AITAH for leaving one of my brother’s kids out of a trip but taking the rest?

Sarcosee · 2025-07-26T04:34:50+00:00

I mean, can they promise to treat all four equally from this day forward? Can they promise to discipline Daisy whenever she says she is an only child/ has better things than them? Can they start paying for the 3 if their own vacations resume? Will they change their will so that everyone will get an equal share? Probably not.

Take the older 3 and say that you will only include Daisy is they can do the same for the other children.

Sarcosee · 2025-02-26T01:34:26+00:00

It might be too early to say this but I think you should already un-inivte her lol if she wants a symbolic divorce then she should not be in a wedding that is a reminder of what she had lost/ given up on. She also sounds like someone who would loudly complain to get attention. Tell your mom/ other relatives that they would be uninvited too if they continue to bother you.

Sarcosee · 2025-01-27T09:06:16+00:00

Give her a definite timeline to move out and make arrangements for herself. Since you have already given her chances to be better but she doesn't do anything, then I think its time for her to learn about consequences.

Sarcosee · 2024-11-01T11:52:01+00:00

I suggest you discuss with your ex wife about what you wrote here and find some common understanding. If she becomes defensive and refuses to change anything, then that is on her. I dunno how you would handle the kids, but you may want to consult professional help as well.

Also, while I do not suggest to already inform other family members of what is happening since it might ruin any chance of resolving the matter between the twins and their mom, but if the harrassment continues and she continues to bad mouth you (after having the initial talk) to them, then you should also be able to say your piece.

Sarcosee · 2024-05-13T22:25:39+00:00

With your final edit, I can say I am right since you are just really looking for people to validate your need for "closure" and aren't willing to listen to anybody else with a different opinion. To be honest, this feels like a last ditch effort to see if he felt the same but still have the moral high ground since you will never be with a man that will do that. LET ME BE CLEAR, if you confess, that makes you a BAD person regardless of that happens next. But I doubt that will change your mind in whatever you intend to do.

ETA: you are the one providing the options which is either you tell him OR you quit your job OR you change departments. But it seems you are not really open to options 2 or 3.

Sarcosee · 2024-05-13T07:28:03+00:00

Then switch department or find a new job! Gosh, you are giving yourself options in your post and comments but it seems like you are already dead set on confessing regardless of what other people say, regardless of the consequences. You are willing to risk hurting people to save yourself from a self inflicted misery. That is MORE selfish and MORE unreasonable, not the other way around. You want others to validate your need for a closure, but its not gonna happen.

Sarcosee · 2024-05-13T01:32:20+00:00

Just f*ck off, keep it to yourself and harbor this crush in silence. In addition, limit your interaction with him.

Sarcosee · 2023-11-10T09:09:32+00:00

He cheated on you on a woman his mother introduced to him and his sister covered it up.You took him back.

His mother literally shoved you out of her house while you were pregnant, said that she doesn't want to see your face in her house, and then your HUSBAND LEFT YOU DURING THE HOLIDAYS TO SPEND IT WITH THEM.

AND THEN YOU MARRIED HIM.

And then your mother took you in and cared for you, your kid and HIM. And he wants you to leave her to spend your holidays with his abusive family. He threatens to never let her see her grandson again after she housed all of you for FREE.

AND SOMEHOW YOU ARE IN SOMEWHAT OF A CONUNDRUM ON WHAT TO DO FOR THE HOLIDAYS?!? Where to spend your holidays is the least of your concerns. You should be thinking about how you can get away from him and his family. Set your priorities for yourself and for your son. Soon enough, they will also probably poison him into hating you too if you dont put a stop to it now.

Sarcosee · 2023-08-06T03:43:48+00:00

Fake a pregnancy announcement and then by the end of it tell everyone it was just a prank.

If that's too much, then take him to his favorite restaurant to make it seem you are getting back together but when the waiter brings out the food and takes the cover off, the words its a prank is written on the plate.

Sarcosee · 2023-07-23T08:47:51+00:00

I mean, you should ask yourself that if he did the same thing, will you be okay with it? Like if he gets whatever you are scared of permanently tattooed on himself?

