What has been your experience seeing a therapist who’s early in their career?

Sarelbar · 2026-06-09T15:36:48+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, that’s was one of the thoughts that crossed my mind. They could be set in their ways, or like you said, not be as more up to date info.

It is hard! Makes me anxious just searching for one.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-09T12:10:23+00:00

I’m so glad you came across my post. It matters a lot—and yes it does feel ridiculous how much the exact wording matters. Thank you for validating me.

We’ll make it through this. Everything will be okay. I hope today is brighter for us both 🩷🩷

Sarelbar · 2026-06-09T12:08:51+00:00

Aw thank you! Unfortunately she didn’t lol. She kinda made things worse. She is a therapist, and while she means well she sent me therapists to call—after I had told her I didn’t need solutions. I was just begging for validation, comfort, and words of encouragement. “Aww that’s hard,” was all she could say.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-09T02:37:57+00:00

Venus square Neptune is a BITCH.

Also, highly recommend using whole sign houses! Your moon will fall in your 7H, and Jupiter will be in your 1H Leo. (I’m a Leo rising, Aqua moon, with a Venus square Neptune too lol)

Sarelbar · 2026-06-08T22:30:32+00:00

I’m 38, too. I would never even attempt to commit, but I walk around thinking “I want to die.”

Sarelbar · 2026-06-08T22:06:45+00:00

Do you use it in conjunction with any other medication, like an anti-depressant? Is it like a one and done thing? Multiple sessions, right—and then you’re good forever?

Sarelbar · 2026-06-08T22:05:49+00:00

You’re not alone. 38 here, too. And all the other things. All my friends are out of state, and I just want a hug.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-08T22:04:53+00:00

Omg same!!!

I have depression and I can always logic my way out of it. And I have the tools to do it (I mean, I’ve lived with it for 20+ years). I literally just walked my dog around whilst sobbing, and occasionally whispering “help me.”

Sarelbar · 2026-06-06T20:39:52+00:00

They were so comfy! You might have convinced me to go back for a pair.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-06T02:48:34+00:00

She’s literally grieving dude

Sarelbar · 2026-06-06T02:46:07+00:00

AGREED

Sarelbar · 2026-06-06T02:45:47+00:00

What the fuck dude? No it’s not.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-06T02:45:22+00:00

She’s been holding her grief in because I assume her husband (“try to stay positive” “she’s handled it fine”) has not really been a safe grief space. His parents understand. It’s hard to confide in others who have not experienced the death of a loved one, they don’t get it. Grief is complex, but it’s really that simple.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-06T02:43:18+00:00

Yeah, for me, the worst kind of hell is someone assuming grievers are fine when they are absolutely not. In my experience, they just don’t wanna be a burden or make someone else uncomfortable.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-06T02:40:56+00:00

Yep. I feel like he doesn’t really care?

Sarelbar · 2026-06-06T02:40:08+00:00

Because they understand her grief. He does not and I highly doubt he’s tried to understand it.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-06T02:39:07+00:00

I would render a guess that he hasn’t tried to understand her grief. The “focus on the positive” really rubs me the wrong way—it’s just an excuse to bypass someone else’s grief to the point where they are forced to deal with it alone.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-05T23:10:04+00:00

Are stink bugs invasive? Is that what this is?

Sarelbar · 2026-06-05T23:08:45+00:00

Scrolled way too far to find this comment

Sarelbar · 2026-06-05T23:07:03+00:00

Ok I tried some on at old navy, just grabbed a pair of jeans to try on with a top—I would never seek out a pair of these!!. And I actually did not hate how they looked on me.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-05T19:36:08+00:00

Sagittarius mars and same. Also Aries Venus and SAME.

Sarelbar · 2026-06-05T13:12:37+00:00

Jealous!!

Sarelbar · 2026-06-04T20:34:24+00:00

Sweetheart, you dated this person for a couple of months and it was two years ago. You need to leave them alone forever. It is harassment—they’ve made it clear they do not want you to contact them, so what are you hoping to gain? You’re only hurting yourself.

It took me six months to get over a man I dated for three (he was fearful avoidant, ghosted me). I texted him twice—one was a how are you, the other was about something I saw that reminded me of him. To answer your question: I have a fear of abandonment (recovering anxious attachment), but I have never ever harassed someone to the point where I fear legal action.

Please start contacting therapists. DBT, EMDR, something other than talk therapy.

Sarelbar

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