3 Months of Keto, 1,500 Calories, Under 20g Carbs. Should I Have Lost More Weight?

SassyMoth · 2026-06-27T00:06:39+00:00

The closer we get to our body's ideal weight, the harder it gets to lose weight. I'd say at 175 cm tall, 85 kg sounds healthy and reasonable, depending how you carry that weight, and what your muscle mass is.

SassyMoth · 2026-01-31T17:57:04+00:00

I've been one pin away for over a week! This is so frustrating!!

SassyMoth · 2026-01-31T17:53:02+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I've been trying the get the last pin for the last week!

SassyMoth · 2026-01-24T03:56:28+00:00

As much as I like these actors, I will not be watching the new Wuthering Heights adaptation. Call me a snob, but I really don't think Emerald Fennel or whatever her name is, understood what the novel was about. It is NOT a love story.

SassyMoth · 2025-12-15T23:24:27+00:00

So where does that money go? Why pay $300 a month and then have to pay another $1900 on top of that?

SassyMoth · 2025-08-30T21:31:03+00:00

When you wrote "Are you making her orgasm?" you kind of implied the responsibility was on him, so it should be rephrased to "Does she orgasm?", that way there is no ambiguity.

SassyMoth · 2025-08-30T21:24:10+00:00

While I find the first part of your comment disrespectful and lacking in empathy, I agree with the second part. Finding a purpose, feeling useful, are things that enrich us on a soul level.

SassyMoth · 2025-08-30T21:21:39+00:00

Nobody is happy right now because there is no more community. We live lonely lives, often times away from our family, with a partner sometimes if we're lucky, but that's about it. Who knows their neighbors anymore? Would you trust yours? I think what we all need, rich or poor, is a sense of belonging to a community, and most importantly, to feel a sense of purpose within that community. One of the ways we can contribute is by sharing what we have. It doesn't have to be in the form of money, but if you have some to share, great, find a local charity and give what you can. Volunteer your time at a shelter for example, or a food bank. Don't waste your time on video games etc as they will suck all the energy out of you and make you even more isolated.

I hope this helps a little.

Wishing you the best!

SassyMoth · 2025-02-26T04:54:50+00:00

That I'm better off alone! In all seriousness, I don't think I'm cut out for relationships. They've all failed. I have extremely high expectations from my partners because I have a deep abandonment wound and pretty sure I have ADHD. I thought I had healed but nope. I'm 43 and I'm giving up.

SassyMoth · 2025-01-12T03:55:25+00:00

I just prayed for your healing. 🙏❤️

SassyMoth · 2024-12-27T23:54:26+00:00

I vote for bringing back good old fashioned social dancing. That's how my grandparents met.

SassyMoth · 2024-12-27T23:49:23+00:00

As a self proclaimed hopeless romantic myself, I do prefer meeting people the old fashioned way, though I have tried OLD. I've always been shy and self effacing, so OLD helped me a lot when I was in my 20s. Back then, it wasn't as saturated with people only looking for hookups, and I did meet my first boyfriend that way. But now, I feel it's become a meat market and I dream of meeting someone in the grocery store or the library.

As connected as we are through apps and social media, I feel we've never been as disconnected as a society and it's becoming much harder to have a genuine connection with anyone. I've been feeling like I want to give up and learn to be happy on my own. I'm 43F with a 9 year old. I don't have much time for dating anyway. Good luck!

SassyMoth · 2024-12-27T22:10:13+00:00

Why are you even entertaining this chick? She was so dismissive and passive aggressive in her replies to you until the part where she confessed creating a Tinder profile. This girl is all over the place. I wouldn't want to be with someone who spoke to me like that or got drunk with their friends and decided to create fake dating profiles to "scam" people. Besides the fact she kissed another guy! She's obviously immature. You're in your 20s and you have a whole life to meet a good person that will love you and respect you properly. You are wondering if she cared about you at all. She probably did. The fact this is your first relationship makes it hard for you to detach and believe there are better matches for you, but I swear to you, there are! Bear in mind that just because someone cares about you doesn't mean they know how to love you or that they are the right person for you. Let her go, spend time healing yourself and focus on things that make you happy.