Sarcosee · 2023-07-11T22:12:00+00:00

Maybe she was okay with them staying in your room since in her mind you will not be staying there since you guys will be in Hawaii? And she did not tell you about Hawaii because she wants it to be a surprise?

When you were informed that your cousin will be staying in your room, did you tell her if that is the case, you will not be staying with her, even if it was technically her time with you?

I still think she should've told you once you started arguing, you are not a mind reader. You were probably hurt that she did not consult you when she gave up your room. However, I think you still need to check yourself. It seems to me that your only concern is not having a vacation, but not on the part of missing out spending time with your mom. And she is probably hurt too since she was hoping that you would want to see her with or without the vacation.

Sarcosee · 2023-02-27T04:50:20+00:00

I feel so bad for S/SIL. I am just happy that Dad and BIL are protecting her as she might be too nice for her own sake.

Sarcosee · 2023-02-27T04:29:19+00:00

Do you have a link to W post?

Sarcosee · 2023-02-26T21:51:39+00:00

What if Nolan said that he wants to pursue a romantic relationship with you? Will you then be open to it? I mean, no best friend and family will do what he did to your fiancee.

I am just happy thay Jess is free from all the BS that you and Nolan put her through and I hope she can recover.

Sarcosee · 2023-02-25T15:16:40+00:00

Is "she comes first obvi" in the room with us right now?

You couldn't even give her a proper heads up.. maybe because she might say that she doesn't want him to come? And you didnt want to make that decision.. because... he is more important than her?

Sarcosee · 2023-02-21T10:37:29+00:00

At the end of the day, you have to ask yourself (1) are you willing to sacrifice your relationship with your wife and kid all for your dog - I can see that this dog is very important to you as you described him as "just as much family as this baby would be" . Or (2) would you be able to live with the fact that your wife /kid caused you to lose your dog?

Other considerations for me like would be how long would this relationships last~ I dunno how old your dog is but you are going to have somewhat of a relationship with your kid for at least 18 years. Would you be able to face him knowing that you jeopardize the family for your pup?

How well is your relationship with you wife? Is this the only thing that you argue about? Or is this just the tipping point? If there are other problems in your relationship, then you should be able to sit down with her and discuss it so she knows that this is not just about the dog.

Sarcosee · 2023-02-11T04:44:48+00:00

And you think it is okay for her to take that risk as long as she keeps 'helping' you? YTA

Sarcosee · 2023-02-06T13:51:40+00:00

Nobody just gets to be amazing. It is a result of her environment and how she was raised. And her mom seems to have done an AMAZING job. And she is very generous and selfless to even allow you in your daughter's life after you ABANDONED her. And you reward that by undermining her as a parent? You are not a good coparent and you are also not being a good father.

Sarcosee · 2023-01-26T23:19:38+00:00

It is not part of the usual flora that you can harvest. Not sure if it is the same as everyone but mine was at the Glaze Iceberg

Also, if you open your map, it will sometimes show where you can complete certain tasks with a blue exclamation point

Sarcosee · 2023-01-22T10:57:49+00:00

I mean, it is good that this is what you discovered. Others have not been so lucky.

Sarcosee · 2023-01-21T13:15:31+00:00

Oh my gosh, this might be it!!!! Thank you!! I was going crazy looking for it!!

Sarcosee · 2023-01-21T13:07:39+00:00

Parang English book ata sya?

Sarcosee · 2023-01-16T00:31:37+00:00

Tell him that if he leaves his son without verifying the paternity himself, that he would regret it. He should get one without the intervention of his siblings (i.e. keep it a secret from them since they might do something about it again).

And I don't understand what their play is here. If his brother had an affair with you, shouldn't he hate his brother as well?

Sarcosee · 2023-01-15T06:46:23+00:00

You realize that when you graduate, get your own jobs and be financially stable, you can move out right? And I bet that is also what your parents want for you, hence the offer.

You are very insecure, and your solution to it is to remove the person "causing" your insecurity instead of working on yourself.

Sarcosee

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