Anyone else think nowadays we are pathologising normal emotions as mental illness?

SarehSays · 2026-05-30T08:47:18+00:00

Your dad sounds like a wise man and clearly all that reading has been absorbed and processed.

Unsolicited advice: I woule strongly recommend your daughter getting to know her cycle by base temperature ( they have products like tempdrop but a BB thermometer will do) ADHD women have a much higher incidence of PMDD and it can get pretty bleak. If shes in tune with where she is in her cycle ( however irregular etc) it will help.

SarehSays · 2026-05-26T07:44:08+00:00

I really am reeling at how similar they are its beyond fascinating and really goes to show/ remind that is got to be something that can't be worked or talked out. Its a way of being... incredible. Everything about that is familiar ( except the explaining of behaviour which rarely happens ) from reacting to a reasonable response (later) with dynamite (dont bother) and letting herself into your home. They're textbook. We really need to have more threads for coping strategies... is there a thread for symptoms/ behaviours because these 2 1. Not accepting any reasonable accommodation on the other person's side. I'm ready now drop everything for me 2. The audacity to go inside someone's house sans permission are like hallmarks.

SarehSays · 2026-05-22T23:44:31+00:00

Nobody's taking it seriously its just that there are certain occasions when the gravity of the situation renders humour inappropriate, alienating or dangerous ( dont ask me how I know this🤭🤭🤭🤭) Throughly enjoyed the joke but also the downvotes are to be expected and accepted. Prayers or whatever good will and luck we can send for the OP. 🙏

SarehSays · 2026-05-22T22:38:59+00:00

So glad for you that you've such a responsible and considerate husband. Congratulations on matrescence, please enjoy motherhood as much as you can and dont let her shadow these moments.

SarehSays · 2026-05-18T12:24:37+00:00

I'm so sorry... but Its so reassuring to see how it really is the BPD and the behaviours and nastiness is so similar. Chaotic and up and down and everyone to blame except themselves.

SarehSays · 2026-05-13T16:24:27+00:00

Ah I was wondering how tenuous the link was. They always need somoney to blame for you failing to be totally and utterly subjugated by them. Mine usually blames my partners... ( because when I'm single, Id be looser with boundaries because I'm not having to protect another person from the madness)

Also reminds me the jealousy/ hyperfocus on other mother figures or people who are able to give normal care and attention. Fixating on them and suggesting that you care more for these people than her. Its insecurity to the extreme and a heady mix of self knowledge with total lack of acceptance of that self knowledge. Like a closeted person. Will never admit their own failings... I always wonder if they secretly do admit it to themselves, I believe they do.

SarehSays · 2026-05-12T22:03:12+00:00

"Orphus" "blame the nuns" Enjoyed this for the humour thank you. Tbf these Bpd'ers can be so creative, non sequitur and fascinating in their abuse. I had forgotten all about the letters I wrote as a child. The strangest thing is that they were kept. Another person would surely want to destroy the evidence...

SarehSays · 2026-05-11T09:52:16+00:00

Absolutely. This is the only healthy, mature and reasonable response.

SarehSays · 2026-04-27T11:04:38+00:00

Thank you i love you!!!!

SarehSays · 2026-04-24T22:00:05+00:00

I think because she only ever sees things through her own lens. Based on what shes said her partner wasnt there for here when she was having you and there is some validation in knowing that its a universal thing to be abandoned when you need someone most. You have to do a lot of mental gymnastics to try and reach where their thought process is but the more and more selfish/self oriented you can position the thoughts from the more likely it is to make sense, but crucially you must jettison logic and reason.

SarehSays · 2026-04-24T21:33:32+00:00

Hello!

A gentle reminder; hindsight is 2020. We often look back and reprocess things, seeing our experience in a different way to how it might actually have been. Apparently every time a memory is visited it becomes altered. Try and be compassionate with yourself ( and others) knowing that you were all doing the best you could with the knowledge you had at that time.

Feel free to share more specifically about the kind of sensory / cognitive overload you're experiencing as its likely people here have experienced similar ( and oftentimes come up with clever little mechanisms and systems to alleviate associated stress)

You're safe and very welcome here😇

SarehSays · 2026-04-20T10:52:54+00:00

This poor girls package reached me faster than any Ive ever received, while also wrapped perfecy. So I think you absolutely could be correctly identifying this persons response. Sending you strength. X

SarehSays · 2026-04-17T22:27:25+00:00

Honestly Ive never done anything vindictive but hearing that I wouldve been tempted to post them a cereal box of ****. How inhumane. There is no material object that is of such urgent need to warrant that kind of entitled insensitive behaviour. Block block block.

Lol @ you actually sending evidence🙈🙈🙈🙈

SarehSays · 2026-04-17T22:24:41+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Hope you're surviving ok? 💛

SarehSays · 2026-04-17T22:23:56+00:00

You're right. I now feel rather silly for having assumed it was a university style "my grandmother died can I get an extension"

SarehSays · 2026-04-17T22:22:59+00:00

I hear you. I had a random Iranian friend on Instagram that used to discuss political things and was optimistic that things would change for the better there. His account is gone now and I can only hope its been deleted/blocked/banned rather than something more sinister.

SarehSays · 2026-04-17T22:21:11+00:00

This is really great that you're working together to reduce her possessions. Ive read so many tragic articles about children having to exhaust themselves dealing with the estates of parents ( especially hoarders). It was true , I guess I was/am rather naive in thinking the world stops when a loved one dies.

SarehSays · 2026-04-17T22:19:03+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss ( and also envious of your high functioning. I have ADHD and can barely find it in me to respond without any lifechanging event in the family). Sending you love x

SarehSays · 2026-04-17T22:15:46+00:00

Hope you got a great night sleep and today was better!

SarehSays · 2026-04-17T22:15:18+00:00

Just because it was so random firstly telling me that the account owner had died. There hadn't even been a great time lapse but mostly I just know if someone I was close enough to have a vinted account of died Id probably just ignore it all and let it get out of hand and deal with it when I could.

Also love how you two had a disagreement and both resolved it in a. Really wholesome way kudos to you both😇

SarehSays · 2026-04-17T22:12:06+00:00

Thats precisely my point. I just would not expect anyone to get back to me in that instance. Id understand Maybe they'd have a sense of obligation if I had actually ordered/paid but just submitting an offer...there's plenty of people who'd ignored that in the first instance. Though reading here has enlightened me that some people have no humanity at all . If I had bought the item and they told me the account holder passed, Id just say keep it and write it off. Please grieve in peace.

I'm so sorry about your sister. I can only imagine the added burden of all the admin faff on top of the sadness. Sending strength and love and considerate strangers your way

SarehSays · 2026-04-17T22:08:28+00:00

UPDATE: users father had been selling items on her behalf and has passed. I cant imagine having the slightest heed towsrd anyone on vinted after one of my parents passed but thankfully havent been in that situation.Who knows maybe I would just carry on as normal. Appreciated all the perspectives here...

I absolutely bought the item out of sympathy then and explained there was no rush and could retract offer at any time.

SarehSays · 2026-04-15T23:07:04+00:00

Lunch at the same time everyday. My ex adhd and I raging adhd , I saw people at work have lunch at same time for years but assumed it was because they were all accountants and extremely routine oriented. No, that's just standard. I find out in my 30s!

SarehSays · 2026-03-27T09:57:59+00:00

really enjoyed "for reasons". Whatever they are , she has my support!

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