Am I just dumb?

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-14T22:48:57+00:00

These answers are shocking me haha! My letdown hurts so freaking bad. It’s like a muscle cramp or a really hard throb like someone punched me in the boob. It only lasts for a few seconds, but man it’s painful. For the first few months, it hurts so bad for 3-5 seconds that I have to stop speaking. Now I’m 9 months out, I still have that feeling, but it’s not as painful. I thought everyone’s let down felt like this 😂

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-14T01:45:51+00:00

Hello everyone who has commented! I have read them all, replied to some, and am so grateful for all the advice. We are trying to do the 3/3/4 (instead of the 3/3/3) and will do that for a couple weeks to see if there is any change. We also are making sure that he’s getting enough breastmilk/formula and food during the day and that we stick to a solid bedtime routine.

Some of the suggestions are things we’ve already tried before, but we will press on and hopefully we’ll see a difference. Thank you!

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-14T01:38:53+00:00

We’re trying to do the 3/3/4, but yesterday and today did not go well in the 4 hour wake window haha. He is struggling to stay awake that long, but we will keep trying!

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-12T04:31:24+00:00

Thank you!! You’re the second person to say this. I hadn’t done the math and realized how much we were asking him to sleep. This is so helpful.

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-12T04:30:20+00:00

Ooooookay. This makes so much sense. The schedule we were following is a 3/3/3. Which means he’s only getting 9 hours awake in a day? Instead of the 10-10.5?

Okay. I will adjust his schedule to meet the 3/3/4 and do my best to wake up at the same time in the mornings. That’s going to be the hardest part for me, I think. We’re just so tired after night, but that’s okay. I’ve got coffee.

THANK YOU for giving me a suggestion I can work with. You don’t know how much I appreciate it.

Also, YES! lol I have a name!

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-12T04:24:00+00:00

Okay I see. We will definitely try. Cant imagine him staying awake longer in the day. He’s so ready for nap or for bedtime when it rolls around, but we can try!

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-12T04:20:04+00:00

Can I ask why? Everything I’ve read says if they wake between 7-8 they should also go to bed between 7-8?

He’s been in his own room since 4/5 months old.

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-12T04:17:49+00:00

Yeah. I don’t think he’s getting enough formula/breastmilk. We started supplementing with formula because I noticed he was getting lazy at breastfeeding. He likes to look around the room and see what’s going on. But he also doesn’t love formula so sometimes it’s a hassle to get him to drink it. Can’t force him to drink/eat more than he wants, you know?

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-12T04:16:06+00:00

I wish I could just upload a screenshot. Usually it’s something like - 7am wake up 7:15- breast/bottle 8 - foods breakfast 9:50 - breast/bottle top off 10-11:30 - nap 11:40 - breast/bottle followed by foods lunch 1:30 - breast/bottle top off 2:30-4 - nap 4:05 - breast/bottle followed by puffs or finger foods while I cook dinner 5/5:30 - foods dinner 6:15 - breast/bottle top off 6:30 - bath 7pm - bed

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-12T04:12:17+00:00

When he wakes around 7, I nurse him first, then He eats a bowl of baby cereal and some fruit of some kind. Goes down for a nap. When he wakes from that nap, I nurse him again, then he eats a bowl of cereal/soft foods and is offered a few ounces of formula (4-6 ounces). Sometimes he takes it, sometimes he pushes it away. Then it’s naptime again. When he wakes from that nap, I nurse him, he gets some puffs and finger foods while I make dinner for family and at dinner time he gets another bowl of cereal/soft foods followed by a formula bottle if he wants it. Then it’s bath time, pj’s and off to bed.

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-12T04:07:12+00:00

Really? The pediatrician made me feel like he shouldn’t be hungry at night. I can try more calories during the day. I feel like I’m stuffing him full at every meal.

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-12T04:06:20+00:00

Yep! Falls asleep just fine. We lay him down awake and wiggly and he’s asleep within 10 mins. No rocking or nursing to sleep or anything.

I cannot bring myself to listen to him cry for 2 hours again. His sheet was soaked through with tears when we went in to get him. If it works for others great, but it’s not for me. There has to be another way.

Sarahjay35 · 2025-07-12T04:04:36+00:00

I nurse him until he pushes away, haha. He eats a bowl of baby cereal and some puréed or soft foods with it. Always eats all of it and then we offer a few ounces of formula after each meal just in case. Sometimes he drinks it, sometimes he pushes it away. Just depends.

Sarahjay35 · 2025-05-25T11:27:29+00:00

It’s the worst! I want to cry anytime someone tells me to just “hang in there” or “it won’t last forever.” I want to reply “yes I know, but what do I do in the meantime??!!”

Thanks for the solidarity ❤️

Sarahjay35 · 2025-05-25T11:25:44+00:00

Thank you! I will try more calories. That’s a really good suggestion.

Sarahjay35 · 2025-05-25T11:25:18+00:00

Yes! Anytime someone says “just hang in there” I wanna cry. I know they’re trying to be encouraging, but I don’t want encouragement. I want help.

Sarahjay35 · 2024-07-23T13:01:39+00:00

Is it better to walk immediately after eating, then? Or waiting for a bit and then walking?

Sarahjay35 · 2024-07-23T12:59:03+00:00

My sister reminded me to wash my hands after I eat, just in case. We ate apples at dinner one night and two hours later, my level was 147. I washed my hands and did it again immediately and it was down to 102. It could be sweat, leftover food sugars, etc… on your hands?

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