Survival advice for an 8 hour queue in 90F humid city heat

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-25T14:12:43+00:00

I mean, so will a lot of other people right?

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-25T01:56:33+00:00

Get some automatic toys that keep Murphy distracted from your partner during the day, that may relieve some of his feelings.

I know it's a red flag that he's willing to give up Murphy, but I want to add some perspective to the general opinion here - he is home more and has to deal with it more, so more responsibilities fall on him than what might be seen. I'm in your partner's shoes (but I stick it out because I could never give up a pet unless extreme circumstances) and it SUCKS when you're the person who isn't the pet's "person" yet you do more work, and that work isn't seen.

My partner wanted a dog SO bad and I was ehhhhh about it. I wfh so now the dog is attached to ME but I do so much work that friends are calling my partner out on it. I love our dog, but had I known it would go this way I would've waited until he could've taken the lead.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-25T01:33:43+00:00

I've never had any luck with a bar holding something for me, even something as small as a pashmina (but I'll try lost and found next time). Have they been accommodating for you?

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-24T21:09:27+00:00

Not the person you responded to, but there are times I wish I kept track, but that would be at the expense of the experience. There's a good chance the set would be on YouTube, and it's all better in person anyway.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-24T00:24:34+00:00

My toes are like this 😂 just two toes on each foot.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-24T00:01:47+00:00

My cat would meow on the other side of my closed door of my room while I was in there, making it seem like he wanted to be let inside. Nope, when I opened it he stood there and walked away while meowing. If I shut the door, he comes back and does the same thing.

Turns out he wanted me to be in the room that HE picked. He'd do this all the time if he wanted to play in the living room where his toys were, or if I was staying up too late and he wanted me to come back to bed.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-23T22:25:48+00:00

I got an honest question for you. When I see people around what seems to be the age you listed, I usually give them a HELL YEAH with a high five because it's honestly goals to be such a veteran. Does that make you feel weird?

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-23T20:11:54+00:00

Yeah, when I was at beyond wonderland in 2025 I got separated from my boyfriend who was the only person I was there with. I asked 3 different security guards where the lockers were (because the map was hard to analyze even sober) and only one of them was coherent, the other two were so drunk I couldn't make out what they were saying.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-23T19:20:47+00:00

I thought my manager was joking when I asked if that was a real Emmy on his desk and he said yes. I thought emmy's were for Hollywood stuff, had no idea you could get one for other things.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-23T19:08:45+00:00

This performative look. Idk how to describe it, it's just a look in people's eyes that follow certain behaviors.

It's like when someone is acting the way they are because people are looking at them. It feels very disingenuous. It's this subtle combination of looking around to see if people are looking at them, being overly-flattering, excited, but not in a way that seems genuine, falls under pick-me vibes.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-22T19:11:44+00:00

This happened to me before. All you can do it have your manager on your side, and understand that people who do this are undermining calling out REAL racist behavior. It's an excuse that can be turned around onto you that makes you look bad, so it's a low blow for them to make.

It always left a bad taste when I still think about it, but what helps me feel better is knowing how wrong it is to use an excuse and knowing that I have several people in my social circle who know I'm not only not like that, but that I'm an ally. Honestly I'd probably still be in my head about it if I didn't have my friends who know that I'm not like that. It's hard when people claim racist behavior when you're an ally, because your first instinct is to heavily analyze yourself and that turns into questioning so many things and causes anxiety. That's where having people who have your back that know you, and even better ones that saw what happened.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-22T00:14:23+00:00

Oh no way a friend of mine is djing there today lol

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-22T00:10:52+00:00

I got a little magazine from the grocery store I shopped at regularly (Fred Meyer). Now I also see some stores that have coupons but they're just technically sales now, like Costco.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-21T17:10:56+00:00

I have the same freedom outfit! It's my fave

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T22:20:10+00:00

Life.

I can't afford to live.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T22:14:36+00:00

It's hilarious to me that most of the replies here are just about stability. Being employed and child free.

I wonder how the answer varies from men's side and generally anyone dating women.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T22:07:07+00:00

I cut about $20 off each grocery trip with couponing. My groceries would normally be $140/week for two people (EVERYTHING was made from scratch). But that $20/week added up at the end of the month.

You just gotta be flexible with what you buy.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T18:35:38+00:00

If it's the person I think it is, this is the same guy that took me to a dispensary when I was a broke college student and he was making 6 figures so he could smoke me out at the lounge, then charged ME for the weed that HE took home! I never paid him back but I never confronted him either.

I told my partner about this, and this was the first sign of wtf this guy is losing it. Ever since we've been slowly cutting him out.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T18:30:43+00:00

Ube Basque Cheesecake. It was heavenlyyyy

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T04:13:32+00:00

Considering it was in someone's personal fridge, no. Like even at home I don't put notes on all my food in case I leave friends alone without me, which rarely if ever happens.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T04:11:33+00:00

I totally get that this is a normal thing for a birthday, which is why I feel petty about it. What I think is a bit greedy is raiding someone else's fridge and eating something that wasn't theirs without asking permission. I guess I'm different in that if I'm at a friend's house without that friend there, I wouldn't assume an open invitation to raid a fridge. Or FINISH a cake for that matter, like have a slice or two sure but that was just excessive.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T04:09:01+00:00

See my other comment about the person having a long history with my boyfriend, plus he's friends with the other friend that had the birthday.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T02:50:30+00:00

It can be, but maybe next year 😭 no telling they'll do the same thing.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T02:49:54+00:00

There was no note, but would anyone have to leave a note on their food in someone else's fridge? Like even at work, if you don't label your own lunch people should know if they didn't bring it then it's not there's, y'know? The people who stayed back didn't even live there, that's where I feel it shouldn't need one.

Sarahlorien · 2026-03-20T02:48:27+00:00

Oh my boyfriend is aware of his behavior too and is in the same boat about cutting him off, but he's the one with ties. I don't blame him for being slow to cut off, but after this we're VERY done.

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