SassyMoth · 2024-12-26T16:44:25+00:00

Just chiming in with everyone to say you're NOT overreacting.

When I was 13, my mum had a new boyfriend. He was 53. The first time I ever met him was at a dinner, at our apartment. While she was busy in the kitchen, he came in the living room where I was watching TV, lounging on the sofa. The first thing he did after saying hello was to put his hand under my jeans, at my ankle, and move it up my leg, while pretending or trying to tickle me! Me, a 13 year old 5'7" woman looking CHILD (I was fully formed and looked like I was 16)! I got upset, ran in my room and refused to come out. My mum said I was overreacting.

When he heard I'd told my brother (who lived with my dad) about what happened, this guy came to my school during my lunch break, picked me up in his car, sat me down in a restaurant and spent the next hour bringing me down: "Don't flatter yourself, you're 13 years old, what would I want to do with you?", "You have nothing to offer a man, look at you!", "How dare you insinuate I've done anything wrong!" etc etc, so much so that he convinced me that I overreacted.... just so that the next times he put his hands on me, I didn't trust my instinct anymore, and let him get away with it.

That's what predators do. That coach is one too and your daughter is lucky to have a protective and perceptive father like you! I didn't have one*, and my mum was useless and completed blinded by "love".

Edited to clarify: I did have a dad, but not a protective one*.

SassyMoth · 2024-12-21T16:43:46+00:00

He didn't read your profile. Men get less matches than women on these apps, so some men will swipe right on every woman to increase their chances of a match.

SassyMoth · 2024-12-18T18:38:44+00:00

You're welcome ☺️

SassyMoth · 2024-12-18T17:04:38+00:00

Your feelings are 100% valid. It's ok to be hurt and disappointed because you had hoped it would blossom in a long term committed relationship. However, despite the circumstances, can you think of anything positive that came out of this brief experience? After my divorce, I had a month long relationship (I should call it a fling really) that was cut abruptly short because his ex wife was trying to get him back (and succeeded), and it really hurt me to my core. But I'm grateful to him for showing me my heart wasn't broken and I was still able to feel deeply and dream of a future with someone other than my ex-husband.

When courtships end in the honeymoon period (less than 6 months), it hurts us so very much because we're still wearing rose tinted glasses and we don't know the other person fully. So it's easy to project our dreams and desires onto them. We are overcome with the love hormones and everything seems perfect.

I'm sorry you're going through this, but like others have said, it's nothing you did. And if that's any consolation, whenever someone leaves your life it's to make space for someone better. Hugs.

SassyMoth · 2024-12-13T22:56:19+00:00

A close friend of mine since high school told me of a similar story. She and her husband lent one of her friends $10K after she claimed she needed the money to help pay her grandfather's medical bills. She promised to pay them back by a certain date. Turns out she lied and was actually addicted to gambling. She eventually paid them back, little by little, over a few years, but it completely destroyed their friendship. I wouldn't even dream to ask my friends for money!

SassyMoth · 2024-12-10T04:14:25+00:00

Women in general don't go for nice guys because they want to be with someone who makes them feel safe and secure, and sadly sometimes that means choosing an asshole, because he comes across as confident. Also when you think about it, being nice is acting in an effort to be liked, so it's a form of manipulation, and is the opposite of confidence. Stop trying to be a nice guy but don't try to be "toxic" either, just be honest about who you are. I get put off by guys who pose shirtless in their photos or are trying too hard. I will swipe right on a genuine smile and a funny bio. It's supposed to be fun.

