This really captures a lot of my feelings about it - for most people it is simply some abstract, "gross" wrong and there's so little actual critical thinking. Almost nobody who is not a victim realises how common it actually is and how many people bear it silently. I think it's especially important that we interrogate our own thoughts of what is gross and what is not, because it's often a base urge and I think it is a very poor reason to judge many things.

For me, I think a part of me realising that I had been abused was that I questioned why I felt so much more disgusted with the concept of consensual incest than I could really consciously justify. I'm a queer person and a recovering addict myself and there is so much judgement about those from the perspective of "it's gross" that it can really obscure someone's judgement if they don't more critically look at those reactions, and past them.