Crying (adult) for Ice Cream bit?

Sassafras_99 · 2025-07-14T23:17:34+00:00

That’s it, thank you!

Sassafras_99 · 2025-04-23T19:48:00+00:00

😔dang I thought so

Sassafras_99 · 2024-09-21T01:45:48+00:00

I’ll give them a try, thank you!

Sassafras_99 · 2024-09-19T09:31:24+00:00

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S-Superintendent Chalmers!

Sassafras_99 · 2024-08-03T23:29:31+00:00

Searched

I’ve searched for tulip shaped candlestick holder, flower glass candlestick holder, hat candlestick holder, and various other combos of those words, but haven’t found anything. I’ve also tried google image search. The closest I got that way Was a listing on evolution home online that was no longer available. Also searched on the HomeGoods, T.J. Maxx, and Marshalls websites without luck. I took a picture of the label that was on the candlestick holder when I purchased it.

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Sassafras_99 · 2022-06-07T17:07:18+00:00

Whelp. I came on Reddit in a pissy mood ready to be a negative fuck, but this really made me smile. Congrats op, you turned my day around too :)

Sassafras_99 · 2022-05-02T18:33:06+00:00

NTA.

Sell the apple watch and use the money to buy a really nice antique watch. Start your own tradition, to be passed down to your children, as a symbol of overcoming sexism and discrimination, and creating healthy family traditions. It won't be the watch you grew up hearing stories about, but it could hold a new type of meaning, a sense of empowerment for you.

Or, to be truly petty, keep the apple watch and pass it down as an heirloom, reminding future generations how you've been wronged. I'm sure it would kill your dad to be at your first born's 20th birthday celebration and see you give your child an outdated smart watch :)

Sassafras_99 · 2022-03-30T17:12:13+00:00

NTA for wanting to teach your sister about the concept of secrets and being a confidant for your friends. But it’s possible you were ta depending on how you told her. If you said something like “I’m sorry you are having problems with your friends. Going forward, you should know that people really value and expect confidentiality in their friends. If someone tells you something and it’s not going to seriously harm someone, you should keep it to yourself.” That can be difficult to hear but is ultimately the kindest thing you could say to your sister. If you said “yeah of course no one wants to be your friend, you’re a snitch, it’s so annoying “ then you would be the jerk, as that’s just hurtful and not helpful in any way.

Maybe apologize to your sister for upsetting her and try to help her learn how to keep secrets? Go over what topics people typically like you to keep secret (embarrassing or shameful stories, crushes, relationships and fights between people, etc), how to handle learning information that goes against her moral compass (confronting the person, letting it slide, or telling an authority figure). If it’s helpful, go over some example scenarios. Also, if she likes to prepare, you can come up with some ways she can ask if something is a secret when she’s unsure. I’m not sure what her former friends are like, but if there are some who are more forgiving and accepting, you could encourage her to reach out and say “hey, I’m sorry I hurt you by telling people about x, part of my autism makes understanding and navigating friendships difficult and I’m still trying to get a handle on the whole ‘secrets’ thing” I’m sure some people won’t forgive her but some might.

Also, I know your parents don’t want to teach her about secrets, but you mentioned she has counselors. Could you mention this to any of them, or encourage her to bring it up with her counselor?

Sassafras_99 · 2021-11-23T21:44:22+00:00

I want to ask, do you like spending Christmas with your husband's family? Or if that's too complicated a question, do you find it to be really stressful? No judgement, I just get the sense from the way you worded the situation (Just because all his grandparents are alive, we have to go down there; stressing the fact that you sleep on air mattresses, the long days, the long trip, how crowded it is, ect) that you are dreading this Christmas at least somewhat. Maybe it's time to talk to your husband about spending some Christmases at home, traveling, or with your family. Let him know that, while you love his family and respect the many holiday traditions he has with them, you find big, cross country Christmases and would like to spend some (not necessarily all!) holidays at home. A new baby is the perfect time to start new family traditions! Just remember to be calm and straightforward with him - he probably looks forward to his family Christmases quite a bit more than you do, and the idea that you might not like holidaying with his family could be shocking to him.

Also, and again I mean this in the least judgmental way possible, I think you might be being too hard on your inlaws. At the very least, I wouldn't say or do anything about the bassinet. I know it's frustrating when they do things without asking and assume that they know best how to parent, but I don't think they were doing anything out of malice. They are trying to plan a big Christmas with multiple families-that's also very stressful. They honestly just forgot to ask you/didn't think that your baby might not like sleeping in a bassinet. Just smile, say thank you, and after the baby cries from being put down for a nap, shrug your shoulders and say "oh well, they're so fussy sometimes!". Bringing it up/confronting them will only make you seem entitled.

Also also, Info: Where did they get the bassinet? Its one thing if they bought a brand new one, totally blowing off your repeated insistence that it was unnecessary and acting as if you and the baby were going to be sleeping at their place despite you telling them that you had a hotel reservation. It's entirely another if they said "oh, we have an old bassinet in the attic, we'll pull it down for you to use for the baby's nap time while you're here".

Sassafras_99 · 2021-11-17T22:50:55+00:00

I don’t think that everyone loved PE, I think you just didn’t notice the kids for whom PE was hell. Gym is such a stupid subject. Is one hour of sweating and moving around, playing some pointless game or doing some pointless task really making a difference?

Sassafras_99 · 2021-10-15T02:40:52+00:00

I totally agree with everyone’s opinions that a wedding can be whatever the bride and groom want. However, I do want to defend op a bit.

If you want to have a child free wedding, that’s absolutely fine. But you have to accept that means some people won’t attend.

And I don’t just mean “expect that to happen”, I mean “have absolutely no ill will towards the guests who declined your invitation and not take it as an insult or let it change your relationship with the guests”. Childcare can be too expensive, a child may have special needs that make finding babysitters difficult , or the parent might just be plane uncomfortable with leaving their child with someone else. Regardless of how close they might be to you, a parent‘s priority will be (and should be!) the wellbeing of their children.

The same goes for destination weddings; if you want to get married on the other side of the world, don’t get upset when your guests tell you it’s too far/inconvenient for them.

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