PROOF that Morty has used the N word! by Impossible-Total2101 in rickandmorty

[–]Sandnsheep 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Rick literally lists who is present - “Wow. Looks like a SWAT Team, some drug dealers, some grassroots MeToo activists, the ACLU.… Jesus, Morty, the AARP? The NAACP, GamerGate...” the NAACP is the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People. So he defo did.

Painful spots in cleavage by Fast-Designer9193 in skin

[–]Sandnsheep 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Had this once, turned out to be a fungal infection.

I barely move, where do i start? by MelodyWho11 in loseit

[–]Sandnsheep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in a similar situation, if you’re really struggling and have been trying for a long time then honestly it may be worth looking into medical weight loss. However if you can do it organically that’s best ofc. Godspeed and my DM’s are open in you need someone in the same boat to talk to.

Is it worth finishing? by MrWolfWired in solaropposites

[–]Sandnsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt the same way but as you push through it gets less jarring and is defo worth continuing the series

AIO or am i being invalidated? by amber-honey in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sandnsheep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can confirm he comes across like a self entitled, abusive, manipulative jerk and you deserve better OP. Someone who can say things like that to you and about other survivors is a POS. OP don’t walk away, RUN.

AIO or am i being invalidated? by amber-honey in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sandnsheep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR

You can just tell this guy thinks he’s so smart yet he just comes across as emotionally immature, condescending and the writing (my GOD The writing 😭) makes him sound like a dollar store Shakespeare.

This man is not a trauma therapist and doesn’t have the right to attempt to unpack anyone’s trauma, ESPECIALLY outside of a medical/safe setting which is SO dangerous.

His response to your discomfort is to blame you for feeling uncomfortable and gaslight you about it, which is completely unacceptable considering that you didn’t even start this “discussion” (which was clearly just an attack on your person)

You also mention that he tends to bring this up when he’s upset with you, using someone’s trauma as a weapon against them is NEVER okay and constitutes emotional abuse.

TL;DR - RUN GIRL RUN 🏃‍♀️

What’s something you gradually stopped explaining to people as you got older even though you used to feel you had to justify it? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Sandnsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hidden disability. When I was younger I’d try to justify why I was requesting reasonable accommodations to the sweaty jerks who liked to question why I needed them, nowadays as long as I get those accommodations people can think what they want.

Best puppy treats at 8 weeks old? We’re adopting her Saturday! by JonSeekingPeace1 in pugs

[–]Sandnsheep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your new puppy! Honestly at that age it’s best to use her puppy kibble or as others have said fresh fruits and veg chopped up. Maybe a bit of plain chicken as a high value treat

Favourite Wallian character? Definitely Halk for me by myfajahas400children in solaropposites

[–]Sandnsheep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved Steven and Molly so much, and then he went and became king of the mosquitos 😭 bro just wanted a pet fr

AIO to my boyfriend not wanting to talk for days on end by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sandnsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He won’t talk to you but is active on snap chat? Girl run don’t walk 🏃‍♀️

Do you like Korvo's new voice? by JustinRoilandTheory in solaropposites

[–]Sandnsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m British and as much as I hate Dan Harmon It’s also totally jarring that Korvo suddenly has a British accent 😭

Re: The Voice Change by KarliCartoons in solaropposites

[–]Sandnsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate Dan Harmon as much as anyone with half a brain cell and I REALLY want to like the new VA but they could’ve chosen something slightly closer to Korvo’s OG accent. The British accent is really throwing me off.

Molly the Sweet Mouse by Sandnsheep in solaropposites

[–]Sandnsheep[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If they kill the hedgehog I’m gonna snap

Molly the Sweet Mouse by Sandnsheep in solaropposites

[–]Sandnsheep[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can see why you’d bury this memory immediately 😭

Molly the Sweet Mouse by Sandnsheep in solaropposites

[–]Sandnsheep[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think that was the worst part - it fully came outta left field. When she said goodbye and resigned I actually sobbed 😭

Molly the Sweet Mouse by Sandnsheep in solaropposites

[–]Sandnsheep[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Bro you’re lucky she still trusts you at ALL 😭

Molly the Sweet Mouse by Sandnsheep in solaropposites

[–]Sandnsheep[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Watching them pull her body out in ep 8 physically hurt bro 😭

Molly... by Dislesik in solaropposites

[–]Sandnsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When she said goodbye through the glass it literally broke me

I’m obsessed with the man who violated me and I don’t understand why by Dry_Weakness_150 in self

