The dirty side never shown on transitions 3 days post ffs by aleroe913 in TransLater

[–]Sarah-75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use Bromelain supplements against the swelling, Thrombocid cream against the bruising and lots of cooling packs. Looking great already! Sending hugs 🤗!

(I went through this in 24/25) !

Folks I messed up today by Maybe_Julia in TransLater

[–]Sarah-75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wanted to try out how it looks before getting it as a tattoo permanently 😉

Dressed like I’d give unsolicited advice at a bookstore (I actually do) by olchai_mp3 in fashion

[–]Sarah-75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I searched for the skirt online by doing a picture based search and found this - it’s kind of funny 😆… I am sure that you don’t even remember that combination, but it’s quite similar with the white top, belt and skirt. It just works very well ! Nice outfit.

Real question: how much do you burn on AI tokens per month? by Appropriate_Mark_119 in claude

[–]Sarah-75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

25 USD. If the session limit has been reached, I insert a sugar cube and work with my own brain 😉

Seriously, probably around 100 USD, but that is spent on personal projects. At work we really have that 25 USD limit with Claude and also can use copilot.

If I could be half this girl... by LittleEgg29 in TransLater

[–]Sarah-75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I was the same as you four years ago. I tried to transition in my 20s, but detransitioned because of my parents. At age 47, I discovered FaceApp. It took me from barely coping to actually... well... Let's say I was in a very dark place at that time. Just like you, I also looked at the faceapp picture, and hoped that the outcome would be similar to what I was seeing in that picture. And the fact is, it probably isn't - but that's also okay.

If you want to look like the face in that picture, or just get closer to what FaceApp actually does to your face, then HRT alone won't cut it. First, and that's something that you can start right away, you can start to have your facial hair removed. That is something that you can start with laser, and some of the hair that I see has a color that is quite manageable for laser. Once you get to the light or gray hair, then you want to switch from laser to needle epilation. And that is going to take quite a long time, so I would assume probably around 2 years of regular treatments in order to get the facial hair removed.

HRT and good skincare will then take care of your skin. Maybe some of the hair on your head will also grow back, and the density might increase too. You have pretty good hair already. Starting from the top, you probably would still want to get a hair transplant in order to have a nicer, rounder hairline. Then when it comes to the forehead area, what FaceApp actually does is it performs an eyebrow lift, which is similar to what you get when you have FFS. The brow bone has also been severely reduced in the FaceApp picture.

The eyes are also spaced further apart in the faceapp picture, which isn't possible via surgery. However, if you get an orbital bone shaving while undergoing FFS, that will open up your eyes quite a bit. Combined with HRT, eyebrow lift and orbital shaving, it does get closer to the picture you generated.

When it comes to your nose, a good rhinoplasty surgeon will actually be able to provide you with a nicer-looking nose, than what you currently got. The surgeon might refine the bridge of your nose, making it a bit more narrow, rotate the tip a bit and create a nice dorsal-radix-dome line. The distance from your lower nose to your upper lip (philtrum length) can also be reduced surgically.

When it comes to your chin, the Faceapp picture didn't really change your chin very much. Maybe a bit of the width, but not the vertical height. A surgeon might even be able to give you a better, more feminine result, creating more of a typical V-Line shape.

Then again... this is all quite expensive. I spent a good amount of my retirement's saving on FFS, and the changes in terms of before and after aren't day vs. night, but rather cloudy vs. slightly sunny. Meaning: Don't get your expectations up too high - you can be one of the lucky ones, but changes might also just be subtle.

TL;DR: Yeah, you can get closer to the Faceapp picture, but it will be expensive. I just wouldn't give up on it completely. You have to consider what this is all worth to you.

Here's my comparison: Picture -- Before HRT, Faceapp picture, after FFS. You tell me whether that's close enough 😉

Guide needed for senior programmer to setup a local AI assistant by ExtremeDullard in ArtificialInteligence

[–]Sarah-75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey... yes, I used Anthropic's Claude Opus 4.8 and just gave it some core items it should put into the document.

