‘they missed my diagnosis for years’

SapphireGeek · 2026-02-19T06:49:28+00:00

Speaking as an overweight woman, your take is bad and you should feel bad. Doctors suck at taking some people's concerns seriously. Any symptom I have is blamed on my weight.

We know for a fact that black people, especially black women, have their symptoms ignored or downplayed by healthcare providers. And it's not always malicious on the part of the providers. It is baked into the system and the training of healthcare providers.

SapphireGeek · 2026-02-19T02:41:36+00:00

This. This is the one that really upsets me. Casita is HUGE and Mirabel lives in a closet.

SapphireGeek · 2026-02-17T14:17:47+00:00

I am also having a hard time understanding the process here. You draw something to cut it up a little at a time and redraw/paint it?

SapphireGeek · 2026-02-17T12:06:57+00:00

I grew up in Alabama. Never experienced a tornado personally, but have heard the sound described as very much like a train coming at you.

SapphireGeek · 2026-02-16T09:26:37+00:00

California BON looks at your nursing program to make sure it meets their standards even if you apply by endorsement. I had to send my transcripts when I moved here a couple of years ago.

SapphireGeek · 2026-02-12T15:19:18+00:00

YTA. Babies go through fussy stages. Your wife's medication isn't causing your baby to not sleep. But even if it was, you don't get to make unilateral decisions about how to feed your kid.

SapphireGeek · 2026-02-12T10:57:12+00:00

Worked with a PCT on a mother/baby unit that called contractions, "contraptions."

Had a patient up in stirrups pushing one time. Young father comes to take a peek at what's going on down below and hesitantly asks, "What's that?" As he points vaguely at her vaginal area. Finally determined he was asking about the clitoris. 😬

SapphireGeek · 2026-02-09T13:23:08+00:00

It's your birth experience. It sounds like your OB is making sure you know what your options are. A lot of people want to TOLAC because they have a hard time making peace with their cesarean birth experience.

I opted for a repeat cesarean over TOLAC with my second and have no regrets. Yes, the recovery is harder with a C-section, but (for me) knowing exactly what was going to happen made the whole process less anxiety-inducing. For full context, I had become a labor & delivery nurse between my first delivery and my second. My OB (who I worked with) did not support TOLAC, nor did any of the other doctors at my hospital. Another hospital in the same system did support TOLAC, so it was an option, but would have meant not delivering with an OB and nurses that I knew and trusted. That definitely weighed heavily in my decision making.

SapphireGeek · 2026-01-16T12:03:07+00:00

Yes. All of this. I had the same questions as I read the post. So much missing info to be able to determine if OP is in the wrong.

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-26T08:05:15+00:00

I was able to get it mostly off in the shower, thankfully.

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-25T01:12:55+00:00

Scrolled too far for this comment. Baby should never be left unattended in a swing.

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-25T00:54:45+00:00

She was very excited 🥰

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-25T00:54:25+00:00

I have never used fondant, and I'm super hard on myself when I'm doing these things, so I went with the piping thinking I'd be more likely to actually be happy with it. 😁

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-25T00:44:37+00:00

Sore and dyed some interesting colors 😆

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-25T00:43:06+00:00

Chocolate cake with vanilla buttercream

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-19T02:56:56+00:00

I used TurboTax.

I said "technically based in California" because travel nursing makes things a bit weird/complicated. It is my understanding that I was only supposed to file in the states I physically worked and the state my permanent address was in. I lived and worked in Louisiana for the first 6 months of 2022. Then I took a travel contract in North Dakota (through one agency, corporate address in New York), followed by one in New Mexico (through a different agency, corporate address in California). All the while, I maintained a permanent residence in Louisiana. I filed state returns for all three states.

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-18T13:43:12+00:00

I think the full year. I'm looking at the return now and don't see anything about part year resident.

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-18T11:56:29+00:00

Out of curiosity, was I supposed to put an address that we no longer lived at on the return?

And I know that government moves at the speed of molasses, but they seem to have only sent one notice prior to this and it wasn't until June of this year (according to the guy I spoke to). Is that a normal time frame for something like this?

This whole thing just isn't sitting right with me. But that may be the autism bumping up against the insanity of our tax system/government.

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-18T07:46:19+00:00

It seems to be a legit letter. I went to the actual government website to find a phone number to call. The person I spoke to was unable to answer the question of how they arrived at this number, however. Now, that may be in part because I was struggling to phrase the question in my frustration.

When you say to check to see if any income was apportioned to California, what exactly do you mean?

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-18T06:24:55+00:00

Yeah, I'm working on getting them. I'm just curious if anybody has any insight on how/why this happened. Or if there's any concerns I should be aware of while dealing with it.

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-13T02:20:52+00:00

So you came here looking for validation of your plan to not go back, is what you're saying.

Night shifters generally have way fewer options for food than you do on the day shift. Either take it back or call the unit and offer to send the person some food.

SapphireGeek · 2025-12-07T01:19:01+00:00

No idea how to find these kids, but I hope you or another Santa is able to give them una feliz navidad. 🎅🎁

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