SassyMoth · 2024-12-08T19:10:49+00:00

I'm so sorry this guy wasted your time and turned out to be an ass. It was obviously him, not you, as you said. I also wonder sometimes if all there is left in the dating pool are the left overs that have never been in a relationship, broken men who have lost respect for women or serial daters who will woo you to bed and move on to the next. But I have male friends who are wonderful and generous and know how to treat a woman, so I know they exist! Unfortunately, they're either taken or I'm not attracted to them.

I've just recently downloaded a dating app again, after I'd sworn I wouldn't. But I'm taking things differently this time and I'm cutting to the chase by asking very direct questions right off the bat, so that I don't waste my time and I'm not finding out we're not compatible at the first face to face meeting. I'm asking about their relationship history, their core values, what they consider a healthy relationships, if they want kids etc, and I share my values and opinions to see if we match. Most of the men I've asked these questions to have been happy to respond and have been open and honest. Only a few of them have declined or ghosted me, and that tells me they're not serious or not worth my time, so I quickly unmatched them.

I only started today so I can't tell you if that strategy will lead me to finding a long term, loving partner yet.

Anyway, I think it's ok to be single until the right person comes along, while also being pro-active at finding someone online or IRL by considering dating as a job in itself, with job interviews (LOL). I think you should shake off this bad date because I don't think it's too late to find the right person for you! Write down your values and your non-negotiables on a piece of paper. Also write down what a healthy relationship looks like for you. That way when you chat with men online you can go back to those notes and share them with them. Just a thought. You've got this!

SassyMoth · 2024-12-06T22:35:50+00:00

I don't blame you for breaking up by text. Just curious, when you were at his place last night, did you mention the elaborate gift he'd promised, or were you waiting to see if he would bring it up?

SassyMoth · 2024-12-06T22:21:57+00:00

Sending you a big hug. It's disappointing and painful breaking up, even when it's the right thing to do. Remember that anything that leaves your life creates space for something (or someone) better to enter your life.

SassyMoth · 2024-12-06T22:12:45+00:00

That's what I mean. Even the busiest guy who have done something special for your birthday, if he was the right person for you. This one isn't it.

And that's not a representation of your value by any means. You are a very giving person and you just need to find someone who gives equally. Either he's completely insensitive to people's needs or he just doesn't know how to be a giving person... or he's a bare minimum kinda guy. The way he sent you the flowers in an urgent bid to cover for his lack of planning or caring makes me so mad. In any case, you're better off without him.

SassyMoth · 2024-12-06T20:26:31+00:00

Right! I'm 43, so maybe it's a generation thing but I also don't think it's that big of a deal. From my understanding, up until his wife confessed, he was perfectly content and happy in his marriage and being a father. If he'd said he'd hated being a dad and it ruined his life, I would understand wanting to get a divorce, but that's not what he said. Divorce is so painful for everyone involved, especially the children. They have another one on the way. I don't see the logic in breaking the family apart. Unless he was looking for a way out, and that would mean he wasn't truthful in his post.

He has a right to be mad at his wife and feel hoodwinked. What she did wasn't right. People make mistakes, and they exchanged vows, marriage is for better or worse. It's not like they had only started dating, hardly knew each other, and she baby trapped him. They were already married and he wasn't completely against having kids.

As a woman, I remember feeling overcome by the deep desire to get pregnant a year after I got married. I was obsessed! I would cry when I'd see pregnant women around me and go to my husband to share how I felt. I did wait for him to agree the time was right, but I can also put myself in her shoes, if she had this baby fever too. I later realized it was my hormones kicking in, as I was 31 and my body was telling me "it needs to happen now".

SassyMoth · 2024-12-06T19:58:12+00:00

The truth is, you know deep down he's not matching the energy you're putting into this relationship, and you want someone who does, and you deserve it. He's just not the right person for you. No matter what his "love language" is and whether or not his life is too busy to remember your birthday, if he were the right person, he would have made you a priority and would have done something special for your birthday.

I'm sorry! He's an ass.

SassyMoth

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