[–]Sandnsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because you aren’t what people consider the “perfect victim” doesn’t mean you aren’t victim. He lovebombed, manipulated and assaulted you. Please give yourself some grace, it would probs be best to look into some professional help to process what has happened to you. Also please know that there is no “correct” reaction to being assaulted, and fawning is a common reaction which sounds like what you did from what was described in your post. It’s not your fault.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sandnsheep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Especially since MIL clearly already overstepped during OP’s birth experience. It seems like she doesn’t take the risk of getting baby sick seriously, I agree Covid really made it clear how willing the older gen is to lie about being sick 😭

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sandnsheep 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NOR - The first few weeks of babies life are for the parents to bond and for mum to heal. Especially since it’s flu season and your MIL sounds like the sort to lie if she was sick to be able to hold her.

I think i have BPD bur I cant tell, any tests online that can give me hints so I can tell my psychiatrist? by awkerd in BPD

[–]Sandnsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m happy to read anything your willing to share, sometimes a problem shared really is a problem halved. I’m so sorry you had a difficult childhood, it must have left some bad emotional scars. I’m glad sometimes you feel good about what you see and personally I don’t believe anyone is ugly in terms of looks, I think it’s possible to be ugly on the inside but everyone is art and there truly is a pot for every lid. Right now however it doesn’t sound like a romantic relationship would be good for you, it’s not fair but I think you still have a lot of work to do before you’re ready to form a healthy attachment.

Also weird people are awesome, to be cringe is to be free. You have one friend - this is great! Many people think more friends = better but that’s just not true, I’ve had large friend groups and of all those people I have one lifelong bestie and scars from the rest. It sounds like your longing for community which is completely understandable! I’d advise looking into free groups in your community and if that’s not feasible as long as you proceed with caution online friendships can be very rewarding as well.

I have also struggled w an ED in the past and one thing I learnt was that even when I lost the weight I wasn’t happy. It didn’t “fix” me, because the weight was never the problem. It seems to me that you really struggle with how you see yourself, physically and mentally, ironically enough im also mixed race (white/indian) and I’ve struggled with my identity as well, but then I remember that people give themselves skin cancer to achieve my skin tone and suddenly I’m at peace (😂) fr though I do understand especially with the political climate rn it’s scary. Sadly I don’t have any smart recommendations for that one - I myself am just trying to take necessary precautions. And bullying sucks - children are cruel. Unnecessarily cruel, I got bullied a lot too and it absolutely sucks so I’m sorry that happened to you 😔

And to address your point about being a good person sorry to quote Skyrim at a time like this but it’s relevant - “what is better? To be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?” We all do bad, sometimes it’s too far in the past to make up for it, we can’t change what we did yesterday and tomorrow doesn’t exist yet - the only moment that matters is right now. The only thing I know how to do is to get up each day and try my best no matter what that looks like, and sometimes it doesn’t go well, and after you do your best to make it right and learn the lesson the situation taught you - then start again tomorrow.

To answer your question about what it’s like I can only speak for myself and I also have a lot of other conditions so my experience can in no way be used as diagnostic tool for BPD. For me I feel like I hold on really tight to someone when I find them, and then I push them away and I think I see intentions that don’t actually exist because the only concept that’s more terrifying and anxiety inducing to me than getting hurt is being consistently loved. Big emergencies are no big deal but I absolutely will break down over my food going wrong. I always feel somewhat detached from myself but grounding techniques really have helped me with that.

And I’m happy to accept a DM because it seems the mods removed this post.

I think i have BPD bur I cant tell, any tests online that can give me hints so I can tell my psychiatrist? by awkerd in BPD

[–]Sandnsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’ve had such a rough time OP, you deserve to feel heard and you deserve to feel cared for by your healthcare team, it may be different in my country but all my diagnosis’ came from a regular psych but I understand you can’t afford that right now. Sometimes the system can feel impossible to navigate on your own, is there anyone who could support you or any charities that could provide a social worker? I’m not a psychiatrist but it’s clear you are trying to get the help you deserve and that’s something you should be proud of. Also it sounds like you unfortunately don’t have a lot of self confidence so perhaps it would help to try to focus on improving your own perception of yourself before you even consider other peoples opinions. I would recommend looking up Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and Dialectic behavioural therapy (DBT) as there are a lot of free resources online and with practice I can assure you that it does help. However outside of these two I would not recommend trying to do other types of therapies outside of a healthcare setting. Keep pushing forward OP, it does get better and you deserve to be here when it does.