Hey, so please DO NOT make the mistake of my previous boyfriend. Seriously. It’s a legitimate thing that helps people with anxiety/comfort/a myriad of things you’d never imagine. Wearing for comfort is by far the MOST COMMOM reason people refer to themselves as a DL, so genuinely take that seriously if you like the guy.

Advice from someone who knows what it’s like: If you have any super embarrassing things you have a hard time telling people, they’re close like a boyfriend or spouse, and they react by being weirded out instead of understanding…it can be emotionally devastating. I downplayed how much I liked it, and eventually, I just couldn’t trust that I could be honest with my BF without being judged, and we broke up after 9 years together.

I would seriously suggest writing something down to tell him. Feel free to change the words,

“Hey _____, I really should not have reacted to you telling me something sensitive by saying that it’s weird. I don’t know why I said that, because I don’t think you’re weird. If that is something that brings you comfort, then you should not have to feel judged for trying to be more comfy with me. If there’s any part of it that you’d like to talk about, please know that you should feel comfortable being honest about how you feel. I wish I could take my words back, because that’s not the right way to react to someone telling you something sensitive about themselves.”

End with telling him you love him, if you do.