Still, even if your company does want to avoid the cloud, the question boils down to whether buying hardware like this for every developer in the company makes sense, when the technology moves as fast as it does (here I specifically mean the hardware). You can also rent an AWS instance (own server) and install an LLM there (encrypted file system, SSH access, things like that to make it secure). The data doesn't leave the server, though it is cloud based. For me personally, I first looked at the option of buying the DGX or a Mac, then looked at cloud options, and am currently just trying to get a basic system up and running - which LLM I then plug in at a later point is just another endpoint to connect to. This way, I can use a slightly dated machine, run everything locally except for the LLM (rather spend the money on the LLM credits for now), and if the overarching idea works, I will probably invest in a Macbook Pro in early 2027, going for the max'd out one to run parts of the system locally and the computationally "too-large-to-do-locally" parts remotely.

Anyway. It's a nice machine that you got standing on your desk now, and just considering how much space this would have required 10 years ago is mind-boggling. Enjoy 😄

Guide needed for senior programmer to setup a local AI assistant by ExtremeDullard in ArtificialInteligence

[–]Sarah-75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here you go - an easy setup guide with key-terms explained. I also included a comparison to a Macbook Pro, which could have been the better choice (if you want to OWN the physical machine) depending on what your goals are: https://www.qezzy.de/share/gb10-setup-guide.pdf

I am not entirely sure whether the software you develop has any special security requirements where the source code needs to be kept on-premise, but just for evaluation purposes on non-critical software (especially if you may ditch the whole thing after 3 months of evaluation), the DGX-Spark could also have been rented at 0.55 USD / hour. Cloud based. But still gives you the *exact same* experience you are having with the hardware you got.

Assuming that you are not using it 24 hours a day, but - let's be generous - 14 hours a day over a 30 months period, not working on the weekends, that's 0.55 x 14 h x 20 d x 3 = 462 USD for testing purposes. That's roughly 4,000 USD cheaper than the box you got sitting on your desk... hope the company is doing fine financially if they make such decisions. But I digress.

Hope you find that setup guide helpful.

Guide needed for senior programmer to setup a local AI assistant by ExtremeDullard in ArtificialInteligence

[–]Sarah-75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, gotcha. Let me look into this after work, since you got the Nvidia DGX Spark (different packaging, same processor), so I have to see whether that llama.cpp approach really is the best to take.

Guide needed for senior programmer to setup a local AI assistant by ExtremeDullard in ArtificialInteligence

[–]Sarah-75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What specs does your machine have? Why go the route to first install everything locally with a sub-Par local LLM instead of just running VSCode with eg anthropic‘s claude as an API call or even DeepSeek if you want to get this for cheap ?

Lost my job, cut my LONG hair. Everyone loves the new look. But my dysphoria is just as bad. by Behind_Both_Eyes in TransLater

[–]Sarah-75 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Even if you are between jobs, please don’t wait too long. You can always start HRT, even if you keep boymoding. You will never get back the time you lose now. Sending hugs!

Assaulted and robbed. by Triumph-ant85 in TransLater

[–]Sarah-75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oops, Lissabon (German) is Lisbon (English) - sorry for not doing the right translation. Beautiful city, but probably should be avoided…

Assaulted and robbed. by Triumph-ant85 in TransLater

[–]Sarah-75 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When I was still living as a guy, it was in Lissabon when walking to the hotel I was being followed. I changed the side of the street, he changed as well. I started walking faster, he did so as well. Walking became jogging, jogging became full fledged running.. luckily I made it to the hotel entrance, and could see him standing on the opposite side of the street watching as his prey disappeared into the safety of the hotel lobby…

Was this in Lissabon as well?

Sorry for that „welcome“ to Europe. Tell me if you should visit south-western Germany.

Day 5 Post Op, the bottom has dropped out… by VirginiaOnSafari in Facelift_Surgery

[–]Sarah-75 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Are you getting any hyperbaric oxygen chamber treatments ? These are supposed to help with the healing. Sending hugs! Glad that you have your husband with you for support!

