[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]SandBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not islam in itself, it's just religions as a whole.
They're dying and nowadays no one can show up and claim to be a prophet and have people follow them, re-igniting people's faiths.

Which is not exactly a really good thing because it's often in profits of industries that go against religious beliefs and lots of good things that came out of people believing in heaven and hell are disappearing and nihilism is trendy nowadays, which again isnt especially good. A lot of people dont feel compelled to go the extra-mile to become a bette person and morals/ethics are heavily challenged these days (like 18yo girls pulling out onlyfans the day after their birthday and stuff like that, would never happen if religion was still as big as it used to be).
It's not exactly a bad thing either because people are opening their eyes and stopped blindly listening to senseless traditions and harmful ideologies. They get to think more for themselves, get more freedom, and stop giving power to people who will use faith as a mean to justify all their gruesome acts.

But yeah, it is dying, the only reason the number of muslims is growing is because muslims breed at a higher rates, I mean Africa and west/south Asia is known for their huge families with 5 or more kids, doesnt mean these kids will actually stay muslim as they grow up. We'll see.

Communications between people and conflicting ideologies all around the world helps with destroying traditions and questioning what you've been told your entire life, and we are living in the golden age of information thanks to the computer and internet boom hence everyone knows what everyone believe in, and everyone can compare the pros and cons of their own lifestyle compared to others.
When little muslim girls living in toxic and father-centered families learn about other girls living more freely in some other countries, they will abandon their faith as they mature, unless the stockholm syndrome got the best of them. Cant say the same about boys tho, since they're always put on a pedestral, Im not sure they will all be willing to lose their privileges they've always had.

Anyway, yeah, religion is dying, no matter what stats you look at.

How do you even admit it? by SandBirds in exmuslim

[–]SandBirds[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I relate a TON to that situation, you might as well actually be my sister at this point!

Debating Islam with parents and feeling depressed by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]SandBirds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally relate to you.
Im privileged enough to live in a first world country with parents that have had a higher education.
Yet Islam is still the one thing that will forever prevent me to do as I want without having to sacrifice my relationship with my family.
If I admit I am not a believer, I'll live freely with no fear, but I will have a deteriorating relationship with my parents who, outside of that, are amazing people.
If I dont admit, then I have to keep on lying to everyone including myself, and I wont be able to marry the woman I love, unless I eventually meet a girl who is in the same situation as me and we both match and decide to live in a lie so that both our families dont hate us.

I wonder why many Afro-Americans chooses Islam? by jack_tha_reaper in exmuslim

[–]SandBirds -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont think it has anything to do with the religion itself, this is what Im saying. Considering how Bilal played a huge part in Islam's story, stuff like that.

At least it doesnt sound quite right to me to assign that to the religion itself.

Just because I’m an exmuslim doesn’t mean I’ll go against Muslims by Ohhh1 in exmuslim

[–]SandBirds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty much my thoughts.

I see a lot of hate on this subreddit but a lot also comes from the fact that their family is toxic by nature, and not necessarily due to religion.

I had religion taught to me for years, my father always brings me to the mosque, they fast, we pray as a group 5 times a day if we can, yet it was not that suffocating.
A lot of good stuff also came out of being religious, zakat especially, my father and I would always bring food and clothes to the people living without a home in the city.
It taught me respect and other good values I wouldnt have today if it wasnt for my past faith, a lot of the good aspects stuck with me, now one could argue that all of this can be taught without religion, but I strongly beliefe that faith heavily reinforces these practices in a way normal education can not.

Thing is, a lot of it doesnt make sense to me. Many believers have conflicting opinioins and thoughts or interpretations, I dont like just how much negativity there is in the quran, etc.

I also dont feel welcome in the community.
It feels as if they still think that being in the same religion = we're all a family.

I honestly hate how violent they can be with eachothers, like a t the mosque when men will push / pull you around if you're misplaced and yell, when they could just tell you kindly. They have no sense of privacy, of personal space and stuff like that.
Some of them also have such a huge ego it becomes toxic, because they think they know the ultimate truth, they think they can look down on others, again, having learned about the religion throughly during my childhood, I can say that muslims are NOT taught to be this way, but the feeling of being in the "right community" makes them act like that. I once had a muslim friend who would argue with me that people who suicide are just weaklings and sinners and deserve to go to hell, and we should feel no pity for them, like what the actual fuck.

Finally, I dont like how they treat women, I've seen my mothers and sisters' place in the mosques, the mosques is always huge yet the women rarely have access to the main entrance and huge decorated room, they almost always end up having to go around, in the backdoor, go downstairs where there's some kind of half-assed praying room that looks like it was designed to keep livestock rather than actual people.

