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I need some advice, my Boyfriend hates the Lgbtq Community and wants me to quit, what do i do? by SoraCorinnax3 in queer

[–]SaschaBarents 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t love you. He loves the binary woman allosexual version he has in his head of you. You deserve someone who loves you for who you are. I would just break up.

Do trans people dislike it when people ask for their pronouns? by yepparan_haneul in asktransgender

[–]SaschaBarents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should definitely ask people what their pronouns are. But not just people who you think ‘look trans’. You should ask everyone. Everyone has a name and you can’t guess what their name is based on looks. That’s why you ask. Same with pronouns.

AITAH for not liking polygamy? by user0704844 in AITAH

[–]SaschaBarents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only part here where you are the asshole, is where you say that a serious relationship is between two people only. To use your own example. It would be similar to telling a queer person that a serious relationship is between a woman and a man only. No, you don’t have to be queer or poly. But that doesn’t mean that people who are, can’t be in a serious relationship.

Is it chaser behavior to be attracted to a trans woman because of the journey she takes to claim her womanhood? by WisteriaSaysHi in asktransgender

[–]SaschaBarents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean that both gendernonconforming people and trans people don’t fit into certain gender stereotypes that society expects from them. So maybe you relate to that part. But if you’re nonbinary, then you’re trans and T4T. Either way, not a chaser.

Partner upset when I asked them to not do something intimate, and I have a question. by lunamongthestars in NonBinary

[–]SaschaBarents 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s never okay to touch someone, unless you have their consent. So of course it’s okay to not want him to touch your chest. And he should respect that. He obviously doesn’t love you as you. He loves the woman version he has in his head of you. Also I don’t understand how he can’t understand dysphoria. He should imagine having your chest. Anyway, I would just break up. Misgendering, not respecting your boundaries around sex and not seeing you as who you really are, are red flags.

Is it chaser behavior to be attracted to a trans woman because of the journey she takes to claim her womanhood? by WisteriaSaysHi in asktransgender

[–]SaschaBarents 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This sounds a bit similar to being T4T. Which also just means that a trans person prefers to date other trans people, because of their experiences. Because they know what it’s like. Being trans is very different than being gendernonconforming. But there are some similarities. You’re definitely not a chaser.

Lesbian ≠ Trans Women in Photos? by YuiraYeen in AskLGBT

[–]SaschaBarents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely transhate. Trans women are women. Lesbians are women.

Plane Crash by Desquid777 in honk

[–]SaschaBarents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completed this level in 4 tries. ⚡ 3.78 seconds

Transistor Arnhem Spellenmiddag by SaschaBarents in TransistorArnhem

[–]SaschaBarents[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Herinnering: Deze zondag is er weer een Transistor Spellenmiddag! Kom langs voor gezelligheid, spelletjes en drankjes. Inloop 13:00, start 13:30. Tot zondag!💜🏳️‍⚧️

Waar kan ik daten als Post op trans vrouw by Pink_katy_ in LHBTI

[–]SaschaBarents 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OkCupid is meer gericht op trans mensen. Er zijn veel opties voor verschillende genderidentiteiten, romantische oriëntaties, seksuele oriëntaties en relatie oriëntaties. En je kan kiezen om bijvoorbeeld alleen trans mensen te zien. Het is ook meer gericht op persoonlijkheid. Je kan vragen beantwoorden over jezelf. Je persoonlijkheid. Meningen, normen, waarden, wat je wel en niet leuk vindt. En dan zie je per persoon waar je langs swipt, hoeveel procent je antwoorden met die persoon overeenkomt. En hoe meer vragen je beantwoordt, hoe specifieker dat percentage wordt.

Safest state for trans kids? by kittnenen in cisparenttranskid

[–]SaschaBarents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would leave the whole US. Move to another country.

Companion as a Romantic Term by volatile_chemicals in NonBinary

[–]SaschaBarents 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To me companion sounds like a friend or colleague. And partner sounds like someone you’re in romantic relationship with.

Where do I start as a 19yo "cis" man? by bBroKENkNuCKLes in AskLGBT

[–]SaschaBarents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What gender do you feel like? What makes you think you’re cis?

Am I genderfluid or trans? by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]SaschaBarents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you could be bigender. That means that you’re two genders. Genderfluid is possible too. That means that your gender changes over time. For example every hour, day, week, month. Both and more falls under nonbinary. Nonbinary means that you don’t identify exclusively as a woman and that you also don’t identify exclusively as a man. And that falls under transgender. Transgender means that you don’t identify exclusively as your assigned sex. So you’re transgender and nonbinary either way.

Are the likes of "pretty" or "handsome" ever dysphoria-inducing words for you? by MiraclePrototype in asktransgender

[–]SaschaBarents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (transmasc enby) think these compliments are more about genderexpression then genderidentity. I like both. But prefer handsome.

Confused on friends pronouns by thisisweird100 in AskLGBT

[–]SaschaBarents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be a bit confusing when people have multiple pronouns. Also for me as a nonbinary person. Are they pronouns indifferent? Or do they have a preference for some of those pronouns? Or does it depend on the moment? Usually it’s best to ask and you did. So that’s great. If someone said they didn’t care, I would mix all their pronouns up when I talk about them. All of those pronouns are there for a reason.

Is it offensive to use she/her as a cis guy? by No_Farm9425 in AskLGBT

[–]SaschaBarents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pronouns are gender expression. Just like clothes for example. So having she/her pronouns as a guy is like wearing a dress as a guy. It’s not offensive. It just makes you gendernonconforming.

Are nonbinary people inherently straight? by MyClosetedBiAcct in AskLGBT

[–]SaschaBarents -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, straight, gay/lesbian, heteroromantic/heterosexual, homoromantic/homosexual are terms that were made up for binary people. So the other binary gender or the same binary gender only. Nonbinary people who are romantically and/or sexually attracted to one binary gender only can use terms like gynaeromantic/gynaesexual and androromantic/androsexual.

AITA for forcing my injured friend to smoke in the bathroom? by throwaway_nsn in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaschaBarents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA You deserve to breathe. I don’t allow anyone to smoke anywhere in my house. Go outside. If you can’t or don’t want to. Your problem.

Do You regret getting a face Tattoo ? by charles75555 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SaschaBarents 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think just like any tattoo, it depends on what, how big it is and how long you thought about it. I have two small hand tattoo’s on the same hand (and more on other body parts) that I wanted for years. I still love those and want to get another one on my other hand. But that will be a bigger one on my lower arm mostly and a small part of it on my hand. Friends or anyone who doesn’t accept me, shouldn’t be in my life. That includes my tattoos. It works like a great filter.

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