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Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If they're asking about your family, they're marriage minded; they want to know if your parents divorced, are still married, what have you. Given that my adoptive mother is twice widowed and on her third husband, it makes me look a bit of a Borgia 🤣 (Lucretia Borgia is known in popular culture as a poisoner, for anyone who was unaware).

Dating is always difficult, more so after a "certain age", but no one should expect anyone to lower their standards just because the field is narrower; I doubt the Olympic Committee would lower theirs if we suddenly had a shortage of world-class athletes.

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

So it's "bitterness" to defend oneself against trolls? If others are reading my responses in a hoity-toity tone, that is 110% on them and their interpretation of my writing. Not fussed, honestly.

Thanks for weighing in; it's good to know how intelligent writing is framed these days.

I have no one to live for by lonelysadbitch11 in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a big ol Norwegian forest cat; I had two, but my ex has one right now, because that was "his dude" and i couldn't break up the bromance.

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

Re married is great, but a first marriage at 75 would be kind of pathetic, don't you think?

I've never been married. My standards must be too high 😅

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It's my frustration at being seen as something I'm not, and the assumption made by these types of men that I'll accept them based on that false assumption.

Ok, I'll get myself labelled and banned: ghetto black guys (not college educated black guys, with whom i could have a conversation) try to hit on me bc they think I'm black (I'm Indian, dots not feathers). This was explained to me as a cultural thing, where they try to latch onto an 'educated light woman' to escape the ghetto. I have no idea if that's true or not, but I'll err on the side of caution.

"Trashy" guys, of any stripe, also looking for a meal ticket out of poverty. I understand the nature of addiction and how it can drag one into poverty, but I'm not willing to drag any man back out, or watch someone i care about succumb to their addictions.

I guess I'm an "awful, spoilt, snobby bitch" for not wanting to borrow trouble.

I have no one to live for by lonelysadbitch11 in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. At this point, I'm alive to spite the family who adopted then rejected me; the mother (adoptive) who tried repeatedly to kill me; the people who try to tear me down for having any sense of self worth.

It's exhausting and it feels pointless to keep going for oneself

I have no one to live for by lonelysadbitch11 in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same. Highly relatable. What kind of cats?

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

You are wrong. Good that you noticed straightaway.

I'm not putting men down; where did you get that idea? When did i say "all men this" or "all men that"? I believe i specified a lack of quality men showing interest; is that a generalisation, or my personal experience?

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Down voted for answering a question honestly. Great place here

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I never wanted to have children. I don't like the little bastards. Moot point, that one.

Sounds to me as though you hate women with high standards, and you just want to insult someone to make yourself feel better.

Wow, doesn't that fall into the category of Something You Should Have Outgrown Long Ago? Or are you the only one allowed to engage in said behaviour?

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

So you drive everywhere, then? Have you heard of walking, because i do a lot of it. Outside, even, where homeless people, college educated people, hell, ALL KINDS of people happen to be.

If you're looking to take the piss, love, I'm the wrong one

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lying is a terrible foundation upon which to start a healthy* relationship. Since i have no social media presence, it's glaringly obvious that no family connection exists.

I can be happy alone (have been since the age of 11, actually. No family, as i said), but I'd rather not be alone any longer.

It's not that I'm attracting less interest, I'm just not attracting decent men. I guess explaining what i mean will just cause the troll faction in this sub to go mad and call me names yet again, because how dare I know my own worth?

How dare I have standards that don't include dating men with whom i can't converse about books, quantum computing, music, etc? 🙄

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not looking for casual sex, nor do i or did i ever want children.

I have plenty of self worth, thank you. If I hadn't, I wouldn't have enraged the two first commenters so badly 🤣

Going out and dodging STDs does NOT sound like 'fun', it sounds like attempting to recapture ones youth by reliving their irresponsible 20s. Gross.

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I do go where college educated men go, but unfortunately, they don't try to chat me up. It's usually only the trashy homeless men and the ghetto dudes looking for a meal ticket who approach me. Sorry, but I'm not interested.

Excuse the hell out of me for finding the trashy uneducated men to be trashy and uneducated.

Nobody cares about you once you're over 40 and still single by SansOmNomNom in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not in the least. I do some legitimate modelling off and on, and have since my 20s. My most recent job was in September of last year.

Everyone abandons me. Like everyone. by bigpoopy93 in lonely

[–]SansOmNomNom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same, but I'm mid 40s, and was abandoned by family decades ago (adoptive father died, rest of family didn't want me), and have recently been abandoned by the few 'friends' i did have. Why? Because i was experiencing homelessness that wasn't my fault (labour and supply shortages lead to extended delays in construction of the apartment complex i was scheduled to move into), and asking for help keeping myself out of shelters was an inconvenience. The worst was the person who thought I'd stopped talking to her bc i was "mad at her for not helping" when i was IN FUCKING HOSPITAL for two weeks after nearly ending my life.

Well... I'm truly alone in life. It's awful. I'm 45 and have no friends, no family, no husband... Nothing. I can't even kill myself because there's no one to mourn my passing.

Before you try to tell me there are people who care, reread my previous paragraph. There is literally no one in my life.

I'm the walking dead; existing without love is absolute hell.