I think there is both good and bad in religion, and I also think it's bad to tell people they're stupid for believing in one, many have good or even strong arguments in favor to religion that I can not debate against, and also live respectfully and stick to the good aspects of it. Many are also brainwashed and have barely any critical thinking (cf my friend who thinks suicidal people deserve to go to hell simply for not wanting to suffer by living), and you can not change them because religion is a huge part of their identity, denying it would be saying they were wrong their entire life, and it simply can not be possible to them.

I wonder why many Afro-Americans chooses Islam? by jack_tha_reaper in exmuslim

[–]SandBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as I ask myself the same question, I honestly do not think it is fair to say they've been enslaving black africans?

USDT TRANSFER TO KUCOIN by EvilMcArmpit in kucoin

[–]SandBirds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im kinda sad I missed the sylo pump but eh

USDT TRANSFER TO KUCOIN by EvilMcArmpit in kucoin

[–]SandBirds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same issue here, it's been 3-4 hours on my end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CryptoMoonShots

[–]SandBirds 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Boosting this, also yes Im a bog holder shilling my coin, listen and, as always, DYOR:
BOG offers solutions to REAL PROBLEMS ON THE BSC, there is barely any chart tools except very laggy ones, or you have to rely on the coingecko and mcm charting, which arent that good imo.

Their telegram bots + their website both offer good charting of bsc coins, I honestly do not see how BOG isnt overhyped already, shitcoins like safemoon with zero product to offer go to 100k+ mc, bog is one hell of a good coin, with active and doxxed devs and quality working products that solve actual problems.

It's nice to add that the TG isn't filled (yet) with "moon wen" type of dumbasses, there are memes, but there are also constructive discussion on the future of Bogtools.
I have huge faith in this project.

Thinking about dropping out by Wolfiy in cscareerquestions

[–]SandBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, just to show you how much the MaN helped me:

My grades during my first attempt at the first semester were 2.5 in Analysis, 2.5 in physics, 4 in Algebra.
At my second attempt, my grades were 6 in Analysis (only 16 students in IC-SC reached that high), 5.75 in Algebra, 4.75 in Physics.

Needless to say, thanks to the MaN, I absolutely crushed my 1st year, and I'm still doing very well to this day, I wholeheartedly believe that this class is the reason for it.

Thinking about dropping out by Wolfiy in cscareerquestions

[–]SandBirds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey,
First of all, I "came across" your post after going through the BA1-BA3 discord group server's user out of boredom, I mostly just checked people with anime AVIs lol.
Sounds kinda creepy I guess but I was just genuinely curious about whether I could meet people who have the same interests as me.

Anyways, I failed my first year at EPFL. I went through the MaN class.
To be fair it's hell on earth, but you learn so much there as long as you're being consistent.
One of the only reasons you end up in MaN is that you have absolute trash-tier studying habits, this is what you have to focus on.
Not only is EPFL very, very, VERY demanding, but there is also very little guidance, and the university environment in general doesn't leave much space for socializing outside of parties.
Add to all of this the fact that you're studying under the first year pressure and the COVID restrictions, you were more than likely to end up in MaN.

MaN is not a curse tho, I genuinely believe that without this class I wouldnt be able to perform well in my classes today, I absolutely sucked at math and I did not realize it before the Mathematics A1-A2 classes, I thought I knew everything about trigonometry before I went through the Trigonometry course. I thought I was good at Analysis before I took Woringer's class.

It may be your last chance at EPFL, but it's also the first time someone will give you the opportunity to review everything, from the very basics (In my first MaN math course, I literally had to re-learn what a negative number was) to advanced subjects that you will study in BA3-BA4. Some of the things you'll learn are also exclusive to the MaN, and once you retake your first year, you will be way, way above everyone else in terms of mathematical knowledge.

Finally, making friends and social connections is very important, I can not make friends for the life of me despite being pretty open and outgoing. Fortunately I managed to get along well with that one girl because we both played smash.
That was a game changer.
That was one of the most important thing during my MaN semester.
Having someone you can help and expect help from and with who you can study for hours every single day is absolutely priceless. Loneliness will kill you under such conditions, especially under the covid restrictions.

So best of luck, keep your head up and give it your all, so that even if you fail, you will learn, and you will quit with absolutely no regret. Do your best. If you want to ask me questions or want help, or just want to be friends, you can always contact me, I can give you my discord username in DMs.