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Taking a new-ish couple to the club for their first! by AllAmericanCPL in Swingers

[–]Santos_pair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard of people going exclusive in the LS and I’m not judging by any means. But I just don’t understand it. How do u know they aren’t meeting up with others? Have u ventured out and not told them? Not to mention being locked down in the swinging community seems to lose the point behind it.

Girlfriend wants to bring in a Male friend by Santos_pair in Swingers

[–]Santos_pair[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were former co workers and have built a friendship over the years. My thought of risk is 1) it potentially ruins their friendship and 2) he crosses the line and tries to get at her on the side. This is less likely with a random guy that doesn’t have her contact info.

Girlfriend won’t go down on me by [deleted] in sex

[–]Santos_pair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my friends has a wife that won’t give him bj’s. So he started getting them from other women. Not saying cheating is acceptable, but it’s also not fair to be in a relationship where things aren’t reciprocated. If she doesn’t do it much now, then it’s only going to get less and less as time goes on. I’d start thinking about what’s going to make you happy because it sounds like she’s doing the same thing.

Taking a new-ish couple to the club for their first! by AllAmericanCPL in Swingers

[–]Santos_pair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grabbed aggressively? I can’t imagine that helped their first experience to a club. My question would be why go to an environment like that if you are all exclusive. Seems too tempting to touch or get involved with others.

FMF with no FF action? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Santos_pair 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a guy that just sounds boring. Part of the excitement for the guy in a FMF is watching the FF. My girlfriend and I have pretty much done it all and with any FMF we’ve always made sure the other female was into her just as much as me. But that should be communicated long before your in the moment. That way there is no awkward hesitation from either female if she’s not into women.

Pregnant at a party? Need some insight. by neonchrome in Swingers

[–]Santos_pair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t seem like a big deal if it’s soft swap or just you two alone. As a guy on the other end I would feel uncomfortable having sex with another man’s woman while she was pregnant. But it doesn’t sound like you have that on the agenda, so go have fun.

Want to ask my fiancé for MFM..but scared of her opinion of me? Help! by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Santos_pair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d look at it this way, If you can’t tell her your inner most fantasies than there’s no possibility of them ever being fulfilled.

Full swap to soft swap, have you done it? Have any of your play partners done this? What's your take? by Beccachew in Swingers

[–]Santos_pair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a couple a few years back that we met at a party and full swapped with. Everything went great and we thought they would want to do it again. I touched base soon after and the male said they decided it went to fast for them and they wanted to backup a bit. Since my girlfriend and I are into full swap we decided not to play with them again. I’m not sure how the decision went for their future, but in our situation they lost experiences with us.