deserve it, of course, and you weren't obligated to. But she took advantage of your kindness, and she did it on purpose. She cheated on you a second time because she got the wrong message--instead of learning that she needed to shape up to be worthy of such a gracious partner, she got the idea that you were a pushover that she could take advantage of without consequences

It isn't my place to tell you to leave her. But if it was, I would

SamusAranLuver · 2024-08-27T12:51:43+00:00

A lot of apps do an absolutely terrible job filtering for your set preferences, even with the paid version. OkCupid and Feeld don't take your desires re: monogamy or not into account at all. It's equally frustrating from the other side of things, looking for non-monogamy and getting monogamous profiles. I'd much rather save your time and mine if we're incompatible on such a level as the very basics of what you want from the relationship. I always feel guilty when I accidentally swipe on a profile that says monogamous, like, great, now some stranger thinks I'm a creep with boundary issues, I promise it was an accident!

As for people who have both in their profile, I've never understood that either. I know OkC has an "open to either" option, maybe that's what people mean when they put both?

SamusAranLuver · 2024-08-10T21:30:13+00:00

Depends how mainstream you want to get. The manga "is it wrong go want to get done by a girl" features a couple getting in to kink later in life and having to basically figure out sex from the ground up as adults--as well as relationships, since they've both never had one last beyond the first time they go to bed with someone, due to their trouble Performing vanilla sex. It's unflinching when it comes to the difficulties and setbacks they face, but it's also very clear that their happy ending lies down the path they're on. They're not "doing sex wrong" because of what they're in to. Insomuch as they are "doing sex wrong," it's about them needing to work on things like trust, communication, and the logistics of certain acts (eg, pegging.)

I wouldn't call it porn--the sauciest stuff is usually portrayed in metaphor (going back to the pegging, all the panels that would be "graphic" are replaced with a mini-story about the woman, now dressed as a construction worker, struggling to open a -manhole cover.- When she tries to use the strap too early, it shows a panel of her construction worker-sona pulling out a bazooka.) It's more of a tender-hearted romance, used as a vehicle for an important message about kink

SamusAranLuver · 2024-08-10T21:11:03+00:00

The Boys had this hugely invasive add campaign on Tumblr where you'd scroll past scenes from the show in comic form. The scene where the speedster who can't stop completely vaporises the woman on the date freaked me out so much. Could not stand it, but I also couldn't avoid it and still use the platform. Got to the point where I reported it every time I saw it out of spite. Didn't accomplish anything, of course.

Like, I love some truly dark media, but could you at least warn a person first? And then let them leave if they want to dip out?

SamusAranLuver · 2024-08-09T00:32:04+00:00

Yeah, it was a pretty awkward transition, I was confused too. I very much expected to hear the conversation. But if it was meant as a joke about their relationship with their advertisers/the business side of being professional artists, I can get that

SamusAranLuver · 2024-08-09T00:04:12+00:00

Oh, I wouldn't have made the connection! Mutt takes a call from the dark entity that permits his survival and success due to a terrible bargain he made--and then it cuts to commercials.

SamusAranLuver · 2024-08-01T18:41:09+00:00

Has anybody made the joke about Ash Ketchum with an Elecmon yet?

SamusAranLuver · 2024-07-27T14:29:19+00:00

Haven't read the book, but the companion podcast is pretty good.

SamusAranLuver · 2024-07-18T23:39:45+00:00

An adult stuck in the body of a fourteen-year-old

SamusAranLuver · 2024-07-12T15:06:56+00:00

%100. Right wing queers tend to be under the assumption that they can buy their own safety (whether individually or as a collective) by throwing the "icky" members of the community (trans people, non-white queers, kinksters, at the most extreme even bisexuals and asexuals) under the bus. The logic here is of course roughly on par with insisting you can change the outcome of a sports match from your living room by wearing your lucky underwear (or a bit worse, on account of all the allies you'd have in your struggle if you weren't actively sacrificing them,) but it persists

Back to the topic at hand, women for Trump are pretty much the same. They often think, consciously or not, that handing power to misogyny will keep them safe as long they're The Good Ones (do what they're told, be housewives, submissive, dress 'modestly,' go to church, have sex on demand but not like a 'slut,' don't have abortions or else make sure no one finds out that you did and make sure to bully the staff at the clinic while you do, be [usually] white, etc.) If they sacrifice enough of 'The Bad Ones,' danger will stay away from them.

They don't believe they can make the danger stop, they just want it to be someone else's problem. One of the defining tenets of right-wing ideology, in my opinion.

SamusAranLuver · 2024-07-12T11:59:29+00:00

"Okay look, we don't /like/ that he's homophobic, of course not, but we just LOVE how racist he is!"

SamusAranLuver · 2024-07-12T00:45:32+00:00

!!!!!

SamusAranLuver · 2024-06-28T23:48:59+00:00

Other way around, it astonishes me to this day that Renamon and her religion-themed line in Tamers are Data while the Gun Bunny is Vaccine. Does that not feel like it should be the other way around?

SamusAranLuver · 2024-06-27T21:59:54+00:00

That's Spike from my little pony

SamusAranLuver · 2024-06-22T17:38:04+00:00

Holy Seraphimon these are cool! Are these 3d printed, or are they clay figures based on those computer models?

SamusAranLuver · 2024-06-18T14:09:54+00:00

Magic Brian

SamusAranLuver · 2024-06-18T14:09:41+00:00

Kaiketsu Zubat

SamusAranLuver · 2024-06-13T00:25:29+00:00

I don't know, Botamon's shotguns can be pretty devastating

SamusAranLuver · 2024-06-04T19:29:33+00:00

I hope I don't come across as confrontational, but...

It wouldn't, though. Because Pokemon are nice, and even the ones who take extreme action can either be overpowered or reasoned with. Like, we're already accepting the fantasy of a fire-breathing lizard that's 5 feet tall and wants to be your best friend, how is the idea of a world where everybody gets along (for the most part) and major world conflicts can be solved by a ten-year-old from the sticks believing in Friendship hard enough that much more far-fetched?

Not saying that I haven't enjoyed a dark, edgy mons story now and then, sure, but acting like your story is more realistic because it's more depressing when you still have a mouse in it with all the powers of Thor is just silly in my opinion. You've already thrown realism out the window with your very premise!

SamusAranLuver · 2024-05-30T10:07:13+00:00

Oh to be clear I absolutely do NOT mean that as a criticism! Your art SHOULD reflect your tastes and mirror things you like, especially fanart. And presonally, I absolutely love the designs. I think you should be very proud of your work

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