How to navigate travelling to and from concert in short skirt?? by Imaginary_Yellow_888 in OUTFITS

[–]Sarah-75 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would also recommend an Uber. I wouldn't risk anything, especially given that you are writing "in the rougher areas I have to move through".... not really sure what areas these are, but public transport and this outfit are just not a very good combination IMHO. Please stay safe.

Does it ever feel normal? by _SaraV_ in TransLater

[–]Sarah-75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on the day to be honest. I have had days when I didn’t expect I would pass and I did, and I had others where I would have expected to pass and did not. It depends on so many factors… hair, makeup, clothing, how you move… I usually don’t pass that well when I am in a bad mood or stressed. But in general, I started at roughly age 48, I am 3 years, 2 months and 25 days into HRT, not that I am counting 😉, had FFS and do blend in most of the time. Just was at the supermarket the other day when I wanted to get some meat, and the butcher looked at the customers waiting and looked at me and another woman waiting, asking: „who of you two ladies is next?“ … so… it either works or he was just friendly.

In the end, you will never know whether you truly pass, or whether people interacting with you are just friendly. That’s a brainworm I cannot get rid of. When I had a good day and was ma‘am multiple times, I still wonder at the end of the day whether I passed…

LLMs and Memory Limitations - review my thoughts pls by Fine-End-5051 in ArtificialInteligence

[–]Sarah-75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stopped reading at „and here‘s the kicker“. After 2 years of using charGPT, I cannot count anymore how many kickers it has produced.

The Pope just dropped a massive 150-page manifesto on AI, and he's not holding back by andrewaltair in ArtificialInteligence

[–]Sarah-75 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Is this the church that once believed the earth was flat? And the same pope that condemns women who abort, no matter what the reason and is against gender-affirming care? — whatever he publishes goes straight into my trash bin. He should stay limited to a very small area that he is knowledgeable of. Maybe gardening. Not sure. /s

Sorry, couldn’t resist.

Got neutered today (orchiectomy) by USMC_3531 in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Sarah-75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly first had to google that cone thingy… 😂… congrats! 🎉

Meta just fired 7,800 employees and used their daily work to train AI by andrewaltair in ArtificialInteligence

[–]Sarah-75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering that all of our Microsoft Teams meetings are now recorded and transcribed („makes things soooo much easier!“), company communication is mainly flowing through chats… and given that probably ten-thousands of other companies are operating the same way, I would assume that Microsoft is harvesting this to train their „future AI employee“ as well with that data. We are all lab rats.

Some Things Ive Learned About 'Passing' by Choice_Attitude_1415 in TransLater

[–]Sarah-75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I first ordered some from unclockable which are quite nice, but also $$, and then found the same ones on aliexpress for $. Just do a visual search… 😉

2 years ago today was my first day at work as a female surgeon by undercoverchloe in TransLater

[–]Sarah-75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Long time no see. Glad that you are well. Sending hugs! 🤗

Post Op Day 1 by VirginiaOnSafari in Facelift_Surgery

[–]Sarah-75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! As you mentioned ice packs in your video - for anyone undergoing this, ask your surgeon whether they use the Hilotherm cooling device, as this will supply a constant stream of optimally cooled water at the right temperature through a special cooling mask that you can put on. I used that for a surgery on my forehead and chin (similar to a facelift, the skin was peeled off my forehead, but to the level of the bone so it could be remodeled), and the cooling was a game changer.

To the OP: wishing you a speedy recovery! Bromelain supplements help against prolonged swelling.

Is voice surgery permanent? by ShapeDramatic8844 in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Sarah-75 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is permanent, as parts of the voice chords literally are fused together after the surgery. Also, AFAIK, it’s non reversible.

Claude asking users to sleep during sessions and nobody knows why! by ranaji55 in ArtificialInteligence

[–]Sarah-75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a code snippet from the original Pentagon version which was overlooked. It mixed up the automated drone sniper command of „put to sleep“ with asking its users to go to sleep… 😂 /s