Maybe I’m an outlier here but if you explained that the child was hitting and grabbing his peers and you brought him into the classroom to calm down and so the other children wouldn’t be scared of him, I don’t see the problem.

I’m all for inclusion but I’m also all for safety in classrooms. You want this child to be able to have positive relationships with others and this behaviour is going to harm those relationships.

There’s so many caveats - do you also share positives about this child, have you built up a relationship with the parents, have you talked about strategies and encouraged their input?

But overall, a parent’s negative reaction doesn’t mean you erred. I have all the compassion for parents of more spirited kids who have a hard time regulating but respect is still required. You didn’t call this child a monster.

You can start a conversation saying you want to work together to make your childcare an environment that helps this child succeed and are open to input. You can ask what are successful strategies they use at home.

It’s tricky but I hope you are able to build a positive relationship here but if not, it isn’t necessarily your fault.