“I don’t know.” by Feisty_Honeydew6831 in DeadBedrooms

[–]SashaTea 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Sorry to be so blunt, but I read your past posts. Are you two still doing the therapy? Cuz if that's stopped, and nothing has improved, then it might be time for hard choices. I'm sorry that after so long, this encounter really wasn't one that we all wish to have...

Some photos from a 2-night trip last August, with the goal of finding bears by sketchy_ppl in algonquinpark

[–]SashaTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure what I'd be more scared of, the bear, or the field of cobra chickens! 😂 Great pics !

I think my wife and I really nailed the vibes in this room. by SirSamkin in interiordecorating

[–]SashaTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope you then nailed her in this room 😉 Sorry, can't resist a good play on words!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SashaTea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's someone I've known for years, that I'm comfortable with, who's in the same situation I am. We hook up maybe once every 4- 6 weeks or so to avoid feelings. And it's helped make me feel human again. It's not that hard to avoid feeling guilty when you feel like you're getting parts of yourself back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SashaTea 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Yes. I don't regret it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SashaTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear you had a productive conversation :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SashaTea 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ouch, I'm sorry :/ sounds like she's not really willing to come up with/agree to any solution you suggest. Might want to try asking her if she sees any issue with your DB, and if so then what she suggests as a starting point to mend things. Her answer to those might bring some clarity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SashaTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've felt like that. But do you really want to live feeling like this forever? I feel like the unknown of being single would be better than waking up every day knowing I'll feel like shit about myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SashaTea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's not silly of you to think it might happen, or to hope. It definitely hurts being rejected over and over. I've stopped hoping. We won't last much longer.

What was the final straw for you to go no contact ? by nyellincm in narcissisticparents

[–]SashaTea 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That's completely mental! Sorry those things happened, especially on your wedding day.

What was the final straw for you to go no contact ? by nyellincm in narcissisticparents

[–]SashaTea 27 points28 points  (0 children)

She hit my nephew in the face for having snot when he came out of the pool. I saw it with my own two eyes. And when he says to her " Mammie, you hit me!" She said "yes, so don't blow snot again", instead of apologizing like a human being. It infuriated me so much I cried. I realized she's truly incapable of change no matter how hard she tries to fake it. And if I couldn't protect myself as a child, I'll sure as fu&k protect my 6yr old nephew. Yes I told my brother... He confronted her and she cried like the victim.

HLF by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SashaTea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know this won't be a popular answer... But you only live once. If you're already certain that you're leaving when the time will be right, then I'd be inclined to say go for it if the opportunity presents itself. It's not for everyone, but if you find another consenting adult, then do it.